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Original poster

To want to take 6month DD to Baby Ballet?

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MillieMoosMummy · 09/03/2011 20:13

My DD is actually 5 months but baby ballet starts at 6 months (anyone have any experience of this??)

My MIL basically told me I shouldn't, in front of all of DH's family. She thinks DD 'Does enough already!'

I felt like she was implying that DD isn't having a good time, or that I'm not thinking of her, but I swear she likes her actvities.

At swimming lessons she smiles and splashes, at Gymboree she actually laughs and giggles.

We also do Catapillar music and go to rhyme time at the library.

In four weeks we are starting 'Gymbabes' at Tumbletots.

I tried P & T groups but found them really cliquey.

I'm quite upset about MIL saying this and really enjoy DD's activities.

AIBU? Is she right?

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Blatherskite · 10/03/2011 15:33

lovenamechange100 I found with DC2 that I was much more prone to feeling depressed while we were stuck in the house all day.

Now DS is at preschool every morning and DD only naps in the afternoon giving us each morning free to go out and do something, I feel so much better. It's like a massive weight has been lifted and I feel connected with the world and in control again.

I had clinical depression before DC's so I was always anxious about PND and did lads when Ds was a baby too, I just found it harder when I had 2 DC's to juggle and really struggled when naps and school drop offs/pick ups meant that getting out was hard.

Sorry you struggled too.

Blatherskite · 10/03/2011 15:34

Did loads

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pigletmania · 10/03/2011 15:34

Icing on the cake I couldn't agree more, you put it much better than me, iv made a pigs ear out of it hence my name pigletmania

IcingOnTheCakes · 10/03/2011 15:41

Millie doesn't sound like she is doing these classes to keep up with the Jones. It sounds like she is just having fun.

I know what it's like and i am sure others do to when your mil makes a remark about something you are doing with your dd and it gets your back up a bit.

deliciousdevilwoman · 10/03/2011 16:09

Millie-I don't see a problem. IMO-the frequency and duration of the classes as you've described aren't too much, you get to do stuff for yourself and you have plenty of time where DD can just "be". I think some not very pleasant comments and aspersions have been made about you, your motivations and lifestyle.

The baby ballet thing-yeah, it's possibly a pretentious load of frou frou but so what-it's probably quite fun in a camp way! I have a 3 month old DD and I have recently signed up for baby sensory classes over 10 weeks'. The classes are an hour. We also go to Bumps and Babies and Stay n Play which are 2 hours each. When she has had her next set of jabs, we will sign up for Aqua Tots. The dancing thing I will leave until she is older, but I want her to have the opportunity-if she doesn't like it, c'est la vie, she wouldn't have to continue.

I will in RL may no apologies for being over the moon at having a girl this time around, and revelling a bit in getting to do "girl stuff"...although my feet are planted firmly enough on the ground to realise that I may have a DD that will grow up to hate it!

Sounds like you enjoy life and her.

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MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 16:21

Delicious - thanks! I do enjoy her...

In other news we do aquatots (here come the pitchforks!) and it is fantastic! She doesn't need to have had jabs, just be 10lbs...

I only say because a new term is starting in 2 weeks :) lol

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deliciousdevilwoman · 10/03/2011 16:36

My DD is diddy-not 10lbs yet. Was 3.5 weeks prem, Interesting to know that she can start aqua tots when she's 10lbs. ;-)

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MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 16:40

I think it's 10lbs or 10 weeks...

I started DD at 10 weeks (actually, she was 9.5 Eek!) and it really is the earlier the better. The younger they go, the more likely it is they still have the holding the breath reflex.

Where's your local one? I think it varies. Ours is Cheam.

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deliciousdevilwoman · 10/03/2011 16:42

I am hoping that it's Purley!

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MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 16:44

www.aquatots.com/aqt_page.php?id_page=3&page=20 - there's a list of pools here (if it helps!)

It's amazing - DD had underwater photos taken last week.

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lovenamechange100 · 10/03/2011 16:47

blather Maybe IMO is based too much on my personal experiences then, I know looking back it was the expectations I put on myself to try and maintain the standards I had before aswell as be the best mum I could be was a contributing factor to my PND, but then again I AND (difficult pg for a vairety of scares etc) and mixed up with a stressful job) and wasnt treated so it just rumbled on - I am not suggesting this is relted to OP in anyway. So blather my reasoning behind not doing too much is related expectations and being tied to stuctures commitments. I would like to think next pg will be more relaxed and the house will be messy and I will go out, besides I have DS to get to school so will have to beup and out.

I am sorry you have had clinical depression I lived with someone who had it and anxiety. I have had mild bouts of depression since but ust do selp help stuff and make myself go to gym and outdoors if it creeps in, I am always guarded and much better at spotting signs.

Milie Dont mean to sound so boring negative, I just immediately related to my experience. Just go for the classes. But what about your MIL will you be ok about her?

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MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 16:50

Lovenamechange - you thought I was at risk for depression so you repeatedly berated me? Hmm makes sense...

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StayFrosty · 10/03/2011 16:52

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lovenamechange100 · 10/03/2011 16:53

Millie aquatots eh eh how very dare you (only joking) essential life skill is swimming and early water confidence sets a good foundation for learning to swim later, you'll be suprised how much they kick their legs soonish and propell themseleves along on floats - put htat in yer pitchfork

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MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 16:53

From Disney films??? Then I'm definitely going! Lol...

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lovenamechange100 · 10/03/2011 16:57

Millie I have already made the distinction between my response to your OP and your subsequent responses through the thread - it is posts like your last one that have rubbed people up the wrong way, you are impossible. I did not say you were at ' risk from depression'I said it can lead to you feeling tired which in turn can lead to you feeling vulnerable. For the record I do not think you are showing signs of depression.

OP you really are difficult I showed you concern asnd shared my experience quite early on in this thread and other called you 'barking'

Maybe this is why some have 'went for you' and even thought you were troll as you dont seem 'real' at times.

StayFrosty · 10/03/2011 16:58

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MillieMoosMummy · 10/03/2011 17:00

StayFrosty - I'm really excited now (sadly!)

I worked in the Disney store when I was at uni and I'm pretty sure I know all the words to anything they could throw at me! Haha...

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lovenamechange100 · 10/03/2011 17:06

I think your last post sums you up millie you have avoided addressing MIL thing, only responding to me me me and defending anyone who is adves to me me me mentality. I think you do live in a bubble if you cant see why certain things you have posted have annoyed people. Enjoy 'disney songs'

Maybe you are troll afterall.

StayFrosty · 10/03/2011 17:06

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lovenamechange100 · 10/03/2011 17:17

Fair enough stay but when the OP has been show concern or things put to her she has just cont with I do this, and do this and me me me.

Within the last half an hour i have said I didnt mean to be negative or boring after going into more detail about why I took that particular point of view, this was ignored, so why bother?

I have also tried to say about her MIL as others have and most of the thread is about her when SHE asked about MIL comment in first place. So she really doesnt want to discuss what she wrote just showcase herself.

Some of this stuff has been in realy bad taste I though it was lighthearted hence the alpha mummy reference which was meant tounge in cheek.

Lizzie69 · 10/03/2011 17:25

Are you really Denise Van Outen? Hmm

majorydoors · 10/03/2011 17:29

LOL Lizzie69 it would suit I think! Grin but she went back to work didn't she?

Are you really on drugs?

Laquitar · 10/03/2011 17:34

You know that you have 16 years of ferrying your dd to activities ahead of you, don't you? And if you have more dcs you will spend lots time driving around and waiting in the car. And lots of money for lessons/costumes. Trust me. At least now you can drop a 'class' without her crying and begging.

But if money is not problem at all and you enjoy it there is no harm. As long as you don't daydream that she becomes a world famous ballerina thanks to you taking her to this 'class' Wink

I really think you own an apology to pigletmania.

IcingOnTheCakes · 10/03/2011 17:46

I don't think Millie has come across as you describe lovenamechange. I think she just sounds like a first time mum who is excited about her dd doing classes. She doesn't come across to me like she is me me me.

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