To want to take 6month DD to Baby Ballet?

[MillieMoosMummy]

My DD is actually 5 months but baby ballet starts at 6 months (anyone have any experience of this??)

My MIL basically told me I shouldn't, in front of all of DH's family. She thinks DD 'Does enough already!'

I felt like she was implying that DD isn't having a good time, or that I'm not thinking of her, but I swear she likes her actvities.

At swimming lessons she smiles and splashes, at Gymboree she actually laughs and giggles.

We also do Catapillar music and go to rhyme time at the library.

In four weeks we are starting 'Gymbabes' at Tumbletots.

I tried P & T groups but found them really cliquey.

I'm quite upset about MIL saying this and really enjoy DD's activities.

AIBU? Is she right?

well put Icing these businesses do tap into 'they must have it/doit' of todays uber competative parents - reathe spend the money in costa - or stabuck as OP retorted last night (see she ticked me off for getting a high street coffee brand wrong! )

"And I really don't get all this 'pfb'. Yes, I think she's perfect, but don't all mums think their children are perfect... 2nd, 3rd, 4th??

What does this even mean??"

Millie a pfb is where you do really odd, precious and over the top things with your first dc. When 2nd/3rd... come along, you realise how looney precious you were and you cringe slightly. Like my pfb dd had first birthday invites for the family and i put an rsvp date on it when it was just a party at home and i cringe everytime i think about it!

Pfb - like when you got to groups and activities and you get really precious about any other child looking at your pfb. With 2nd/3rd you don't bat an eyelid when little Jonny gets shoved (accidently) by another child because you know it's just kids playing. When it's you pfb you automatically think the other evil child is picking on your pfb and look to give said childs evil mum an evil look because your child is so fabulous and theirs is just a nasty big child who out to get everyone >>>gives evils

Iggly my friend has three boys and other than gamnes consoles they are absolutley unable to occupy themselves and rely on provided structure, the consequences are terrible behaviour at times and manners when people are at thir home. My poor friend ends up taking them to wherever and just flinging money at them all the time instead of quality time and getting them engaged in somthing. Sometimes ive wondered whether is is lazy parenting on her behalf, but she works hard and is always tired.

PFB is a Mumsnet myth.

Oh icing that was so detailed amount of egs it made me cringe and I only have one.

lofty you must be uber cool then bows down to the cool one....

love but is that because they've never been encouraged to entertain themselves? I know me and brother spent many a happy hour making up games!

lofty sorry but you're wrong. I only have one and already I cringe at my PFBness. I remember worrying about nappy rash and showing the GP. It was the size of a 5p piece I also spent ages cutting out labels from DS's clothes as a newborn. Now, why?! I used to worry about silly things but if when DC2 arrives, I'll be more relaxed because I know I don't need to worry so much.

Thank you, lovename

Iggly yes just that - I love to here my DS play with random collections of toysd when he makes his own worlds up and soundtracks and sometimes you can here him 'playing out' stuff her ha done or seen - its an important part of conginitive processing to make sense of what they are learning!

Another example of this is yesterday he was pretending to measure everything in the coffee shop, then he wrote a sentence for em that he had written at school that day, had we been at gym for say basketball we wouldnt have had that occur.

I am very much for the child being taught how to it into everyday situations like when at the bank or a resaurant - Oh dont get me started about the family at the cinema last week who ruined parts of gnomeo.

Donnie - well aren't you just lovely.

Lovenamechange - I have been out actually, and while there seeing how much fun DD was having..

(do you have a parachute, bubble machine and 12 women to hold it up for you in your living room? Because I don't!)

And I bottle feed actually, so why don't you get off this 'perfect mummy' rubbish. I'm by no means perfect but you must think I am which makes you absolutely shocking.

Funnyisthegarden - what on earth does it matter what my name is?

Zzzenagain - it is just a structured mother & baby class that is ballet themed - it's lovely to read a sensible friendly comment in this coven! Lol

Iggly - she has loads of time, as I've said (many times) her classes make up 3 hours in a whole week. That's not really a lot is it?

I wanted to get a bit of perspective on what my mother on law said but instead have happened upon (with a few exceptions) the most rude, bitchy, horribly jealous and nasty group of women it is really my good fortune not to know.

Jesus Christ Lovenamechange I think you need to get out, you've spent your whole day trying to bait me. Inbox me your paypal details and I will happily give you £30 for a month of gymboree so you can lose that awful shade of green you've turned.

You should all have a look at yourselves. Most of you are just awful!

And you're mothers???

I think you should start worrying about your own children.

Ah love that sounds so cute!

No Millie when you put it like that it doesn't. I'm probably projecting my feelings onto your situation. As for the bitchy comments - I'm sure it's a reaction to baby ballet - it does sound quite funny, to me anyway I haven't read the whole thread so not sure what people have said. As for your MIL, maybe she feels guilty that she didn't do such things with hers? I know mine does especially when BIL teases her about being too busy doing housework to play with the kids!

Millie - enjoy your baby DD. If that means going to classes for a few hours a week than do so and ignore MIL. Heaven knows you've got plenty of time left in the week to do stay-at-home things/ let DD sleep.

Ignore Lovenamechange and the other patronising, smug mums.

Millie honestly I have said several times that it is the qauntity - this is in response to you OP and I have said that at times I was a bit like you.

However my other commentsare directed at some of your responses through out the thread, even though I have continued to say about quantity. It has become quite amusing though, you should have your own show!

Darling why do you think I can afford to sit in all day? I never ever made this about money and comparable lifestyles and implied incomes as other have openly said about costs but you just have: FWIW I spend far mich more on stuff I do with DS5 per month than you do, how accurate a comparison this is because of ages and levels of acitivty I dont know but you mentioned. ....but then again if you serious about the £30

Try and see how you have come across, I have acutally shown you concern where others havnt. You are funny.

I don't think i have been bitchy or mean

lofty my point is she doesnt really?? she is out all the time at other stuff for DD, and when I asked her about time for herslf she promptly preplied that she does a list of things - it is this perfect I do everyhting that concernsme but has pissed others off.

I think I may have mocked tounge in cheek because I found some of the comments incredulous! But I have also shown concern and explained why so I dont think I was a bitch or part of a coven - maybe netmums would be better to handle such a question. When I aske dOP more about MIL she neve replied. Its all about her.

Lovenamechange - I really don't get your issue. You asked me if I had any time to myself and I answered you.

Icing - I wasn't referring to you.

never dont joke on this thread or it will self destruct

Millie I know and you seem to do so much I was just trying to warn you (from experience) that if yo try to do too much you can exhuast yourself and become vulnerable to PND when you cant keep up as new mums can do and then when they cant they feel bad - I know because I did this I was ill for nearly a year. That is all, just to be aware. I wish someone had told me very firmly that my expectations were too high.

....and becuase you seem so sorted and confident in defending your position posters have had a go.

Lets get back to you OP

a) going to the class
b) how you feel about MIL comment

To be fair it doesn't really sound like she is doing too much. When you say 5 classes, it sounds alot but when you say 5 half hour classes, so one half hour a day, it doesn't sound like too much.

It is just getting her out the house with a focus and that to me means she is less likely to get depressed or whatever. As long as she doesn't start thinking these classes will make her dd better/brighter then others (because 6 months old don't care about classes, they are for mums really) and just sees the classes as a bit of fun and a way of getting out then i don't see the harm.