so if you don't someone for not baking birthday cakes, do you judge someone whos house is a bit dirty?

[carriedababi]

by a bit dirty i mean, doors not looking that clean, haven't been hoovered for a couple of days and crumbs on the floor

smears over the patio doors

bit untidy

that type of things

this is my house btw

Extraneous "it" there. I can't even keep my prose tidy .

i have always wanted to really know what anally retentive/ocd clean people really think of the rest of us.

i kind of divide people i know,entirely based on their houses into people i feel comfortable inviting to our slum and people that i would cringe to have here.

several friends have scarily tidy and clean homes. my house has clean kitchen work surfaces/fridge and clean toilets. as for the rest of it- i have teenagers and toddlers and it is like shovelling snow in a blizzard.

I love the idea of being a smeary window slut, it sounds so gorgeously dirty...

(filthy)

Our house is pretty clean but very messy. DD brings things down and doesn't take them back to her bedroom.
DH leaves things laying around and I am not the tidiest person on this earth.
I tend to call dds stuff her drift. It just drifts around and finds a home on one of the sofas.

I'm generally clean but messy. My mum though does moan at my dirty windows....dogs nose and DS smears on patio doors and the others windows being filthy. I just look at her and shrug my shoulders and say I don't care about the windows. Next time my mum looks after my DS she'll have cleaned the windows..I try to be a dirty window slut but she scuppers it!
PS I live in a bungalow...really no excuse for not doing them as I can actually reach them all from outside.

happylander, what does your mum say, when you say you don't care?

Clean or tidy-can´t seem to manage both

I'm like you lot too.

I keep meaning to start a thread about people who say there house is messy but not dirty.

I don't understand?? I have to shift the mess and tidy before I can get to the dirt! House is way more likely to be tidy but need a vacuum clean because I was distracted before I could do that bit!

I try, I really do, but somehow my house ends up filthy! I think it's clean and then I look around and I see dirty baseboards, etc. Sigh...don't even get my started on the windows!

my house is like that sometimes too. but if it was something like a pre arranged invited round thing @ someone's house and it was like that i would possibly judge a bit, if just dropping in or spur of the moment thing then not at all.

This is my house too! The only person who judges me is my mil, but then I did steal marry her pfb, and he can't possibly live like that! He really doesn't see the mess care.

I would judge someone for a dirty house, because cleaning is second nature and to not clear up after yourself or your children is just lazyness.

was V paranoid for a sec then, am in the middle of baking a cake and just sat down to lick the bowl
house is a shit tip less than perfect...

It isn't always laziness though, some people just have different priorities. I would sooner be out walking the dog, or in the park/woods with my youngest, or playing with him than cleaning my patio doors. I do the essentials, but any more than that I find unnecessary at this point in time with 4 los aged 8 and under!

I can't be arsed to namechange BUT...
DH and i recently visited some old friends we haven't seen for ages.

The house was a dump.
Kitchen was greasy and dirty.
Carpets hadn't seen a hoover for yonks.
Kitchen floor needed sweeping and washing.
DCs were grubby and no one wiped their hands or faces (2 and 4 year olds)after dinner so off they ran from the table spreading food everywhere.

DP and i didn't say anything even to each other until the next day out of .

I am no ideal homes housewife but this was the worst.

Yes I do judge.

I am disgusted at myself .

I mean MY home is like that and I judge MYSELF! I am relieved when I see it at other's houses...unless their house is REALLY bad.

Also the cat was constantly on the kitchen worktops eating from plates and pans....yuck.

DCs drink cup left upside down on the sofas dripping away and Mum put a blanket over the wet patch and left it there for someone else to sit on.

I'm feeling a little bit judgy.

I'd be pleased if my patio doors just had smears on - at the moment they've got the remnants of a bright green plasticine on, some of it jammed into the edges where it'a difficult to get at to extract.
My conservatory (now there's posh - or at least it would be if it hadn't been put in as a DIY job by the previous occupant with a limited grasp of construction) is a sea of mud, owing to my daughters desire to help with the gardening, mostly involving pulling up the stuff I have just planted (and most of which is in pots inside as we had frost a day or so ago). I am watching my pot of sweet peas in the hope that the tomato seeds she helpfully added will be recognised once they germinate and moved to a new container, but I'm not optimistic. My kitchen floor is clean, but that's because we were painting yesterday, and then we went to wash her hands. I stayed in the bathroom to wipe the paint smears off the basin, and got back to the kitchen to find her busily and in a very focussed way painting spots, big ones, in primary colours, on the kitchen floor.
I try not to call it messy, but homely....

My house is filthy not as clean as it could be, but the way I see it is, if you don't like it, leave.

It's my home, and I'll have it however I damn well please.

My house is also not as clean as it could/should be but we were invited for dinner and could hardly walk out.

We certainly weren't rude enough to let it show and actually had a good night but it was filthy.

A woman with small children, no cleaner and a perfect house I would judge. Can't be spending much time with the kids.

They have an au pair.

Actually, it's not that bad really. It does get hoovered most days, though the kitchen floor can be a tad sticky.

I just don't like cleaning, even though I do it for a living.
I do love cooking and ironing though if that helps?