to secretly judge a mum who doesn't work but bought her son's 1st birthday cake at Waitrose?

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Note that she's a REALLY one-up-manship yummy mummy who doesn't work because 'money is the man's responsibility - I'm the homemaker'. Then I hear her DH praising her for 'buying' a great cake for DS's 1st birthday. OK, I accept not everyone can cook. And after a few years, of with a few DCs of course we're all going to revert to shop cakes. And Waitrose cakes taste nice and lots of my own efforts are a bit dodgy. But no job, and the 1st birthday? C'mon... make an effort!

langauge?!

Well I'm buying a cake for DD's party next weekend. But I'm also making a really fancy birthday cake for her family party the next day. I can't be arsed to make 2 cakes in the same day.

Only read OP.

But a word to the wise.....people who think their own cakes taste nice, are generally speaking, the same people who think their children are very very beautiful.

T'aint necessarily so.

Homemade cakes, especially of the sponge variety, tend to be like eating a pumice stone.

YABU unreasonable re the cake - so what if it was shop bought, perhaps she wanted it to look nice in the photos and knew one she made wouldnt look as nice.

However I would have judged her on "doesn't work because 'money is the man's responsibility - I'm the homemaker'"

Does it count as homemade if you buy the sponge at the supermarket then whip up a shit load of cream and berries?

Cause that's my plan for DS2's birthday bbq.

I agree with Bucharest, have had someone tell me about this fab cake they have baked blah blah blah and when we you eat it you think, 'Oh God Oh God, I have to say something nice don't I...'

you are right.shes lazy boot.good thing got you virtuous ole you to aspire to be,to keep her straight.thanks for pointing her transgression out,maybe a wee photo and address we we can go heckle.

starts with cake,wherever will it end?thankfully wee nosy nebbs like you never rest,so it wont go unnoticed

mn salutes your indefatigability

I had ideas of making a cake once for mine and he let me know his heart was set on a shop bought one. Many hours of waling past the celebration cakes in the supermarket led to him being excited at the ones he saw. He was not keen on the idea of me making one when he has, in his mind, chosen one he had seen so many times and thought was wonderful.

I would have judged much more for the 'its the man's responsibility' stuff than for buying a ready-made cake!

Is it normal to make a cake for a child's first birthday though? Do one year olds even eat cake, or have any concept of what a birthday is about?

Morloth- but hyou can't say anything nice because your bottom lip is stuck to your palate with cement.

Here people would be very sniffy if you made your child's birthday cake anyway. They'd think you were too poor or mean to go to the birthday cake shop and order one.

For DS1's 1st birthday we only had a cake, just picked one up on the way home from work (I assume that is OK OP?) and had it at my inlaws.

For DS2 we are having a family BBQ because we have been away for most of his life and it will be nice to do something.

But no, I don't think there is any point as far as the baby is concerned in having a cake for their birthday. They have no idea anyway.

La Patisserie in the Rocks is where I get my cakes from in Sydney and thus all cakes are held to this standard and all are found wanting.

I'm not so secretly judging you OP for being an offensive twat. You know nothing about this woman's circumstances other than she doesn't work.

I'm a SAHM and have never made a birthday cake. My DC have both just had birthdays (1st and 3rd) and both cakes were bought. I bake fairy cakes and biscuits etc all the time with DD1, but didn't have the confidence in my skills to bake and decorate a decent cake. Plus I would have struggled to find the time to do it justice.

So YA definitely BU.

lol at pumice stone

have you EATEN one of my cakes? yep pumice stone

I made one, rectangular, that had to turned on it's side to be sawed into slices

You could have used it as a Butcher's Block

No shame in buying a cake

You know you are being unreasonable, but I would (secretly) judge her too. At home all day and can't follow a recipe? Sheesh.

Shop cake taste like styrofoam.

Op; you are so not being unreasonable.

The woman should be made to do the walk of shame; down the high street bombarded with home made cup cakes with hideous colourful icing, by all you good mummies and then restrained and thrown into a melee of one year olds to lick it all off. Hanging's too good for her.

Frankly I'm suprised that you even associated with her in the first place. What a faux pas, you should have spotted this at Xmas; she was obviously not annointing her cake with brandy daily for the minimum 9 weeks; she was obviously prostrate from slugging it.

clearly you go to inferior shops.not patisserie i shop at,where cakes are moist,light to touch and eye-wateringly expensive.oh and you casually i drop in where was purchasesd ,so folk dont think i do cheap mammie cakes

Is this a good time to admit that I bought a cupcake maker?

it was pink, I had too!

im a sahm and my best mate the cake maker just made my 1 year olds b.day cake am i out of order to,what an absolute load of titty bollocks nonsence

Why would I inflict my baking on my dc? On his birthday too? That surely would be just sadistic.

Ok I will hold my hand up to all who say that follow a recipe, it's not so hard blah blah.

I recently decided that I would try cooking for my dh (he has done all the cooking for about 8 yrs now). I had a Jamie's 30 minute recipe book, all day and everything to hand to make the mustard chicken recipe...

I forgot to add the mustard to the mustard chicken I got so flustered. So I microwaved beef bourguignon instead

Depends on the shop ithaka, once you have tried this you will never be able to choke down a 'homemade' cake again...

yabu. i wanted a fire engine cake for for ds 3rd birthday an it was either

A) spend a fortune on ingredients and icing, cake tin hire and hours fucking about in the kitchen only to end up with a shit looking red blob that looks nothing like a fire engine

or

B) spend £85+ having a cake maker make it.

or

C) buy a £20 one from waitrose

it's a no brainer really

MrsDeVere
"Besides it an absolute rule of law that 1st birthday = chocolate catapiller cake."

We have that rule aswell!

I can make cakes, infact im quite good at it (even if I do say so myself!) but for some reason the run up to birthdays (both my children have birthdays in December) I always seem to be crazy busy and dont have the time. Plus I quite like shop bought cake.

chocolate cake for a 1st birthday? My little darling was only allowed homemade low-sugar banana carrot cake, no icing. :)

I'd rather have one that resembled a cake! Good luck to her for picking such high quality!

Always have bought a shop one, from Tesco, Asda, etc. It's all part of the fun, no hard work for mom.

Report her to social services. It's a form of celebratory neglect.

YABU!!!!!!!!!!! thats crazy. so what if she bought a cake!?! i agree with bran probably a lot cheaper to buy a yummy waitroise cake. at least you're guaranteed the fussy kids and parents will enjoy it