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AIBU to think that obese people should be extra careful on moving buses?

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figcake · 28/03/2011 09:57

I had an obese mum land her entire body weight on my right knee yesterday as the bus we were travelling on jolted forwards - I was already sitting with ds, she had just got on with her husband and toddler. She apologised and even gave my knee a quick pat.

I woke up in pain today. There were plenty of handles to hold onto (it was a very modern bus) and def not overcrowded. I had intended to run many important errands today though I cannot do this anymore as it would be too painful. I am fuming.

Obese + clumsy = do not travel by bus ??

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Deliainthemaking · 30/03/2011 17:38

i was gonna say this thread wasnt dead by any means

bigbeagleeyes · 30/03/2011 18:02

I think this thread should be kept going just to piss off the lovely and fragrant and thin figcake.
And I also want to know how she understood she was being talked about if the woman was Polish.
And what were the important errands?
And did she get them done?
See, loads of unanswered questions here. This thread is by no means dead.

Icelollycraving · 30/03/2011 18:22

I was on a bus today (not as a treat) & went flying when the driver went on his merry way. Luckily I didn't injure anyone but a close call,I'm a size 20 & 6 months pregnant...obviously I shouldn't be out due to my severe lack of self esteem..,

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figcake · 30/03/2011 21:12

Oh such wit and quoting one another too - that is all pretty funny. Who needs Birds of a Feather?

"Your husband is definitely having an affair. Probably several." That is really disrespectful to the people who post on Relationships don't you think? Just proves that you must be an insensitive old twat to think that is funny. Says it all really, doesn't it?

Oh it is so alternative to only rarely use the bus these days - if only I had known!

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ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 30/03/2011 21:27

though I am grateful that I look good enough for it not to touch a nerve unlike some others on here perhaps

It's a wonder there was room for anyone else on the bus with a ego the size of yours!

Emmanana · 30/03/2011 22:28

'Don't have my login info handy' - Is this a new thing on MN where you can post on threads without logging in?

charmum3 · 30/03/2011 22:38

my my you are being unreasonable not so much in the fact that you are annoyed because your knee was hurt (you have the right to be anoyed) but using her weight as a stick to beat her with, do you think she set out to hurt?did you concider too that she may have been hurt by the fall, that maybe the bus driver was at fault? I think yu are unresonable and cruel

Jajas · 30/03/2011 23:07

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A1980 · 30/03/2011 23:29

What are they supposed to do. I was standing up on a bus with a colleauge a few months ago on our way out. The bus lurched, my colleauge lost her grip on the rail and she fell on me squashing me against the stairs. Chirst I thought she'd cracked my ribs, as she is quite overweight, bless her. It isn't her fault, it was an accident.

DO you want to ban obese people from all public transport?

monoid · 30/03/2011 23:47

I live in a land where there are bus conductors on the buses. I had to catch a bus conductor man to prevent him from falling on DD (who was 6yo at the time.) It happens though, particularly if you don't have the use of your hands while standing on a bus. I have managed not to fall on anyone yet, but once had to bang my head off a pole to keep myself balanced because I was holding dd's hand and carrying shopping.

TheLadyEvenstar · 31/03/2011 00:20

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Emmanana · 31/03/2011 00:32

And OP has the nerve to call her MIL Toxic

flippinpeedoff · 31/03/2011 06:56

Stop all the personal insults. It's disgusting behaviour. You are far far worse than the op . Shame on you all. Reading this it's not the op I think as dreadful..... despite the fact I don't particularly agree with her op I am on her side now.
Figcake, I'd walk away now, sorry you've had to put up with grown women behaving like this, sometimes MN is a really shitty place.

DumSpiroSpero · 31/03/2011 07:20

(I am now a 10-12 myself so hardly stick-thin).

Not stick thin, maybe, but definitely slim. I think you may have some body size/esteem issues yourself.

flippinpeedoff · 31/03/2011 07:27

it is very clear from her posts that the op is quite comfortable with herself.
I don't get this self esteem issues stuff.
I would say she sounds very confident and good for her.
Not wanting to be fallen on by a fat person does not then give you self esteem issues Shock

StealthPolarBear · 31/03/2011 07:29

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flippinpeedoff · 31/03/2011 08:09

Why does that make it a troll thread fhs? You are a troll because you think you were once very beautiful? You are only a real poster if you feel shit about yourself and have attack an op who objects to being fallen on y a fat person?

Ormirian · 31/03/2011 08:13

flippin - I don't care is she is a troll, her OP was nasty and she has made some pretty unpleasant personal comments herself. Most of the replies have been funny and not personal and taking issue with her attitudes.

But FWIW, I do agree that all the personal nastiness should stop.

StealthPolarBear · 31/03/2011 08:27

flippin, how many people would describe themselves as "Insanely beautiful"
How many people would make the point of saying bus-woman was Polish
Every post has been designed to get a rise.

scottishmummy · 31/03/2011 08:32

bus a treat for ds.lol.gawp at the lardies and proles a day out for the little master was it?

next time take a more genteel bus

marmaladetwatkins · 31/03/2011 09:19

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 31/03/2011 09:46

The acceleration of the bus will have increased the force of the impact on the OP's knee - so I suspect she would have had a painful knee if a non-obese person had fallen on her.

And if it had been a 6'6" man with a normal BMI for his height, the OP would have been hurt just as much.

Figcakes - I don't think you have portrayed yourself at all well on this thread. You give me the clear impression that you would want nothing to do with me, if we knew eachother in real life, purely because of my weight. And you would be the loser by this - or so the friends, who have made the monumental effort to ignore my size and get past the horror of my appearance, tell me.

OliPolly · 31/03/2011 09:56

Figcakes

You haven't come across very well on this thread I am afraid.

Hide the thread.

YABU.

flippinpeedoff · 31/03/2011 10:41

"flippin, how many people would describe themselves as "Insanely beautiful" well not many stealth I should think, certainly not meHmm. However the op doesn't deserve the vitriol on this thread. Describing yourself as insanely beautiful does not make you are bad person, nor does disliking being landed on by a fat person.
The fact that she has described herself as that seems to have got some backs up.
I don't understand why in all honesty. I don't care how people describe themselves. It makes no difference to how I view myself, however, it is obvious that some posters here do feel shit about themselves and are lashing out at the op because of how they feel.