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so if you don't someone for not baking birthday cakes, do you judge someone whos house is a bit dirty?

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carriedababi · 16/03/2011 11:23

by a bit dirty i mean, doors not looking that clean, haven't been hoovered for a couple of days and crumbs on the floor

smears over the patio doors

bit untidy

that type of things

this is my house btwGrin

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reelingintheyears · 16/03/2011 17:13

What do au pairs do?
Genuine question.

CheerfulYank · 16/03/2011 17:14

I do judge a bit if I've been invited over, because I always run around shoving things in cupboards-- tidying up before guests come. If it's a drop-in kind of thing, well, you never know what kind of a day the person may be having.

CheerfulYank · 16/03/2011 17:15

I do vacuum a lot though, both because I just got a new vacuum and it's fabulous and novelty at this point :), and also because I've got a golden retriever and would be swallowed up by dog hair in a day or two.

LeQueen · 16/03/2011 17:21

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CheerfulYank · 16/03/2011 17:24
CheerfulYank · 16/03/2011 17:24

er, be my Guru, 'course

Happylander · 16/03/2011 17:31

carrie my mum just says I should care but I just tell her the rain cleans them and I don't spend all day looking out of them Grin
laweasel I tidy and clean...even the skirting boards...then within minutes of doing it I have an amazing ability to create mess and so does my DS. However, my friends always comment on how tidy my house is....maybe I have a lower threshold for mess and just think it is messy when it isn't. I am good and creating piles though!

Happylander · 16/03/2011 17:33

lequeen i thought the morning nap was the time you were supposed to drink tea and watch JK.....have I got this wrong..should I be cleaning instead....Wink

Flisspaps · 16/03/2011 17:46

Even when I spend a whole day cleaning the house, it still looks dirty, I don't think my house will ever look clean!

catzcream · 16/03/2011 17:54

Bit dirty, no judging.

Utterly filthy, not seen a proper clean in a very long time, I totally judge. When we were househunting, we were utterly appalled at the state some peoples houses were in.

LaWeasel · 16/03/2011 19:24

I have secret pride that my house cna't be that bad though, because a friend whose house is absolutely spotless had a moan to me about mutual friend's house not being clean/tidy compared to her and I's standards! Grin

I agree about big cleans before guests though. I'm always suprised about people that don't. (Although try not to judge, since I know I am not remotely perfect)

bibbitybobbityhat · 16/03/2011 19:28

No, but I do worry about the children of people with immaculately clean and tidy houses.

Choufleur · 16/03/2011 19:31

Our kitchen floor always looks filthy (well for a bout 5 mins it might look clean) despite mopping every day thanks to the dog.

The windows are not cleaned very often but you can see out of them.

If people are bothered then they don't have to come round.

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desperatelyseekingsnoozes · 16/03/2011 19:37

Why would you worry bibbity?

They could have a cleaner come in most days as we do. Or they could just be organised.

Even before we could play for a cleaner we were both quite capable of getting up an hour early to clean the house. Children do not need attention 24 hours of the day, infact that would be quite unhealthy.

detachandtrustyourself · 16/03/2011 19:41

The thing is, how do you know when you go over for pre arranged visit, they haven't had a big tidy up in your honour? It might have been much worse before!

bibbitybobbityhat · 16/03/2011 19:43

Really? Children do not need attention for 24 hours every day? Golly, you learn something new every day.

TheVisitor · 16/03/2011 19:47

My house is usually a tip. It's not been hoovered for a while as I have tennis elbow in both arms and it's a rather painful job to do. The teenager is going to do it for me tomorrow. It's a case of too much stuff, too many bodies and the house not being quite big enough.

desperatelyseekingsnoozes · 16/03/2011 19:49

Bibbity why are you worried about my children?

Cat98 · 16/03/2011 20:25

Sorry - I'm not going to wish I had cleaned or dusted more when I am on my deathbed.

I would rather recharge my batteries/rest/do something for myself when I have free time. My standards are pretty low - as long as things are fairly hygenic and there's some floor space for DS to play I'm happy. I do like cooking though so spend a bit of time doing that.

desperatelyseekingsnoozes · 16/03/2011 20:27

I am not interested in judging people who have different standards of housekeeping than me, I don't care.

I do resent the idea that because my house is clean my children are neglected, my life is dull or I am heading for a breakdown.

Cat98 · 16/03/2011 20:31

If you enjoy cleaning or feel happier when your house is clean to the extent that you would rather do this than something for you, knock yourselves out. I would never judge anyone for having a clean house or imply your kids are neglected!

However I do feel a little bit sad for people who clean because they feel they have to have a tidy house or their dh/neighbours/random friend will judge them. I use the phrase "take us as you find us" often. For me, life is too short to worry about a bit of dust/clutter. But then it doesn't bother me. When it gets to the stage it bothers me, I do something about it. (Not much, but something!)

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