to expect my Mother is look after my son....

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while my childminder is on holiday, and not ask for £200!!

do as in did you pay or not, not do as in wallop her hehehe

No I just paid up and said, I won't ask you again......i'll use a temp CM

YANBU.

If she volunteered to take him, made no mention of money and then tried to hit you for £200 when you collected him then that's not on!

OK, she is being very unreasonable and indeed money-grabbing.

To be honest, I know it's not reasonable to 'expect' a grandma to babysit in theory. But, in reality, I'm sure most of us on here, when the time comes, will be happy to mind our grandchildren?

I do think it a little odd when grandparents don't want to help out. To ask for money is unkind. Surely, the chance to care for grandchildren should be a pleasure and not a chore? Especially if it's only occasionally.

I think it's unreasonable to expect anyone to do it for free - my mum has my girls in the holidays - 3 days a week - I pay her £100

I think it's fair - she is a pensioner with bills to pay

when she has them for days out etc as a granny I don;t pay her - but I don;t expect her to work for me for nowt - I find that disrespectful

Agree with Madam - it's the fact that money was mentioned at the outset.

That's the thing MDS he's the most placid, chilled out thing you could imagine!! He's 11 months old and is quite happy to play on the floor with his toys........

Yes gordy if she had said you need to give me some money then I probably would have said ok no probs.....

how close are you normally to your mum? what did she say when you challenged her? but TBH no it isnt normal for grandparents to have their kids i know lots of co workers, friends whos parents never have their kids,

£200 is unreasonable (and illegal) for an unregistered childminder to charge.

Has she declared the money to inland revenue?

If she had wanted money then she should have discussed it with you first.

My mum wouldn't do it for a week. £200 or no £200!!

Normally quite close, she wasn't too happy about the confrontation and she said I was taking the piss and just because she's my Mother I'm not entitled to free childcare!!

i want to know what you DM said when you clearly wasnt impressed and said what you said OP. How did she take it??

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oh wondered what you were on about :)

Your mum had a bloody cheek to charge you after te event. Ofcourse you shouldn't expect free childcare, from anyone but it's a bit much to be shafted by your own mum to the tune of £200 without any prior warning

Hoops YANBU. Why would someone not want to care for their own blood?

That's really out of order - why didn't she tell you in advance that she wanted paying?

Ask her for a written receipt detailing it was for childminding, and whether she has informed the Inland Revenue of the extra earnings or whether she would like you to.

And then shop her for charging for being a childminder when she isn't registered. Does she even realise that what she has done is illegal? Or that a CM would've been cheaper?

And if you ever invite her over for a meal, present her with a bill at the end. If you ever give her a lift anywhere, tell her the fare at the end. Etc etc.

I'm looking after two of my grankids this week (half term) Yes, its costing me a fortune and they have ate me out of house and home, but I adore them and both my dd's appreciate everything I do.

Payment for looking after family members is so naff Yeah if I am taking them out somewhere expensive they contribute (call me old-fashioned) but don't you support your kids, even when they are grown-up?

My father-in-law does ask for 'expenses' when he looks after DD7 but we're talking a tenner so they can go out for lunch. All my other relatives are by this.

But I'm also a Registered Childminder, and from a professional POV your mothers attitude stinks. I have insurance, qualifications in Early Years to degree level, a fantastic Ofsted report, have paid thousands of pounds in resourcing my home and garden, and spend my evenings and weekend fulfilling my statutory paperwork requirements. I charge £150 for a full time space. She is not providing the same quality of service you get from your minder, and does not therefore deserve the same money.

I'd have offered her £70.

Thats a bit expensive isn't it, you should tell her that she should have told you she wanted paying initially.

And that if she wants paying you expect her to have the same insurance and checks that a Child Minder has.

Fucking cheeky, what is it with money grabbers these days.

I'd not bother with her again thats for sure.