AIBU to think that obese people should be extra careful on moving buses?

[figcake]

I had an obese mum land her entire body weight on my right knee yesterday as the bus we were travelling on jolted forwards - I was already sitting with ds, she had just got on with her husband and toddler. She apologised and even gave my knee a quick pat.

I woke up in pain today. There were plenty of handles to hold onto (it was a very modern bus) and def not overcrowded. I had intended to run many important errands today though I cannot do this anymore as it would be too painful. I am fuming.

Obese + clumsy = do not travel by bus ??

Oh dear. Not sure how my comments could have upset Chipping and Staying. Comments were as GotArt said....sarcastic to show how ridiculous OP was being!
Clearly sense of humour failure - sorry - but do get a life!!

"Sense of humour failure........get a life" - somewhat negates the apology in there, Nailto. Your previous comments may well have been sarcastic and aimed at showing the OP as ridiculous (though they genuinely did not come over that way to me), but your more recent comments are clearly intended to offend and upset.

FWIW - if I am making a comment intended to be sarcastic or tongue-in-cheek, I always follow it with a to make my intentions clear - because words on a page do not always come over as we intend them to, and we can thereby cause unintended offence.

Blimey what a thread. OP YABU. Everybody should take care on buses. Injuries are more related to point and type of impact than weight. Your A level in physics should tell you that.

You come across on this thread rather unpleasantly and people are allowed to make their own judgements about that.

You are right flippin - wise words again. I was just curiously trying to ascertain how low it was possible to sink really.

i can see that my OP might not have been worded tactfully and I should have allocated some of the blame to the driver ... I was in acute pain, I was having a rant, by MN standards, this was hardly the most inflammatory post to ever appear in AIBU.

However, it is a measure of intelligence to be able to successfully counter-argue using the same currency without bringing it down to the level of a street-brawl. It is shocking to see how many posters fail to even see this, let alone implement it. It is as though AIBU now constitutes an excuse to stick a tube up their colon and spill out whatever emerges in the direction of the OP. Once their online cronies join in, in no time at all, you are knee-high in their crap.

And then they get bladdered and urinate in the kitchen sink. What shining credentials - the radiance is almost blinding. And so classy. Mumsnet does Blackpool.

I'm afraid you rather lost any remaining credibility you had by searching other threads for the poster and using that info on here to attack her personally.

Not to mention the oh-so-charming imagery used in the last two paragraphs of her latest post, EvenLess.

figcake well put. It can get lower, much lower. You could just sit back and watch.
Oh, for whomever asked, yes I am figcake's mum, and auntie and any other family member you would like me to be. If you would also like me to be figcake too, that's fine

Lower than figcake's latest effort, flippin?? Really??!!

This has transgressed into an episode of the 'Gold Blend' couple. Flippin and Fig, you have it baaaaad.

stayingdavid, actually I would say that some of the below the belt ,really, really nasty personal comments aimed at the op are far far worse then anything she has 'given back' or is indeed likely to, although I wouldn't blame her.

Well OP you have come out of this thread smelling of roses. Bravo for your grace and dignity, you are an example to us all. I can't imagine who these dreadful vipers have damaged your porcelain-fragile demeanour. It may take years for you to get over this. It must help that you have the looks of a young Cindy Crawford. I am going to set up a Just Giving account for you. After the traumas of this week, what with being crushed by a blubbery bellied blimp then being attacked by vicious harridans on Mumsnet, you will be needing the finest counselling that money can buy. I hope that this will go some way to repairing the damage done.

P.S if you need any help completing those important errands, Private message me. I would consider being your servant a true priviledge.

But, given your outspoken support for the OP, perhaps you are not able to judge impartially, flippin?

Oh I would not bother answering her either Flippin - she is CAT messaging the offending poster and reporting across threads; pot stirrer

What i am supporting is not her OP .I am supporting her because of the vitriol spouted on here. I have read through this thread and nothing she has said, in my opinion, warrants the personal attacks on her.

As I understand it some posters have old battle wounds from fights with the OP. I have never ever understood the carrying of grudges from one thread to another not, even worse linking to other threads.

sockpuppet, it seems to me that figcake is one woman who is strong enough in herself NOT to be in any way upset by what has gone on here. She shows no signs of being bothered by it in the slightest. I am bothered by it, however.

and what is all this CAT messaging rubbish?

Come on, figgy, don't start going mental on me now. Don't make my job any harder than it is already, keep it together, keep it together. I'm trying to make you look good here and you and your alter ego flippin are ruining it. Don't ruin it!

P.S flippin, can you have a word in figgy's shell-like about linking to other threads? She's done it on here a couple of times, she is making herself look a bit insane! thnx hun xxx

"She shows no signs of being bothered by it in the slightest."

Well I would agree but she won't leave the thread alone. She is rattled. She is rattling like a rattlesnake waving a rattle. I think she is lovely though and very thin.

I am rising above it Flippin - that's not to say that it does not make me hugely scared for the state of the world

Now, now duckie. Don't you be working yourself up about the state of the world! We need more like you, pet. More thin people with detective husbands to investigate all the public profiles of the naughty sausages. You are marvellous. You're so thick-skinned, you've taken all of the bashing on this thread ever so well, duckie. I'm sure you're only looking at marmalade's other posts because you're concerned. Because you're a lovely lady inside and out. I love you. Best friend.

Flippin on the "nice people" thread, one of several references to this thread (you see, they are allowed to do it, and to make bigoted jokes about other cultures and religions in the process):

"Now, this being nice business. I have been very nice today. A trusty MN mate (I won't out you, you caaaaaah) hs inaformed me via PM that the lunatic who started the obese bus thread is getting into Single White Female Territory with regards to moi. But I have resisted the urge to tell her to CAT ME YOU CUNT. I am going to remain zen-like and blissful. "

Now come on, pet. Stop making yourself look nuts. I'm trying my hardest here! There are no bigoted jokes there, my dearie. Come on, the men in white coats are at the door. I'll tell them they've got the wrong address but if you keep on like this missy, you'll give the game away.

You are exceedingly slim, though.

I happened to check that thread and she happened to be on it blabbing on about me (as you do) amidst her contributions about farting and pooing (which show a lot more insight than anything she posted on here tbh).

DH did not look her up. I mentioned to him that somebody was bizarrely making repeated references to his imagined infidelity completely out of context so we looked at her profile to make sure that it was not a deranged fan of his band, had a laugh, that's all. Glad she stopped mentioning him after that though. I was not sure what that was about.