To Have Doubts About "Bumsex Plus"

[milliemae]

Good Friday night topic. A while ago, DH pester-powered me into bumsex. Not quite the real thing, but bumsex is better than no sex so we use it for a few days a month....

Now DH wants to try "Bumsex Plus": wants me to strap on a dildo & bumsex him!!!???!!! On the one hand, revenge would be sweet: it's great when he's gentle, but sometimes he gets carried away & I wouldn't mind him knowing what it's like!

On the other hand, it seems a bit pervvy to me, even though he says he can't bear the thought of a man doing it to him; says he wants to see what it's like for me - an experiment in empathy or whatever.

Anyone come across this before? Go for it or tell him to go f*ck himself? www.mumsnet.com/te/11.gif

I have to say its not as easy as it sounds... took ages to find the right strap and stuff .. but loads of fun =0)

ilikemine Oh no no no... dildo and penis at same time. Oh no, once it goes butt, it doesn't go back, unless he wants to go and thoroughly wash his penis.

Am truly amazed that any woman would agree to 'bumsex'.

I love, love, love that the word bumsex has now become a verb.

I bumsex, you bumsex, he, she, it bumsexs.

pmsl

I ave said it once I will say it a thousand times, one day someone will encounter worms the hard way.

Hee!

When my nasty, abusive ex used to pressure me into bumsex I repayed the favour with a toy lightsaber. [cackles] I hope he's still sore.

Lots of men enjoy it so I think he has prob been wanting to do it for a while and finally found a way to broach you about it. I would say go for it, nothing ventured, nothing gained. It will be a new experience for both of you and you can get 'carried away' for a change

Tried it - hated it.
DH likes it though.

OOOHHHH... Apocalypse You're so right. lol

still roffling at "on him like a jackhammer" [groin]

I love bumsex but there is no way I'd fancy strapping on a cock and doing my DH up the bum. I am not going anywhere near his bum under any circumstances. Thankfully he has never asked me to. I do wonder why so many men love putting bits of themselves up women's bums yet women rarely reciprocate in interest. The women I know of who will do the finger up the bum thing only do it to be obliging.

hahahah [groin]
What a great conversation for a Sunday morning. I feel dirty.

doesn't it hurt?

No it doesn't hurt.

Please let me join the ranks of the shudderers... ick. But each to his own! I have no interest in anyone's arsehole, thanks.

and Laughing.

I am not sure what I would do, I am generally (by choice) on the 'submissive' side. Like being spanked but strangely reluctant to spank kind of thing. (so far in life anyway!)

I think you should go for it at least once so you have given it a try, you're a long time dead and all that but still chuckling.

Oh I do love MN!

My bum is a one way street! Even if dh was interested in anal sex he'd be told a resounding NO!

It just does not make for an elegant and graceful visual.

and apols for the [groin] - how apt

The whole idea seems grounded in a man being in a position of power and attempting to degrade a women. If he wants fucked up the arse, he obv wants degraded too. For me, sex isn't about degradation.

Northern - there really is nothing degrading about it, unless you make it so.

But....faeces!

Faeces isn't sexy!

I've been told it really hurts.

Hahaha [groin]

Hehe, you can maybe glean from my nickname that I prefer - ahem - 'frontal stimulation'.

There is no faeces

It doesn't hurt

I'm not insane, not into pain or poo but I like bumsex!

he will enjoy it probably more than you do as you will be able to stimulate his g spot.

Get a strap on with an attached bullet which will stimulate you whilst he is being buggered.

I think once yo uget over the initial gigglyness you will enjoy it.