to carry on tickling when my DC say stop?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

A bit of a dilemma here - I would like some oher viewpoints please.

I have always taught the DC that if they are doing something to somebody and that person asks them to stop, then they should stop straightaway, and that other people will respect their wishes if they get into a similar position. Iyswim?

So, here's the AIBU:

We often have fantastic tickling/purping games with the DC and they, in the midst if their hilarity are saying "stop" and "No", but I feel they aren't really meaning it, it's just an involuntary reaction to the fun.

I feel that even in this tomfoolery circumstance, any horseplay should stop straightaway, to respect their wishes. But DH thinks it's fine to carry on in this situation as they are actually enjoying it.

Am I being overly cautious?

Stop definitely and immedicately. Tickling is horrible once you've reached the point where you've had enough.

hmmmmmmm interesting truthsweet

I'm glad your DH has been reasonable about it, Chaos, after your posting here.

I, too, hate being tickled.

If i even think someone is going to attempt to tickle me, i scrunch up and get as far away as I can.
once, someone at work tickled me (he came at me from behind, so I didn't know he was going to) and i kicked him hard in the chin. he didn't mean any harm, and didn't know i didn't like being tickled (and to be fair, he literally only did it for a second, and we were good friends), but it was torture for that second.

I can well believe that countries who engage in torture use tickling as a form of torture, because it puts your body into helpless spasms and is hard to escape from.

:o

That's it I'm never going out again in case I bump into TIY or FS in town

I wouldn't worry TS my memory is so shit ATM that by the time I see you I'll have forgotten :o

Ok so I can go to drop in on Friday with out wearing a suit of armour and blinkers?

I hate, hate, hate being tickled. My Dad used to do it and not stop when asked then I would wet myself and I would then be accused of being a spoilsport

:( oldraver - that's horrible

Tickling makes me feel physically sick. So I would say definitely stop if they ask!

remember dad doing this. It always turned to tears as it was actually quite painful and he wouldn't stop. Then You get it for being ridiculous and a cry baby and making mountains out of molehills - quite horrible really. I've noticed it's something men seem to do more as I've witnessed it with other male relatives and it all quickly turns sour but it is never the ticklers fault. Issues much, moi???

YANBU

You are right. But wtf is "purping"

Stop straight away - you can always resume again if they are still enjoying it. I tickle mine is short bursts - tickle, back off, tickle, back off until they signal they've had enough. DS2 loves to me tickled, DS1 can only bear small amounts.

I hate being tickled. My dad used to tickle me and not stop because I was laughing. The laughing was involuntary and it would make me feel really out of control and I would threaten to wet myself to make him stop (didn't always work). My parent still joke/tease me about this now and I can't say that I see the funny side of it, even 30 years on.

If you are one of the people who isn't particularly sensitive to tickling, then please try to have some empathy and respect for those who are. Stop trivialising it - it's not "only tickling", it truly is torture for those of us who can't physically tolerate it. Would you ignore someone who was telling you they were allergic to a certain substance, and force it on them? Because it's not much different.

The problem is always that the insensitive people just won't believe us. I'm another who will lash out with anything to make it stop - I can't help it, it's a reflex action - I knocked someones tooth out with my elbow once because they wouldn't stop tickling me, even though I warned them.

God, I feel really squirmy and uncomfortable now just thinking about being tickled.

I can't believe the OP had to ask the question she did, it's outrageous.

We learnt the hard way that you MUST STOP tickling my youngest when he says do: otherwise he pees himself ( and usually on you) Every. Single. Time. He's 8 now and he'd still do it. He calls it his secret attack number 1.

Argh, I used to have a really passive-aggressive 'friend' who would always come up behind me and poke me hard underneath the ribs as a way of saying hello. She was much smaller than me and also physically disabled so I would never kick her, but I really felt like it a lot of the time :(

I always used to think it was just like a rapist's logic: I know you don't want me to do this to you, but I get gratification from it, and it isn't really a big deal, it's just fun, so you have to pretend you like it.

Opps. Says TO

Got to say, I think all the mentions of rape on this thread are more than a little overblown.

Fuck off, troll. You've been outed.

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