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To think dh should not just watch tv with the baby

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Wildpoppy · 13/03/2011 22:41

Each weekend my dh takes our now 3 month old baby downstairs when she wakes - about 7am, and I lie in until about 11. No complaints there - it's how I get through the week. But when I come downstairs they are usually watching tv together. He says he plays with her and I am sure he does, and she naps too, and he can't play with he for four hours, but aibu to think that he shouldn't be sitting there with her watching tv? Fine to have it on in background, but I am alone with her all week and I very rarely have the tv on unless she is feeding (we mix feed so mostly bf when with me and bottles when he is looking after her). Probably I am being unreasonable - am sure the tv doing no harm. But shouldn't he be enjoying interacting with her without it?

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DuelingFanjo · 15/03/2011 18:12

"I don't understand how having the tv on in the background is lazy parenting"

I think it's lazy parenting when one parent (the mum in this case) makes some effort to interact with the baby on her 'watch' but the other parent just sticks on the tv on his. Maternity leave is like that though, the mum gets many more 'boring' hours to fill and so it can be annoying when dad just uses the tv as a baby-sitter... IME

Snorbs · 15/03/2011 18:35

But didn't the OP also say that she was sure that her DH did play with DD as well on these mornings? It's not like he's just dumping the child in front of the TV all morning while he buggers off and does something else.

Sounds to me like this is more of a "You're parenting slightly differently to me therefore you're doing it WRONG" thing rather than any serious problem.

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