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to not want relatives with cold sores kissing our baby.

111 replies

chrispt · 02/04/2011 23:46

I asked my wife whether we should talk to her sister about kissing DS. She does a playful kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss-kiss all over him which makes him laugh. she never kisses him when cold sores are showing but i know you can catch them without a visible outbreak.

Am i being unreasonable to not want my son to be afflicted with this?
Am i being unreasonable to not want to catch an STI from my own son?!?

Argh!

OP posts:
rockinhippy · 03/04/2011 20:55

Jeez is this STILL going on Shock COLD SORES ARE NOT STIs - the Clue is in the S it stands for SEXUALLLY

some if the ignorance on this thread is seriously disturbing Shock & is not helping the OP gain a reasoned attitude

Mmmmm - I wonder how the thread might take a turn if it turns out the OP is actually a disgruntled Dad trying to find dirt to throw at his ex ?? - just a thought for those of you with some serious issues around germsHmm - not that is SHOULD make a difference of course, but I wonder Grin

slightly off topic, but relevant due to some of the hysterical & inaccurate replies on here Shock - We live in a world FULL of Viruses & Bacteria, you CANNOT avoid them, even for a new born, & you would be doing your baby no favours if you did, because THAT is how we all gain our immunity

If you think Cold Sores are so scary, look at some of the others - streptococcus for example is on & in EVERYONE of us & everywhere we touch or go - you CANNOT avoid it - & chances are it will not do you any harm, bar maybe a sore throat, its a very harmless bacteria - unless you 1 of a tiny percentage who are unlucky enough for it to become something serious, such as Septiceamia - then if you are lucky after a serious illness & hospitalisation you might eventually recover, but will never be quite the same again - if not you might lose a limb - or DIE!!

So what are you going to do, live your life in a Bubble?? - of course not

Scaremongering & Nuts, pure Nuts Hmm

rockinhippy · 03/04/2011 20:58

Milly, don't you think the SIL & the Mother THEMSELVES would care???? & therefore IF it WAS the Genital type the OP would have noting to post about??? Hmm

MillyR · 03/04/2011 21:01

Rockinhippy, not sure what point you are making. Are you claiming that people cannot get oral herpes from having oral sex, or are you claiming that people cannot get genital herpes from oral sex?

Which one of these are you claiming is misinformation?
Or do you think that oral sex isn't really sex, so if you transmit an infection in this way, it isn't an STI?

rockinhippy · 03/04/2011 21:09

its quite clear Milly - if you had half a brain cell of course Hmm

you really do need to get a grip & stop scaremongering with your poor understanding of the facts in your own links

CBA wasting any more time on you, I just hope the OP is a tad brighter than yourself & reads the info in the links CORRECTLY & also realises, that regardless, Herpes SIMPLEXHmm is everywhere & like many many germs it just cannot be avoided, so he's going to drive himself nuts if he doesn't lighten up & take a more reasoned approach - yourself too for that matter Hmm

MillyR · 03/04/2011 21:14

RH, yes it quite clear. There is a herpes simplex virus; it has a type 1 and a type 2. Both types can cause blisters on the genitals and the mouth. Both types can be transmitted to the mouth through kissing or oral sex, and both types can be transmitted to the genitals through oral sex.

Blood tests given at STI clinics will tell you whether or not you have herpes simplex, but they do not tell you if it is type 1 or type 2.

I really do not see what the controversy is over that.

thumbwitch · 04/04/2011 11:11

Because Milly, herpes simplex can also be transmitted without sex being involved at all, AND without having the unfortunate exchange of blood that is involved with being infected with the other infections you mentioned.

Simple skin to skin contact can transfer Herpes simplex (cold sores) - a bit like chicken pox, in fact - that's not an STI either.

reallytired · 04/04/2011 11:20

I assume this child is a pfb.

It think there are more issues going on here than just herpes. It sounds like the OP has issues with her sil.

I think that the OP sil is already taking precautions an the OP is being over the top.

I hate to tell you that herpes often gets passed round nursery/ reception classroom.

AuntieMaggie · 04/04/2011 12:35

No I'm not saying that mothers should not kiss their newborns, but I wouldn't want other people kissing my newborn not just because of this but for a vareity of reasons.

buttonmooncup · 04/04/2011 13:39

I'm sure I read that if the mother has the virus then the child would be immune.

AuntieMaggie · 04/04/2011 14:15

Yes thats true. But if they get their first cold sore during the last few weeks of pregnancy the baby may not be.

harassedinherpants · 04/04/2011 14:16

Just putting in my two pennies worth!

Dh and dsd both get cold sores, so I assume dsd caught it from dh or dh from his ex.....no idea tbh. Anyway, dh and I have dd who's nearly 5, well kissed by her father (as am I Grin!) and neither of us caught it.

Dh and dsd don't kiss dd if they have sores, simple.

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