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Original poster

to think lovey dovey facebook postings look silly

140 replies

RitaLynn · 24/02/2011 11:04

Ok, so I've got a facebook friend who is forever posting status updates (I love my fiance, I've the best fiance in the world, etc) and it's a bit sickly but fair enough.

What gets my goat is postings on their wall (I love you, I love you too).

I think it's daft. Tell each other, but facebook is a weird place to post it. It makes them look insecure

AIBU?

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usualsuspect · 24/02/2011 11:06

Hide them then

BusyMissIzzy · 24/02/2011 11:06

It's a bit attention seeking. Fair enough for them to tell eachother that, but when it's blatantly going to be read by everyone? Bit weird.

MackerelOfFact · 24/02/2011 11:07

YANBU. I was discussing the exact same thing with my DP this morning and were surprised at how many of our seemingly level-headed friends do this exact thing. It's very odd. I occasionally indulge my other half with some deadpan comment on FB, but our relationship is generally conducted in a face-to-face manner!

MappandLucia · 24/02/2011 11:12

Oh God!! I would normally be the first to agree but my dh put 'I love you' on my FB yesterday! Bit embarrassing, but sweet too Blush. It our anniversary!

RoyalBlingThing · 24/02/2011 11:12

I used to think that until my brother was sent to Afganistan and met a girl when he was on his first R and R.

Them being early twenties its the way they keep in touch.

Now part of me (whilst inwardly cringing) thinks its really sweet (and they obviously can't get a room which is what I'd normally post)

Mind you the telegraph today has run a story about facebook now being banned so hey you just hit the ignore button and thats all fine then.

ClaireDeLoon · 24/02/2011 11:15

It is awful (different how RoyalBling describes where apart). I do hide their feed if they do it.

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RitaLynn · 24/02/2011 11:21

What I don't get is why they can't use Facebook to message it to each other, or it's not as if they don't see live together and see each other, or they can text.

Maybe I'm just an old humbug

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rasta · 24/02/2011 11:25

YANBU, my old school friend does this with his girlfriend, I do find it a bit Hmm They are very lovey, dovey OTT about it all.

I love you! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I love you too! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
But I love you more! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
No, I love you more! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I love you more than you love me! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I love you more than you love me more x 100! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

and then there's also the....

What do you want for tea tonight? PS I love you! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Anything made by you will be lovely. PS I love you too! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

...it goes on and on and on. They live together too FGS! Why not turn around off the computer and just tell each other?!?!

thunderbird69 · 24/02/2011 11:27

I can understand it (a bit more) if they are apart and mising each other. But why are they doing it when they are (probably) in the same room?!

I think it is all part of the 'showing off' nature of FB. Oooh, look at me and my fantastic life..

NorthernComfort · 24/02/2011 11:29

My sister does this. She has also set up a FB page each for her cats. Hmm

CrapBag · 24/02/2011 11:29

My brother and his GF do this but to be fair, he is in the Army and away all week. Knowing my brother for the last 19 years and now seeing how he is with his GF, I actually find it quite sweet, although I often post "blleeuuugghhhhh" at the end of their comments. Grin I am not romantic in the slightest and messages like this usually make me want to vomit.

However a friend of ours has a DP and they live together and she is forever doing it. Now that is for others to look at as he hardly ever goes on FB anyway and we usually tell him about it and he rolls his eyes, so in that instance YANBU. One message was something like "did you like the breakfast in bed I made you and the pasta I made you for lunch, you are such a wonderful boyfriend, I love you" etc etc. Purely for other people to see, not her BF.

I deleted her. Grin

MappandLucia · 24/02/2011 11:30

Actually - the most aaargh! thing on FB is what teenage girls tend to put on...

Post a picture of self pouting into a mirror

Wait for deluge of -
'stunning, babe'
'You're so pretty'
'No, I'm not'
'yes you are, I'm so ugly'
'No, you're beaut/pennnngggg/gorge'

ad infinitum.

CrapBag · 24/02/2011 11:30

"My sister does this. She has also set up a FB page each for her cats."

PMSL!!!! WTF is wrong with some people. I know someone who set up a page for her DS who was less than a year old. Why!!!!

CrapBag · 24/02/2011 11:30

Mappa I have had to hide my 13 year old sister because of this!

NorthernComfort · 24/02/2011 11:31

Yeah, we don't really have much to do with each other, she does my head in.

RoyalBlingThing · 24/02/2011 11:32

Arf at cats

LibraPoppyGirl · 24/02/2011 11:33

DP and did this all the time on FB but I was living in Australia at the time and he was here in the UK! Now we are actually living together, it's stopped and we do our smooching and swooning in real life Wink

willieversleepagain · 24/02/2011 11:36

Pmsl at these, my dp & I have actually got quite obssessed with a fb friend of his who lives her entire life on facebook, especially details of disagreements between her & her partner - we can't wait for new updates as they can be quite a little soap opera!

Have also had to hide my 13 yr old cousin for same reasons, although I find that quite alarming that they are so obsessed with their looks already.

readinginsteadnow · 24/02/2011 11:41

FB is all about getting it out of your system; in the reAL WORLD, PEOPLE WRITE DIARIES OR TALK TO THEIR FRIENDS, BUT FOR SOME REASON THIS has been surpassed by facebook, its almost irrelevant who will read it, its people feeling better for expesssing their feelings. Personally, I think its very sad that they cant just keep such sickly comments to rl. But society is increasingly forgetting that it can interact in person Sad

readinginsteadnow · 24/02/2011 11:42

No idea how those capitals crept in there Hmm

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RitaLynn · 24/02/2011 11:44

I know someone on FB I want to tell to get a divorce. It's always "I'm fed up being told I'm a stupid fat minger". The problem is, being facebook, she's not a real friend, only a facebook friend.

I agree that facebook seems to supersede writing diaries or talking to friends. Very narcissistic.

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FooffyShmoofffer · 24/02/2011 11:47

Attention seeking/point proving.

A mum at school puts messages to her son, who she lives in the same house as, who doesn't have a facebook page whih always followed by a deluge of

" Aw that was gawjuss hun"
" Aw lickle man"
"You sch a gd mum"

Which was the point of it so mission accomplished.

AgeingGrace · 24/02/2011 11:57

CrapBag, where did you hide your 13-year-old sister? Does she have access to water, food and a lavatory? [concerned emoticon]

CrapBag · 24/02/2011 12:04

Ha ha. Luckily I have never actually lived with her (we have the same dad but I was brought up by strict GPs and she is being brought up by her mum who is....relaxed/waayyyy too soft) so I wish I could physically hide her Grin. Luckily I don't see much of her as she really is a spoilt madam. I would never have been allowed to do or get away with her attitude or behaviour so we really don't have much in common and I don't see it changing in the future.

I just make do with hiding her on FB instead but sometimes curiousity gets the better of me and I have a look at her page to see her pouting, all her friends telling her how stunning she is, listen to her thinking she is hard because someone looked at her and she is going to 'have a go' at them, calling people cunts, her language is appalling and she has both parents on her friends list. My dad (he doesn't live with her) said he tells her but her mum's attitude is "what can I do about it?" Hmm

Sorry, completely went off the point there!

crapbarry · 24/02/2011 12:09

have you seen stfu, couples? :o