to carry on tickling when my DC say stop?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

A bit of a dilemma here - I would like some oher viewpoints please.



I have always taught the DC that if they are doing something to somebody and that person asks them to stop, then they should stop straightaway, and that other people will respect their wishes if they get into a similar position. Iyswim?

So, here's the AIBU:

We often have fantastic tickling/purping games with the DC and they, in the midst if their hilarity are saying "stop" and "No", but I feel they aren't really meaning it, it's just an involuntary reaction to the fun.

I feel that even in this tomfoolery circumstance, any horseplay should stop straightaway, to respect their wishes. But DH thinks it's fine to carry on in this situation as they are actually enjoying it.

Am I being overly cautious?

[Continuum]

I remember being tickled as being fun as a kid, then one day my big brother would not stop and I couldn't breathe. I ended up fighting and trying to grab things to hit him with so he'd stop and he had to hold me down till I'd calmed down. From that point on tickling was a definite no. When I got together with dh he didn't believe me but even pretending to tickle me would make me feel inside like I did that one time and I warned him I may get violent if he continued. It's horrible really, not just the fear of being tickled but the knowledge that I think I would actually punch and kick to prevent it happening.

I didn't know there were so many of us about.

[amyhere]

what exactly is purping?

[AbsDuCroissant]

I'm in the hate being tickled crew. My brothers used to do it to me as a child, and the usual thing - was laughing involuntarily and would repeatedly ask them to stop, and they wouldn't. It was hideous.

[AlwaysbeOpralFruitstome]

Yes your right Natters in that for some people (I did say most, not all) tickling is just unbearable, full-stop, but I think the 'stopping when asked' is a crucial point as a)it's the only way a parent is going to figure out where your child's threshold is and b) it can tip the less tickle sensitive into the 'hate' category if you don't stop (it did with me).

I agree though, that many people assume that tickling is a nice/fun thing for everyone and it really isn't.

[NattersAndMutters]

No, I don't agree Alwaysbe - those of us who hate it, hate it. Full stop.

This is the problem - the non-haters just can't seem to get their heads round the fact that because they enjoy it, or don't mind it, then the same must apply to everyone else. It doesn't.

[reelingintheyears]

Tickling isn't funny at all.

I would punch someone in the face if they tickled me when i'd said no.

[AlwaysbeOpralFruitstome]

carmel I don't think it's tickling per say that most people hate, rather the 'not stopping when asked' thing that has put at lot of us off.

[caramel85]

Hi first post but been lurking for a while now.
I may be the odd one out but all I have is great memories of being tickled when young and even now still love the odd tickle fight with DP. I am honestly surprised by how many seem to hate it.

[twinmummy24]

definately stop, even now aged 30 i still have nightmares about being tickled as a child, i hated it and no matter how much i asked the person tickling me to stop they just carried on until i was almost panicking.

DH tried it once - dont think he will again after the reception he got

[thisisyesterday]

no, it shows that "natalie" is turned on by tickling and has joined a forum for other like- minded people

that does not mean she isn't a mum who tickles her children and wants to find out why we're so het up about the thing she loves

[NattersAndMutters]

Mind you, I'd have thought that the subject matter and language on here at times is NSFW or kids!

[M0naLisa]

ahh is it the pics at the side with the women tied up getting tickled???

[NattersAndMutters]

Yes, sorry, I posted it to show that 'natalie' was a pervy troll - sorry the link didn't work at first, then the thread turned a new page. It would have been obvious if seen in context.

[M0naLisa]

all i get with that link is a find posts by natalie

[EndaHoran]

That link is NSFW or kids.

Thanks for that.

[thisisyesterday]

natalie you are a twat.

if, as an adult, you choose to be tickled or you find it a turn on or wahtever that's fine. that's your choice

it is NOT ok to tickle someone smaller and weaker than yourself and ign ore them if they ask you to stop

it's fucking cruel.

[SockMunkee]

My stepdad used to tickle me until I was unable to breath, I am asthmatic. I have serious anxiety issues related to tickling now. I thought I was going to be tickled until I died.
Stop doing it FFS.

[camdancer]

Link has some pictures on it that some people might not want small children seeing. (Or any children)

Just warning people.

[Empusa]

I hated being tickled as a kid, especially because you can't actually help laughing. What I wanted to do was scream and run away. But the person doing the tickling would take that laughter to mean you were having fun. Which did mean they judged when I'd had enough. Long after I had.

And it was a horrible feeling. It's physically unpleasant.

[NattersAndMutters]

www.ticklingforum.com/member.php?u=13107

[NattersAndMutters]

www.ticklingforum.com/member.php?u=13107

[NattersAndMutters]

Fuck off, troll. You've been outed.

www.ticklingforum.com/member.php?u=13107

[Chen23]

Got to say, I think all the mentions of rape on this thread are more than a little overblown.