to be pretty pissed off with this doctor.

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

I've been visiting my usual gp for sometime as I've been suffering with palpitations and panic attacks.
Over the past year I've lost two close family members had two misscariages and lost my home! We are currently in a bnb all sharing a room, me, dp, ds age 3 and dd age 2.
My usual doctors been away some time and the council insited on a letter saying I'd had appointments etc so I gave in a visited another. Also I've been feeling a lot worse,

He barely let me open my mouth when he was weighing me and saying my weight was the problem for everything! Loosing my gran who brought me can't affect my health at all apparently. Also my exzema had flared up, also weight. I know I'm a big girl size 22 maybe 24 I'm not stupid but right now and for the past year I've had more important things to care about than me, I'm on anti depressants ffs.

So I've left basically being told to eat a salad and exercise. That should be a piece of piss seeing as were skint so can just about afford to feed to kids not ourself.

Maybe I'm overeacting I just needed some help not a kick when I'm down! He turned to dp who was with me for support as ill cry at anything and said you need to loose weight too, think about your children!! Dp is 6"5 and a 38" waist, since when is that obese?
I'm sat here blubbing like a twat wondering why I bothered

You need to go back and see a different doctor.

Palpitations are serious. I've never heard of anyone with palpitations and panic attacks due to being overweight.

Weight can put an extra strain on your entire system and general health but the eczema probably flared up because of your bereavement..
but he does sound rather insensitive...

Any time I go see my doctor they always say its down to my weight.Im a size 18 and am four stone overweight.I have weighed more but they dont ever see past the weight issue.Good luck.

I agree that he sounds insensitive and obviously hasn't dealt with the issues you went to him with but he does have a point. Sorry.
Size 22 -24 is not healthy.

Is it a big surgery? Can you see a different doctor? It does sound like he was insensitive and also not read your notes properly. I'm sorry you are having such a tough time.

He was brutally harsh, and you have had a rough year by the sounds of it, BUT your weight will play a part in your health too, and you probably do know that without a doctor telling you.

Exercise is also a very good treatment for sorting panic attacks and palpitations out, I have had them for years and have now got them under control, mainly due to diet and exercise. Even if you just do a fair bit of walking every day, and cut down on carbs, that will help. And I guarantee if you start to lose a bit of weight it will give you a buzz, and you will start to feel better about yourself too.

Dont take this as being critical, I put a lot of weight on, and my panic attacks were at their worst in that time, so this is advice being given from personal experience.

I know its not healthy, I've battled with weight my whole life, I'm the biggest I've ever been but like I said for the past year I've been bottom of my own priorities, I want help to deal with that but I'm so upset he spoke of my loss and to my dp like me being fat caused it all

I know its not healthy, I've battled with weight my whole life, I'm the biggest I've ever been but like I said for the past year I've been bottom of my own priorities, I want help to deal with that but I'm so upset he spoke of my loss and to my dp like me being fat caused it all

Thank you squeaky toy

Thank you squeaky toy

YANBU he sounds like a git.
Presumably unless you have some sort of learning difficulty you are are aware that being overweight is unhealthy. It's not helpful to point it out in such terms (that applies to MNetters too)!
I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time.

Poor you could you go and see a different gp who might be more understanding. I had a stressful time which resulted in palpitations and panic attacks and being able to talk it through with gp really helped. Don't be offended if they suggest exercise though, its what was recommended to me and I'm size 8 so its not about your size its just something that helps. Getting out in the fresh air has always helped me in stressful times, especially if you can find a little park or something to go to

Stress does cause palpitations, panic attacks and weight gain and you had plenty of stress in the past year. The doctor seems to see it the other way around (the weight gain causes you upset and palpitations).

I would go back and insist to see the other doctor.

I echo exercise too - not for weight loss but for fighting the stress and for the feel good factor.

I hope your housing problem gets sorted asap.

Huge hug coming your way. What an arse! I hope your situation gets better and I am sorry for all your losses.

The doctor is an insensitive twat. There are much bigger issues here, and it's obvious you're not in the right place to tackle your weight right now. I would go back and see another doctor. Good luck.

We used to have a lovely caring family doctor who was bit over fond of the booze he helped everyone and always had time to listen and work things through with you. We now have a flash pompous little twat who clicks away at his laptop and don't even raise his head to look you in the eye not that he needs to as he knows the answer for all your ills. Your doctor probably has the same four things to parrot as mine.

You are too big a fatty
You are a naughty naughty smoker
You don't get enough exercise
Its your age

You will be ok pet I sure things will start to go better soon it will make a huge difference when the warmer weather comes. Don't take it to heart what anyone says about your size you are loved by your nearest and dearest already just as you are. I am sure when you feel up to it you will slim down a bit and if you don't so what at the end of the day theres worse crimes.

Whether he had a point or not, the doctor was harsh. Although I don't think eczema is caused by being overweight. AD's can make it difficult to lose weight, ime anyway.

I have no idea why some doctors think being rude and abrasive to anyone overweight is the key to getting them to shed said weight.

Madam made a good point about being tested for thyroid problems. I have Congenital Hypothyroidism and have depression, on and off eczema since childhood and if my meds are too low I gain weight rapidly.

Definately ask for a second opinion from another doctor who isn't a total arsehole

I guess your usual GP, being familiar with your history, would know you've been thinner than this and also what you've been through this year, and wouldn't have thought to make such a remark - or if they did would have couched it in better terms.

IME there is a bit of a tendency of drs (especially those who are keen to get patients in and out) to do the most cursory consultation, because they've already worked out their 'diagnosis' within 2 secs of you walking in the door, and just want to deliver that, get you out and next patient in....

I totally agree that you have to be in the right place to lose weight, trying to do it when you have so much else on your plate would be counter productive I think. I was a s 22, and have lost 1.5 st since end of January (now into a size 20 - though still a long way to go), but I've only managed to stick to it because I was ready - if that makes sense. I tried before but had too much going on to do it properly, life kept getting in the way!

Thank you for all the supportive comments its greatly appreciated, I'm 22 so his only age bitch comment was that its shocking being so fat so young! I'd love to be slimmer it would make me happier and eating better would to but we are so fucking skint its unreal and keeping the children healthy is priority, I'm gonna look into slimming world or something as I have no idea where to start and walk more.

I'm just so upset! And feel damn stupid for it. It didn't help dp was in the room and I felt so embarassed and ashamed him hearing it all

Thank you for all the supportive comments its greatly appreciated, I'm 22 so his only age bitch comment was that its shocking being so fat so young! I'd love to be slimmer it would make me happier and eating better would to but we are so fucking skint its unreal and keeping the children healthy is priority, I'm gonna look into slimming world or something as I have no idea where to start and walk more.

I'm just so upset! And feel damn stupid for it. It didn't help dp was in the room and I felt so embarassed and ashamed him hearing it all

JJ, hadn't realised you were so young. Can imagine how hurt you must have felt :(

Just wanted to say my weight loss is down to slimming world, it's actually quite easy to follow and not really like a diet, and you can eat lots of pasta, beans, veg, which can be quite cheap so you dont need to spend a fortune on it. You can look at some of the recipes on the website, you dont need to be a member, that will give you an idea of what you can eat on it.

When you feel ready, it might be worth speaking to your nice GP (not the idiot from today!) as I think if you're on a low income they can refer you to SW for free, which would save you the £5 a week fee.

Thanks hatesponge, I'm eagerly anticipating my gps return she's lovely.
Dp mentioned something about lack of funds hence crap diet and doc said, ways to save money quit smoking, neither me or dp ever have! The bloke was vile!

He's actually upset me that much I feel sick. I really needed something for this exzema too its keeping me awake its so itchy. Grrr I just keep getting more irate at what he's said!

Poor you, Jj.

I totally know how you feel. My GP said something similar to me a few years ago. I actually went to see him about PND as I was sure I had it. He did a general check on me, weight/blood pressure, and I was two stone overweight. He told me bluntly to lose some pounds. I explained I was on Slimming World but struggling and asked if he could give me any advice to which he replied "No-one ever left a concentration camp overweight" I mean, what the actual fuck?! Cheeky git.

I can't offer you advice on your health problems, you need to see another GP as you know but as someone who has been where you are I would tell you that your GP has a duty to help you lose weight if you want to do it. You might be able to get some free weeks at WeightWatchers to start you off if you're really skint and lacking motivation. You get loads of support too which is a bonus. Sorry, I'm not trying to sound like your arse of a doctor by dismissing your problems and saying "yeah but lose weight" I'm just giving you some advice on something I know a lot about :) Sorry for your loss too. Would also consider complaining about your GP. He sounds like a clueless moron.