To ask DH how we're going to handle MIL's smoking

[HormonalANDLivid]

Long story cut short. 36 weeks pregnant and just had BLAZING row with DH about his DM's smoking. AIBU in expecting him to intervene if she turns up stinking of smoke and expecting a cuddle off baby? Apparently, I'm just being a hypothetical drama queen - granted I'm hormonal, but I really don't want my DD curled up breathing in stale cigarette smoke that according to DH will be non-existant. He says MIL is not stupid - she's not - and I know she won't smoke in the same room as baby, but what if she has one on the way over to visit??? Somebody detached please provide me with sound advice. AIBU???? Seeing red, pacing the floor and still spoiling for a row, me.

I had this problem when I was expecting my now 19 week old ds with my mother. in the end I told her no cuddles until she gave up as it was killing her and I wanted her around for her DGS and would hurt him. que 2 weeks of stomping metaphorically not a fag since! may work might not

Never heard this thing about washing hands before cuddling or coming near babies before.

I despise the smell of smoke and hate it near me, but have never got precious about smokers being near DC, as long as they don't have a cigarete in their hand.

The urge to (over)protect babies is a perfectly natural one. If we were having one right now I'd be thinking about a 5 mile exclusion zone with no one allowed in who had ever been ill, smoked or drunk alcohol. :)

At some point though you have to think about relative risk (no pun intended). If you want zero risk then you shouldn't go near the baby yourself. That way lies madness.
It would probably be safer to move to the Island of Sark where they don't have cars belching poisons, but I don't see a rush to do so.

YANBU