to think lovey dovey facebook postings look silly

[RitaLynn]

Ok, so I've got a facebook friend who is forever posting status updates (I love my fiance, I've the best fiance in the world, etc) and it's a bit sickly but fair enough.

What gets my goat is postings on their wall (I love you, I love you too).

I think it's daft. Tell each other, but facebook is a weird place to post it. It makes them look insecure

AIBU?

Ooh crapbarry now that is what I like to see - good old Facebook bunfights

Ooh foofy what is with the dodgy spelling?! "gawjuss"???????? I need a translator to understand some of the posts on there

YANBU....

Funnily, I posted a scathing and cynical observation about V-day last week and one of the first friends to comment was (let's call them) BarbaraAndDerek who are so ickily joined at the hip they even have just one FB account between them.

Ick and thrice ick.

YANBU. It's nice when couples say nice things to each other, but why make it so public? Makes you wonder if they bother interacting face to face.

There's nothing more painful than seeing my previously normal and sane 37 year old friend posting a pic on Valentine's Day of her with a lovesick smile, clutching one of those stupid card-shop teddy bears given by her husband. And photos of the card he gave, complete with close-up of what he'd written inside. I mean, really, really, who the heck did she think would be even remotely interested?

Crapbag. Best MN name EVER.

Yanbu.sounds exactly like someone I know.Every update is about how lucky she is and how much she loves her fiancee blah blah and attention seeking photos of their love for eachother and no i'm not jelous just think it's OTT.

Like their trying to rub it in thier single friends faces or something

I know two couples who constantly post 'I wuv oo', 'No, I wuv oo mooorrrreeee' type messages on each others FB walls.

One couple are both 15 yrs old. Excusable (just about).

The other couple are in their 30s and absolutely nauseating. The woman is particularly bad. She posts things like 'I love you soooooooo much, my hunny bunny. And thanks for my breakfast in bed, you sexy hunk. I am sooooooo lucky to have youuuuu in my life, babycakes'... and then you realise from his reply that they are in the same house at the same time.

a girl on my facebook does this her husband beats her I suppose she is trying to make it look like everything is ok when it isnt

I do wonder in the case I refer to that it isn't a question of insecurity. If you love someone, and you know they love you, isn't it enough that each one of you can simply say to each other.

In the case I'm citing it looks like a case of saying "look everyone, I have a fiance". If she were confident (it's only the woman who initiates this - his updates are more "well done united"), I don't think she'd need to do this.

I can't fucking stand people who do this, especially when they live together and probably in the same ROOOM when they're typing it all out. Vom.

absolutely in fits of laughter at some of the posts on here - purely because i feel the same too

i am on FB and theres 2 of my FB friends who do this shit all the time and every time i see another "my fiance is my world" or "i love my fiance and my baby so much" or "i have the best live in the world ever " i just want to VOMIT hahahahahaha.

I agree with it being a case of these people feeling insecure . Its just total cringeworthy. Can understand if its young ones who are dating and not living together, but not people who are sitting in the same room sending each other facebook messages -

I know how you feel, I have a friend that does this, it's so sick making. Some of it's personal and should be kept private. He even posted a picture of him and his girlfriend French kissing, tongues and all on showcon his profile, yuck!

Well it's his first girlfriend in 20 years so I suppose he's getting carried away

I think it's ridiculous and very attention-seeking but obviously that's what some people want to do. Perhaps it's not a relationship to them unless they can play it out to a cast of hundreds?

It really does make me cringe though... absolutely no need for it, you can send messages on FB, e-mail, etc.

I have a mate who does this,

just use it for amusement we all do

I think YABU, its a lovely thing to do. To me it does not show at all a sign of insecurity.

When I first met DH on net we wrote to each other on MSN all the time, then swapped to endless hours of phone calls before we even met for real. I still miss the MSN chats and would love to have a chat with him that way even if we are in the same house. too. Now adays its all facebook for people and if we had met now rather than a few years ago I would gladly express my love for him on facebook. If you are in love why not tell the world, its not something to be ashamed of. Its all part of the fun of a relationship.

Also my dc are on facebook, they love it when I pop up and put a nice message on there to them. We speak in real life all the time and have a very close relationship but they love little facebook messages. May just pop over there now and put a very sickly comment on!!!!!!!! Each to there own obviously, but to me its a lovely gesture.

Makes them seem like teenagers imo.

Seems odd if a couple are living together also.

Why not just pm each other?

Have to say though, I don´t get twitter-posting the minutiae of your day.

It's a bit like graffiti, impossible to ignore much as you might want to. I do think there's something weird about people wanting to display their private lives to all and sundry. Why not just tell the person privately and spare everyone else from having to see these things that you might think are cute, but not everybody else thinks so.

I just felt the urge to say to dp that I love him very much, just on the off chance he ever looks at this on the basis he doens't do fb often.
There doesn't seem to be a being sick smiley available. I think it would be relevant here?

I think the entire FB update thing is insecurity. It's saying "oh, look, I am interesting, honest!" whether it's showing the rest of the world that you wuv him, or that you have child prodigy children who can poo at regular intervals.

I suppose they're more to be pitied than despised, but I do a lot of wtfing at FB. Then I want to delete people but it'd be like kicking puppies. So I grit my teeth and "like" with one hand while the other has all my fingers down my throat.

YANBU. I have a facebook friend who is a mum from my DS's school. She has 3 DS's and she always posts "I love my men so much" "me and my lil man" "ccoking my hubby a delicious dinner tonight" etc. I was quite friendly with this mum but her facebook posts have totally put me off her!!

yeah it is well cringeworthy

but have been guilty once or twice

I can see not point in writting on a husband/partners facebook page that you love them.

surely that is not for their benefit but the rest of teh worlds.

It is akin to dog pissing up a tree in my mind. "this is mine, hands off"

If you want to tell them you love them then you do it in person. or private message. To display it so publically is purely for the attention of otehrs

Its sick, I hate it. And it definitely comes across as insecure.