Fucking stupid people

[knittedbreast]

They have only gone and burnt down 50k worth of play equiptment at the local play park.

Thanks

Why?

Oko

Retard seems to be a less unacceptable word in the US (or rather I've heard it often on all manner of US TV programmes).

Perhaps that's why knitted and her and her friends think it's OK.

If she was apologising because she realised she was wrong, I think people would have let it go. But she apologised because she had offended people and defiantly argued that it's not wrong to use the word 'retard' in the manner that she did - because she's 25 and everyone uses that word.

I'm 23, and yes I have seen that word used a lot when I was growing up. I don't recall a time ever using the word, but maybe I did when I was younger and more ignorant, I don't remember. But since becoming an adult, I've never thought it was okay to use that word, I've felt offended when other people use it and I've understood why some words shouldn't be said even if "everyone else is doing it".

All the other 23 year olds on my Facebook babble on about how they were "fraped" and "what an awesome frape that was" etc, and I think it's dreadful and would never think, "Ah, the word rape obviously isn't as serious as it used to be, all the other kids are using it so why shouldn't I!"

joni, I think it's just something in which you practise good grace. Everybody understands and accepts that you don't mean offence if you say you don't and apologise. It's clear where the op's ire was directed. But if you learn that your behaviour/language is offensive to the majority, you just adapt when it's easy to do so. It's the polite thing to do in shared society. What is offensive is continuing to defend the use of the word.

Idiot perhaps has changed in usage. Lots of words have. But clearly retard hasn't lost its power to offend and the remedy is easy. You no longer use it, job done.

"People can help being a 'twat'."

Well - sometimes I'm not sure about that - some people like my exH I think were born like it

and the op is a mother passing this on to her own dc

we arent in America

I rather think they should have named the clumsy Transformer Dyspraxion

Interesting that the OP thinks the word retard is not used to indicate kids with SN.

The piss ignorant parent at school that calls my kids retards has obviously not been informed of that. And yes my kids do have additional needs.

I think you'll find it's becoming an offensive term in America now too.

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Blimey Maryz no, it doesn't make it ok.

I was just trying to understand how the offensiveness of the word appears to have passed knitted by.

Ahh... when an AIBU backfires...

OMG Knitted! Acid? Where on earth do you live and people do this type of thing?

i just love it when my child gets called a retard...........not, grow up op you ballsed up stop defending the word. there is no defense

i already apologised if other people found offence to it

Sorry OP, but your snarky apology has just made it worse. There is no 'if': people are definitely offended so please just give a straight apology without qualification.

And much as I sympathise over the original issue in your OP, your use of the word 'retard' was horrible and your arguments in defence of the usage feeble in the extreme. I accept you were not thinking of or meaning to insult people with sn when you said it, but there really is no intellectual argument to defend use of 'retard' as an insult. Sometimes you just need to accept fault graciously.

Oh dear :(

Exactly Eldritch. It's like me teaching my dd it's okay for her to kick as long as she apologises if it hurts.

I can't believe that people put acid on a slide in a park that's just appalling.

OP, repeat after me: "Oh, it's offensive? I'm sorry, I didn't realise. I won't use the word again".

HTH.

Maryz - at risk of revealing desperate levels ofignorance, don't get 'knacker', why it's offensive? I suspect your little darlings might be related to the ones who nicked dd and her friend's sleds in the park. dp spent ages finding replacements, leaving me (disabled) desperate for lav til he returned. Hope their hideous 'parents' had as good an afernoon as we did. Gits.

that read like Maryz was OP, sorry. I meant Knitteds little darlings

To be honest I really think this got out of hand now. As far as I'm concerned, she apologised and then made a rather cack handed explaination as to why she uses the word.

And before anybody says I don't understand special needs issues, my DP is disabled.

dont worry alice :)