...to be angry about teenage Mum

[ftm42]

Another rant on the teenage pregnancy issue: [and I'm waiting for the flack] - our house is next door to a hostel for homeless singles / families and teenage mums. One of the teenager's own mother lives just round the corner. Why isn't she living with her mum instead of taking up a place that would be better for a 'genuine' case.

Her Mum visits daily and they walk up to her Mum's house to spend the day or go shopping, so she obviously has a good relationship with her. Her Mum's house is a big one [she's got several kids] so there's no reason why she should be using a room next door that someone else must need so much more? I know her Mum to chat to and she is very proud [sic] of her daughter and grandchild, but why can't she support her daughter responsibly instead of abusing the system?

You have no idea and cannot possibly speculate as to whether she is a genuine case or not. Just because this girl appears to have a good relationship with her mother does not automatically mean that living with her mother is suitable for the girl and unborn child...the other children may have additional needs, or it may not be a safe environment for a baby for any multitude of reasons that YOU do not know about.

One thing I can quiet clearly tell you is that living in a hostel is no bloody picnic....I was in one as a child when my mother lost our house following divorce, and I was in 2 different ones again as a teen when I lost my mum to cancer. From my experience of 3 different hostels you would never ever choose to be in a hostel if it were not genuine...they are not pleasant places to be. To see me walk of my hostel every day as a teen you would have thought...why is she there, I was intelligent, well spoken well dressed...I always looked like I had it together.....reality is that I cried myself to sleep most nights...it was the least homely or comforting place ever and 16 years later I still worry that I may find myself in some sort of awful situation that will have me back in one of those places.

Please don't judge...you have no place to because you simply don't know what this girl has been through or why she is there.

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