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to consider moving my baby into his nursery?

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stdorothymantooth · 24/03/2011 12:50

Put this in parenting but didn't get any luck, any help appreciated. I have an 8 week old son who currently sleeps in a Moses basket in our room, only problem is ay night he wakes very easily due to noise, such as when my husband and I turn over in bed we have an old metal framed bed and when it creaks he wakes, starts frying and wants to be comforted if (just occasionally thank god) my husband let's out a loud snore, again the baby wakes and wants to be comforted.
The baby is overtired a lot in the day due to lack of sleep at night (luckily can now get him down for naps) and I am exhausted from constantly waking.
It's too early to try him in his nursery with a monitor though isn't it?

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starfishmummy · 24/03/2011 13:03

I really hope that he didn't start "frying"

Claz1001 · 24/03/2011 13:03

Is the nursery close to your bedroom? As long as it's not on a different floor or anything, I think it's fine. I did the same with DS at about 8 weeks, although we do have a video monitor so I spent a lot of time staring at it when I should have been trying to get some sleep!

NinkyNonker · 24/03/2011 13:04

I wouldn't personally.

Stangirl · 24/03/2011 13:07

I have an extremely devil-may-care attitude to parenting - but this was one thing I did abide by - my DD slept in with us until 6months old.

At 8 weeks he is likely to be waking several times during the night anyway and need feeding/changing etc - so you would need to be getting up and going to another room to do this - which is probably even more disturbing for you. My DD was also a light sleeper but over 6months she settled down and only used to wake when we went to bed at night - even this stopped the night we moved her into a separate room and put up blackout blinds. Since then she's slept through 7-7/8.

TattyDevine · 24/03/2011 13:07

I would. In fact, I did.

tinierclanger · 24/03/2011 13:07

Could you temporarily put your mattress on the floor?

Melly19MummyToBe · 24/03/2011 13:08

Lol frying :o

He should be fine in his own room aslong as you can hear him if/when he wakes up. You could also put his moses basket in his cot so he gets used to the bars for when he's big enough to go in that. Also, I would leave both yours and his nursery doors slightly open just incase. I think that if you spoke to a professional about this like a HV, or MW they might even advise the same thing :)

Ciske · 24/03/2011 13:12

We moved baby to nursery around 4-6 weeks, for the same reason as yours, which is that nobody was sleeping well in the house. It really helped, she slept much better and so did we. In our case, her nursery is next to our room so we can still hear her cough/cry, it's not like it's the other part of the house where we would hear nothing if there was an emergency.

I know it goes against official recommendations but I would say if you have a monitor and/or are close enough to his nursery, just go ahead and move him.

Eglu · 24/03/2011 13:15

I moved DS1 when he was very young as he was keeping us awake with every squeak. I wouldn't and haven't done it since though.

Your DS needs to learn to sleep with noise and not in silence anyway, or you will have a lifetime of problems.

shefliesthrutheair · 24/03/2011 13:15

We too moved dd into the living room (right opposite the bedroom in a very small flat) at about 3/4 weeks. We kept the doors wide open and we could every movement, it was just a bit easier to sleep for all of us.

shefliesthrutheair · 24/03/2011 13:17

p.s. a midwife recommended placing a two-way monitor in the room as it's almost as much about the baby hearing you move as the other way round...

FER1 · 24/03/2011 13:18

My baby slept in her own room from Day 1. With an ultra sensitive monitor and checks when either my husband or I got up to go to the loo we felt entirely comfortable with our decision (except for a moment of terror the first time she - and we - slept through the night). I really don't understand the problem.

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/03/2011 13:21

depends if YOU are happy to move to own bedroom

i have had friends who keep babies in with them till 6mths, others who moved at 6 weeks as same problem you have

my boss moved no 3 into own bedroom at 8 weeks as babs is such a snuffler and between her hubby and baby, she got no sleep

what are you worried about?

maybe dh can go and snore on the floor in another rppm

rollittherecollette · 24/03/2011 13:23

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Iwantscallops · 24/03/2011 13:28

I would put him into his nursery as long as you have a good monitor. We had one with a screen and I could see both my ds's breathing and also hear them too. For piece of mind, maybe you could leave both bedroom doors open?

Both of mine were in their own rooms at about 4 weeks and they slep far better for it.

nannyn · 24/03/2011 13:32

I moved my DD into her own room at 3 weeks (I know it's not recommended)
We had the monitor on high sensitivity & volume, we've never looked back.

She loves her bedroom & sleeps really well. It also means we get sleep too.

The only down side is that 18 months later none of us sleep very well when we go away & have to share a room :)

BaggedandTagged · 24/03/2011 13:44

I moved DS into his own room and his cot (as opposed to moses basket) at 6 weeks. Might be a coincidence but he immediately dropped down to only one night time feed (previously two) and we all started sleeping a lot better.

I have baby monitor (BT150) but our apartment is small so we don't really need it tbh.

Overcooked · 24/03/2011 13:56

Just a note here - the reason the NHS guidlines suggest your room until the baby is six months is because the carbon dioxide that you breathe out is a trigger for the baby to breathe. This is the reason that it is thought that room sharing until that age help to prevent cot death.

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stdorothymantooth · 24/03/2011 14:04

Oh god can't believe I said frying.......
The nursery is next to our room. Maybe I should just wd40 the bed frame....

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BsshBossh · 24/03/2011 14:13

I wouldn't do it but I totally understand the temptation to do so. But the risk of cot death always outweighed everything for me in DD's first 6 months. Young babies need to have you breathing in the same room as them in order to trigger their breathing mechanism. Please Google this to read all the relevant findings. Doctors often say breathing monitors provide a false sense of security. Can you sleep on a mattress in your room and dismantle the bedstead?

BaggedandTagged · 25/03/2011 06:57

"Young babies need to have you breathing in the same room as them in order to trigger their breathing mechanism"

Actually, that's just a theory. They know that babies that sleep in the same room as their parents have a lower risk of cot death than those that don't but the reasons cited for why this is the case are just speculation. They don't even know whether it's a cause or just a correlation.

BristolJim · 25/03/2011 07:04

DD slept in her own room from day 1. We lived in terror of the baby monitor for a while, but little else.

onceamai · 25/03/2011 07:04

We sort of did it the other way round. Ours went straight into the nursery (moses basket in cot because my mum said that would mean it wouldnt' be a transition later) but we also had a single bed in the nursery and I went in there too. As the babies settled I sneaked into the big bed with DH and the big bed time just got longer.

Bucharest · 25/03/2011 07:06

Read the SIDS guidelines and then decide.

Iggly · 25/03/2011 07:07

Surely the fact that being in a room with you reducing the risk of cot death is enough? Why ignore that recommendation - would you put your baby on his front, under loads of covers with teddies everywhere?

We slept in with DS until 6ish months then own room. TBH I found it harder getting up at night once he moved out as felt like such a chore!

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