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AIBU to think that obese people should be extra careful on moving buses?

340 replies

figcake · 28/03/2011 09:57

I had an obese mum land her entire body weight on my right knee yesterday as the bus we were travelling on jolted forwards - I was already sitting with ds, she had just got on with her husband and toddler. She apologised and even gave my knee a quick pat.

I woke up in pain today. There were plenty of handles to hold onto (it was a very modern bus) and def not overcrowded. I had intended to run many important errands today though I cannot do this anymore as it would be too painful. I am fuming.

Obese + clumsy = do not travel by bus ??

OP posts:
bigTillyMint · 31/03/2011 17:54

Sit right at the back upstairs, no-one fat/old/wobbly on their feet will make it up thereWink

flippinpeedoff · 31/03/2011 18:19

I haven't seen any other threads by the op. I am a bit curious to look but part of me wants to judge each thread on its own....... off to wrestle with conscience.......

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 31/03/2011 18:21

Well said Marmalade :)

marmaladetwatkins · 31/03/2011 18:34

Why, thank you Chipping

figcake · 31/03/2011 21:17

"Railroaded into place" - errm, in your dreams, nobody bullies me, especially not the likes of you. You must have a hugely inflated opinion of yourself to so much as consider that. More like "Who let the dog's out?"

Flippinpeedoff (and a few sane others) - thanks for your support. Thankfully, I am quite thick-skinned though I do see the vulgar outbursts (or more to the point, the posters behind them) for exactly what they are. I have managed to rise above most of it as it is ridden with contradictions and dumb-arse bravado for the most part. I think that it is truly dreadful that they are actually trying to claim the moral high ground in order to justify their spitting of venom. I just love the "you don't know her/me so don't judge me" followed by
"I just don't like the OP, I suppose. She's been a right bastard on lots of threads. ... She is a bloody nightmare." Whilst I fundamentally could not care less about their opinions of me, I do worry about the fact that they are attempting to cyber-bully another poster in a way which makes me glad that I can choose not to mix with people like them in RL. It's a real shame that Mumsnet has sunk to this level. And openly cross referencing to other threads when most of my posts on here have actually been about helping a neighbour with a child who has SENs - I supposed they skipped those, conveniently.

Marmalade, you should be preaching what you practice. You seem really aggressive and particularly shallow and disordered in your responses. DH and I have looked at your public profile to try and understand what could be wrong. You seem obsessed by the idea of my DH "boffing someone else" in your words and have brought this up several times and tried to justify it's place in all this, even though it has nothing to do with the original topic - DH thinks you are insecure about your own looks and personality? I really do sympathize despite the foul language you have used.

As for the ethnicity point, I said that the lady was speaking Polish. I knew because I have learnt some Polish and my DDs best friend at school is Polish. I mix with Polish people almost every day in RL. They aren't just a tabloid headline to me. My DH is European anyway, we are a very international family so any insinuations regarding ethnicity were very wide off the mark, i'm afraid.

To the haters, I would say this. I can give it and take it. But learning has always been a qualitative experience for me so don't kid yourselves if you think you can coerce me into believing any of your vindictive rubbish or considering you worthy teachers. I just feel sorry for your children really.

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figcake · 31/03/2011 21:18

dog's - meant "dogs" as in 'pack of them'.

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marmaladetwatkins · 31/03/2011 21:24

Tl;dr.

Deliainthemaking · 31/03/2011 21:25

ROFL at calling me a pack of dogs in retaliation,

I wasn't taking of my posts more other peoples they are annoyed it seems.

and the ethnicity thing aside you're clearly quite bigoted on other issues too.

I feel sorry for my children being raised by a pack of dogs apparently, at least they'll grow up with more morals,values and tolerance than 'the likes of you'.
[hmmm]

marmaladetwatkins · 31/03/2011 21:27

This bit caught my eye and made me chuckle:

"Whilst I fundamentally could not care less about their opinions of me"

I do not care about your opinions of me, despite posting reams about it.

So transparent it's ridiculous.

figcake · 31/03/2011 21:30

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rosieposey · 31/03/2011 22:01

Hmm, I don't agree with all that's been said on here and I've just read the thread but OP the way you put things Earlier in the thread seem quite vitriolic and unpleasant :(

cauliflowersfluffy · 31/03/2011 22:11

I was really angry when I read the OP but now I think it is a huge wind up to try and get a reaction, I also think she isnt as pretty as she makes out she is or ever was and she seems like a brag artist that keeps dropping hints in her comments and very egotistical I'm sorry I have problems beleiving it x

Nailitorelse · 31/03/2011 22:18

Why don't we run separate bus services for fat people that run less frequently so that they either have to wait longer or decide to walk more. We could say that anyone with a BMI over say, 28, would not be allowed on a "normal" bus?
We could allow fat people to have 2 seats each on a "special" bus.
That would certainly avoid your problem OP. What do you think?

GotArt · 31/03/2011 22:20

OOOhhhh, figcake... perhaps your sore knee is directly related to the size of the woman that fell on you, but really, how do you know that it wasn't just the way she fell on you. Yes, people are idiots if they don't make an attempt to hang on when they get on the bus, but then again, you don't expect the bus driver to gun the gas pedal. My uncle is a bus driver, and I can tell you, they do it on purpose, he's told me so. You were injured on public transit that was directly related to the driver; you should've noted the incident including the bus number to the transit company.

GotArt · 31/03/2011 22:24

Nail Or maybe instead of less frequent bus service, how about buses tha slow down just enough that you have to run and jump to get on. Grin. All jokes aside though, our bus system is in the process of getting new buses (they just bought 6) to accommodate larger asses, and the cost of transit is going up too due to lost revenue for having to do this.

Nailitorelse · 31/03/2011 22:27

What about replacing some of the seats with pedal cycles which are connected to the drive shaft, thereby reducing the carbon footprint of the bus as it would require less fuel to cover the same distance. The higher your BMI the longer you have to stay seated on a pedal cycle....

GotArt · 31/03/2011 22:38

I live in a very hilly city... would take forever to get anywhere and you'd likely have to have a emergency personnel on each bus because of the rise of heart attacks due to over excursion.

ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 31/03/2011 22:54

DH and I have looked at your public profile to try and understand what could be wrong

OMG I would rather be fat than as sad as you are Grin

Nailitorelse, GotArt (etc) - did you read this post ...

wubblybubbly Mon 28-Mar-11 18:09:41
I'm a size 18 now and have a pretty shitty self esteem right now. Not sure I'd put that entirely down to my weight though.

Having been diagnosed with breast cancer, lost a breast and the ability to use my arm as normal, battling through chemo/ radiotherapy and putting on loads of weight due to the drugs and steroids, it really is comforting to know that, if I lost my balance on the bus, people like the OP would be there to help me. Or not.

I think I'll just stay in actually.

Do you both really think it's 'oh so fucking funny' now??

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 31/03/2011 23:54

Nailit and GotArt's comments made me feel sick to my stomach too, ChippingIn. But then I am depressed and obese, so might as well be the butt of their jokes. Sad

pigletmania · 01/04/2011 00:07

OOOOh I am over a BMI 22, I should be on that bariatric bus Grin

pigletmania · 01/04/2011 00:07

YABVVVVU btw

GotArt · 01/04/2011 00:25

Chippping Yes I saw that post, but not interested in getting involved with someone else's extremely personal attack on someone else. I find it odd that OP went in search of you, but not my business.

StayinDavid Mine and Nails comments are meant to be taking the piss on how ridiculous it all is, not to be taken as comments that are to be literally believed. And I don't see where Chipping has said/referred that our comments make her sick. You clearly missed my initial post.

I myself was injured by an obese man on a bus who flopped into the seat next to me in such a manner that my head hit the window, significantly, because he thought he didn't need to hang on to the rail. But I've also been injured by arse's who can't take their damn knapsacks off while they stand and then nail you in the head (I've had an eyeball scratched actually in one incident by a zipper... yes, I was astonished too at the chance of that) with it cause they think they can just lean on a seat instead of hanging on to a rail as the bus is traveling.

flippinpeedoff · 01/04/2011 06:44

figcake, leave the thread. You've put up with enough lunacy here.
Posters have shown their true colours and are not worth bothering with, very shameful behaviour. You certainly come out the better person here, without saying anything, let them carry on making themselves look worse and worse.

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