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AIBU to think that obese people should be extra careful on moving buses?

340 replies

figcake · 28/03/2011 09:57

I had an obese mum land her entire body weight on my right knee yesterday as the bus we were travelling on jolted forwards - I was already sitting with ds, she had just got on with her husband and toddler. She apologised and even gave my knee a quick pat.

I woke up in pain today. There were plenty of handles to hold onto (it was a very modern bus) and def not overcrowded. I had intended to run many important errands today though I cannot do this anymore as it would be too painful. I am fuming.

Obese + clumsy = do not travel by bus ??

OP posts:
TheLadyEvenstar · 28/03/2011 17:45

like

hissymissy · 28/03/2011 17:54

Ooh er, Jelly! Blush Grin

OP, YABtotally and utterlyU. Have a Biscuit

Hope the leg feels better soon.

AuntieMaggie · 28/03/2011 17:55

like

I'm a size 18/20 but do you know what? I have more self esteem than I did 10 years ago at a size 12/14.

I'd rather stay as I am than be as ignorant as you are - who the hell are you to judge people for their size and make assumptions about how they feel?

Makingaminime · 28/03/2011 17:55

Jelly were your Exp's buttocks split over your knee though??? Blush

and OP... in case there is the tiniest chance this isn't a wind up Biscuit YABU and twunty to the extreme.

Jellykat · 28/03/2011 18:06

Don't be silly MakingaminimeGrin

That would only have worked if he had been exceedingly well endowed.. (which he wasn't)

wubblybubbly · 28/03/2011 18:09

I'm a size 18 now and have a pretty shitty self esteem right now. Not sure I'd put that entirely down to my weight though.

Having been diagnosed with breast cancer, lost a breast and the ability to use my arm as normal, battling through chemo/ radiotherapy and putting on loads of weight due to the drugs and steroids, it really is comforting to know that, if I lost my balance on the bus, people like the OP would be there to help me. Or not.

I think I'll just stay in actually.

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 28/03/2011 18:10

wubblybubbly :(

I'm sorry you have seen this thread, it is nasty and it's not how most people feel x

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 28/03/2011 18:12

Mind you, the OP has form, & sadly I doubt that even your post will make her think twice in the future, she seems to take great pleasure from being bitchy.

wubblybubbly · 28/03/2011 18:18

Chipping, I didn't realise she had form, probably a pointless post like you say.

I just don't understand people who seem to delight in judging someone they have never met, based purely upon their appearance.

QuickLookBusy · 28/03/2011 18:19

wubblybubbly don't take any notice of the Op, her life must be very dull to get pleasure out of being so rude.

tazmosis · 28/03/2011 18:19

Goodness what a hideous Op.

have a Biscuit

zukiecat · 28/03/2011 18:27

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NorthernGobshite · 28/03/2011 18:32

I say ban fat people from going outside?

OP, an idiotic, hateful post. Go crawl back under your rock.

TidyDancer · 28/03/2011 18:36

Wow, OP. What a nasty spiteful moron you are.

I rarely say this on here, but just fuck off please, there's a dear.

What a horrid post the OP is.

Bonsoir · 28/03/2011 18:38

LOL at OP. I was on a bus last week with DD and there was a morbidly obese rather plump mother and son in the aisle (no seats left). When the bus came to a stop, someone seated behind where the plump mother and son were standing wanted to get past. They couldn't, unless the mother and son moved right to the middle of the bus (absolutely no room to squeeze past) and the bus driver closed the door and started to move off before the woman who wanted to get off could get anywhere near the door. Another helpful passenger screamed to the driver (in French) "Stop, somebody cannot get off because an obese family is blocking the exit!"

Only in France Wink

No-one batted an eyelid.

flippinpeedoff · 28/03/2011 18:40

I hate " fuck off there's a dear"

cheekyprincess · 28/03/2011 18:42

Yikes. Biscuit

TidyDancer · 28/03/2011 18:46

Hate it all you want, I stand by it. :) The OP is vile.

wubblybubbly · 28/03/2011 18:47

Crosses Disneyland Paris off the 'Memory making list' for DS.

hissymissy · 28/03/2011 18:54

LMAO, Bonsoir! Mon dieu!

Emmanana · 28/03/2011 18:56

Grin at Wubblybubbly

I know exactly where you're coming from, re the steroids and the drugs. Someone was mouthing off at work a few months ago and being sneery about people who were overweight, then the penny dropped. He had the nerve to say "I'm not referring to people like you, it's not your fault"
He has since moved to another dept (his choice), but there were a lot of dropped jaws that day....

flippinpeedoff · 28/03/2011 19:23

It's a lazy term of speaking and highly overused that is why I hate it.

TidyDancer · 28/03/2011 19:36

It's cool, it doesn't bother me that you hate it. It was appropriate, so I used it. :)

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 28/03/2011 19:37

My weight issues are down to my lack of self esteem and depression, not the other way around. Sometimes I wonder if I am trying to create a buffer zone around myself so people cannot get close enough to hurt me as I have been hurt in the past. Not that it works, as the OP so clearly demonstrates.

Emmanana · 28/03/2011 20:08

Why a person is overweight is irrelevant. People should not be so bloody rude and spiteful. Even if a persons weight problem is due to over-eating, no one knows if/why there is a cause or the person to over eat.They may have had problems in the past that caused them to comfort eat.
Nothing gives ANYONE the right to judge someone else on basis of appearance and subsequently be nasty to them. It's not an issue of being politically correct either; it's a matter of good manners and respect for someone you know nothing about.
As a child, if I had made a joke about a black person, or called my sisters 'spastic' My Mum would have come down very hard on us. She explained how everyone is different, and whatever we look like, that to be rude and spiteful about another person was hurtful and wrong.