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To want to take 6month DD to Baby Ballet?

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 20:13

My DD is actually 5 months but baby ballet starts at 6 months (anyone have any experience of this??)

My MIL basically told me I shouldn't, in front of all of DH's family. She thinks DD 'Does enough already!'

I felt like she was implying that DD isn't having a good time, or that I'm not thinking of her, but I swear she likes her actvities.

At swimming lessons she smiles and splashes, at Gymboree she actually laughs and giggles.

We also do Catapillar music and go to rhyme time at the library.

In four weeks we are starting 'Gymbabes' at Tumbletots.

I tried P & T groups but found them really cliquey.

I'm quite upset about MIL saying this and really enjoy DD's activities.

AIBU? Is she right?

OP posts:
deliciousdevilwoman · 10/03/2011 17:58

Exactly what Icing said.

Original poster
MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 17:59

Lizzie - I am not Denise Van Outen! Lol...

Neither am I on drugs Hmm

And Laquitar - I see what you're saying, but I don't want to drop a class now... I like them all! :)

Icing - thanks again. I feel like I might know you in real life??? Are you in Surrey lol?

(I'm certainly not going to apologise to piglet... She came onto this thread looking for a fight and she got one, that's life, besides, if you read back, I sort of did, and that's all she's getting!!)

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Blatherskite · 10/03/2011 18:06

lovenamechange100 for me the biggest shock was going from on office full of people to being all on my own with DS and I think that's what brought me down which is why I think all the activities were so good for me. When I had DD, I definitely felt isolated while I couldn't get out to do anything - the 6 weeks after my c-section were the worst. Being able to get out and interacting with people has been like a breath of fresh air.

Although I was definitely more down after having DD, I found it easier to resolve as I knew what my triggers were and knew how to fix it. Hopefully, your experiences will help you too. PND is a horrible thing.

I agree with Icing that Millie sounds like she's loving getting out and about with her little girl. 3 hours over the course of a week doesn't sound like a lot and if it's making Millie happy then it's making her DD happy so it's for the best. I think it's the name of the class that's got everyone so wound up. A 6 month old couldn't possibly do ballet so the class must be more about music and movement but then that begs the question - why call it Baby Ballet? Confused

sungirltan · 10/03/2011 19:46

(vomits at the thought of disney songs but thats my issue!)

theres a wee bit of projecting going on here :-(

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MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 19:47

What does that mean??

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toeragsnotriches · 10/03/2011 20:07

Haven't read the whole thread but frankly, it ain't nobody's business if you do. Take her, and just bloomin well enjoy it. It's probably more for her than you but whatever .

P and T groups can be really cliquey. Maybe you'll make some baby friends at baby ballet and start storming the P and T groups and de cliquing them Grin .

I did baby yoga and got the piss taken for that but who cares? I made lifelong friends there.

toeragsnotriches · 10/03/2011 20:08

I meant more for you than her . Thank you wine box and absent DH!

sungirltan · 10/03/2011 20:26

mmm - i mean as in posters making assumptions about you which turn out to actually be about themselves but in a derogatory way. shame

bettybosseye · 10/03/2011 20:50

Babies do ballet? Whatever next.These things are for you not your baby so if you want to then why not? Don't see how it's anyone's business. (apart from you asking for our opinions.)

mamaLou13 · 10/03/2011 21:15

withagoat and apixiemomma thats quite pathetic and ess i agree withP jealous!

trixymalixy · 10/03/2011 22:04

Christ, it's half an hour a day at a class, hardly packing her Dd off to boarding school. The OP has the other 9 or 10 hours a day( allowing for naps) to coo and laugh with her baby or just let her be a free spirit as some of you are suggesting she should do all day every day. A bit of variety is good, especially for the OP.

Some of you are smug McSmug, wittering on about how you are such better Mums because you don't do classes with your babies, but spend every hour gazing into their little eyes or letting your babies just be a free spirit, in case they never learn to entertain themselves, which let's face it half an hour a day isn't going to have that much of an effect.

Good for you all being happy with your choices, but everyone's different and some like the the OP need to get out of the house every day for a bit, and you know what, there's nothing wrong with that!!!

Some of you are bloody patronising with that PFB crap, I'm sure you were there once too.

OP, do what you like and be happy in your choices and don't listen to others.

majorydoors · 10/03/2011 22:08

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MillyMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 22:20

How exactly am I smug and up myself??

Show me.

majorydoors · 10/03/2011 22:24

Oh only thing you've left out is hw you starch your sheets and bake fresh muffins.

Blatherskite · 10/03/2011 22:27

Why have you changed the spelling of your name OP?

sungirltan · 10/03/2011 22:28

(hi fives trixymalixy) couldn't have put it better myself!

mn is a sad place when being happy and fulfilled must equal smug. if i described my routine with dd i expect i'd be labelled 'smug' too. i also bake

majorydoors · 10/03/2011 22:33

Maybe they were right further up the thread Blatherskite that this is a troll or else someone is playing funny buggers.

Either way this thread is out of whack

FunnysInTheGarden · 10/03/2011 22:34

Millie in time you may learn that in the world of MN (and mine actually) doing loads of activities with a tiny baby screams 'Look at what a fab mum I am'. Plus all the ref's to what a fab job you are doing and what a happy baby you have. It just screams smug.

FWIW DS1 was always described as thus, and we of course took credit. Once DS2 came along we realised how little actually we had to do with it, and that generally babies are 'good' and 'well behaved'.

Plus your MN name is twee really when compared to some of the others. Calling yourself Mummy anything and esp using your daughters name and then her 'cutesie' name to boot is, well, just a bit naff.

StayFrosty · 10/03/2011 22:35

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majorydoors · 10/03/2011 22:36

Just done a search

millie just today/yesterday
milly just today

Why namechange for a topic like this or are they just new or a troll?

MillyMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 22:36

Blatherskite - I namechanged to write on another thread (so the pitchforks can't find me ;) and I think it must've autochanged when I typed it back in. (on a smart phone)

Majory - please show me the smugness? And the up myself? All I've done is defend myself.

FunnysInTheGarden · 10/03/2011 22:37

oh come on, she's not a troll, just a V defensive new mum, who doesn't understand the MN way.

Really this should have gone in Chat, but there ye are. No doubt MMM will think twice before posting in AIBU again..........

MillyMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 22:38

Funnyisthegarden - so what do you want me to be called then?? As you clearly have a problem with my name.

FunnysInTheGarden · 10/03/2011 22:38

Hmm re the auto change. You can't do that. Anyway why did you NC for another thread, and what did you change to?

majorydoors · 10/03/2011 22:39

StayFrosty I know what trolls are but how can you be ever sure to report - anyway other have had a good discussion out of it even if she hasnt conducted herself well.

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