to secretly judge a mum who doesn't work but bought her son's 1st birthday cake at Waitrose?

[howdidthishappenthen]

Note that she's a REALLY one-up-manship yummy mummy who doesn't work because 'money is the man's responsibility - I'm the homemaker'. Then I hear her DH praising her for 'buying' a great cake for DS's 1st birthday. OK, I accept not everyone can cook. And after a few years, of with a few DCs of course we're all going to revert to shop cakes. And Waitrose cakes taste nice and lots of my own efforts are a bit dodgy. But no job, and the 1st birthday? C'mon... make an effort!

Haven't read whole thread.

YABU.

I keep seeing this thread in active convos and wondering about the person who started it.

It's not healthy!
Anyway, yes YABU

"how close is the correlation between home made birthday cakes in childhood and class of degree"

Bonsoir I think there is at least a DipEd dissertation to be had out of that one

I love baking cakes.

Every year my DS insists on a shop bought birthday cake 'they are so much nicer' .

FINALLY, a reason for my 2:2! I can blame my mother.

what was she thinking buying a waitrose cake!!

yuk!!

she could have at least gone to choccywockydoodah!

Lol at Bonsoir, I see some sort of graph plotting that quite nicely...

FWIW I have not had a full-time job or income since last autumn and have been doing personal wish-fulfillment, a bit of paid work here n there and managing building project for our house. I still have nanny & cleaner and DH does most of the cooking and DS did not even have a birthday cake (shoot me). The point is, it's none of your business how other people run their lives.

If you want to run for the martyr mummy award (see Boots ad for Cold Cures) fine by me but really - "I don't know how she does it" is a comic novel, not a self-help book.

Waitrose cakes are yummy - much better than home made.

What the actual fuck?!

Yay got to use it

yabu to judge someone on such trivia. seriously it is on the same level as judging someone for not buying organic asparagus

get a life.

i have never made a birthday cake in all my 16 years as a mother. i have friends that make them all the time. i would kind of hope that neither of us is judging the other on the basis of this.

I would hate to be your friend, OP. It sounds like you're looking for snidey ways of one-up-man-ship. Of course YABTU.

How can she even call herself a mother? She ought to be ashamed.

OP, I think you're just really, really pleased to have seen her halo slip a little. Is she really that annoying? Or are you in yummy mummy competition with her?

I was a SAHM on DS's first birthday. We paid a colleague of DH's to make a cake. I don't have to justify why. It's not important.

I buy mine from M&S - our local McDonalds is beside it and its handy to nip in, get a Happy Meal and talk about what fairy cake to buy

Well, if she's smug about being a SAHM then I'd judge too. Only a teensy bit, mind. Of course I worked and baked crap birthday cakes

"Poof" made me

fuck off. im guessing you design and manufacture all your own christmas/bday cards and wrapping paper each year for your dcs too? no?

c`mon make the effort! its not like you have anything better too do

knoblets

YABU,
I'm a SAHM and DD often gets a commercial cake on her birthday (she likes choosing them) and a home made one for her party (1/2 term means this is often a bit late).
Yes I do fancy arty icing for public consumption at her party and yes I'm showing off, BUT I enjoy doing it. I do posters for the PTA and homemade Christmas cards, I like doing crafty things, always have. My Mum used to despair at the number of little bits of paper all over my room
However, there are plenty of things I don't like doing (BF does wonderful homemade soup, I can't be arsed) so I try not to judge otherpeople.

YABU

I'm assuming she has a nanny to look after her 1 year old and housekeeper to cook and clean and that she genuinely "doesn't work", hence you think it's acceptable to judge her. Please don't tell me that because she's a stay at home mum you think she "doesn't work"???

Find a hobby to occupy you.

Lollers at all the people justifying why they do or don't make their own cakes.

Nobody cares - they really don't.

Do what the hell you want to !

judgebug.

question, what is personal wish fufillment?

I can't be bothered to read the whole thread but I'm not working at the moment and am a great believer in shop bought kids birthday cakes.

• I'm a crap cook..
• My kids love them
• I can't be arsed to become a better cook..

My 5 year old still remembers his monkey cake from Tescos that he had for his 3rd birthday - loved it!!