to ask about taking dc to a wedding?

[rosie1979]

Ok - DH is best man at his friends wedding abroad. Wedding is on remote island near ibiza - mainly charter flights. No children are invited which is fair enough.
BUT - only 3 flights a week so will have to go for a minimum of 4 nights which IMO is too long to leave the dc's (one baby, one toddler) for. My idea is we could get a babysitter/nanny for the wedding and make a holiday of it. DH's friend goes mental and says this is really out of order as they want to spend time with US - not dc's. Are we BU? Help!

The groom sounds like a twat!

I'm all for child-free weddings - gives you a night off and some adult time being loved up with dh (ime), but I would not leave dd for 4 nights at a friend's request.

They are being VU and clearly have no concept of family commitments and the fact you actually like spending times with your kids.

I can't believe DH is still planning on going.

OK, well this latest development decides it. Neither of you go.
What a twat.

I'm all for child free weddings, and usually am of the opinion 'so what? It's their wedding, let them invite who they like!'
HOWEVER in this case the groom sounds like a total, utter spoilt idiot. They're having a wedding abroad and expecting you to just leave your kids for the entire 4 days and nights. I wouldn't even do that and I love child free nights out
If they're expecting you to go abroad for 4 days, they have absolutely no right to say the rest of the family can't go as well when you have no intention of taking the kids to the wedding and have said you'd leave them with a nanny for the day of the wedding.
The wedding is 1 day. Not 4, they can't tell you that you have to spend the entire time with them as that's just weird!
He sounds like a complete idiot.