to think lovey dovey facebook postings look silly

[RitaLynn]

Ok, so I've got a facebook friend who is forever posting status updates (I love my fiance, I've the best fiance in the world, etc) and it's a bit sickly but fair enough.

What gets my goat is postings on their wall (I love you, I love you too).

I think it's daft. Tell each other, but facebook is a weird place to post it. It makes them look insecure

AIBU?

i abuse my friends on fb!! one mate is forever saying done this fitness class and zumba and various other shit so i always put its not come of your fat arse has it!! she often calls me a fat bearded bitch!!

Well the one positive side I can see is how much Facebook statuses seem to have improved my highly dyslexic brother's spelling and gramma. It's rather quite impressive reading their loved up messages because I've never seen my brother with such amazing spelling and punctuation before.

Not sure if I should be proud of him or SIL...

I think it's sad that it bothers you.

I want to speak to someone on FB I send them a private message so we can speak PRIVATELY, not have every Tom, Dick or Harry cutting in. If i post on my wall then that is for everyone to see. Have only just friended DH and might defriend him - don't really like him seeing what I post to friends - I can speak to him in person every day.

I have a 'friend" - an adult woman, not a teenager, who posted pictures of her valentine's card and thanked her husband ickily for it - and he replied in equally nauseating terms!

i have a girl on facebook, she is a sister of a friend and she constantly writes

i lv mii lil boii n mii lil princess loadzz n loadzz

Not only is it 7yr old spelling but fgs we know you love your children, you should do.

YY TimeTo it's ridulous from adults. Sometimes it's so difficult to make out what's been written I get bored half way through. I've hidden many an idiot for that.

I write 'I love you' on my DH facebook..but then he's in Afghanistan and sometimes can't speak to each other for days so if he or I go online and the other one isn't there, there is at least a little message to show him/me we are thinking of the other. I'm not insecure in the slightest. I also put up insane amounts of pics on it of our DS as it it uses less of his internet time up than emailing pics.

Ah but Bluecollie IMHO that is what facebook is for. That is the perfect reason for Facebook.
If your DH was home I'm sure you would be busy telling him to his face just how much you love him.

even if the person is far away you can still send the message privately. To those who like doing the second by second guide to your life or do the lovey dovey thing then great if you enjoy it but realise rather than all your friends being impressed or thinking it's lovely - they are probably doing fake barfing noises in the background and rolling their eyes.

aww just looked at my wonderful family asleep and wanted to say how lovely fluffy bunnkinny they look!! mwah mwah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Something else what really bugs me about FB is when people constantly update their status' moaning about how crap and tired and ill or depressed they feel. That stuff really does my head in. I don't see why people feel the need to do that. Is it just attention seeking???

oh yeah i get that loads on my fb friends melly its soooo annoying and makes them sound really negative and miserable. i think it is attention seeking so everyone goes, oh noooo poor you etc

i never reply to these kind of statuses!

begonyabampot Yes but when that person has only 30 mins of internet time a day and downloading emails/private messages takes much of that time leaving them no time to look at anything else or email you back then you go with the fastest options as you want your loved one to know you care. It may be the last thing they read from you. If it really pisses you off to see someone like me who has a husband in a warzone say they love them, then you are a very sad and bitter person IMO. FYI none of my friends think I am sad for writing that on his wall.

I like facebook as dh works nights so its often a way of chatting with friends etc when can't actually be bothered to talk!

BUT luvvy duvvy shite makes me nauseas. Me and dh don't message/chat/post to each other as we live together!!

BlueCollie, and wasn't really aiming that at just you, but to the lovey dovey folk in general. but as you raised it, if you have lots of friends and a busy FB account (might not apply to you) would it not be easier to send a PM via facebook that husband could home in on straight away. Sometimes I miss the stuff i'd rather read for wading through all the crap that some people add like the stupid games they play, etc. My sil Dh was in Afganistan and their lovey dovey messages were still barf inducing, sorry.

So telling someone who may get killed that day or the next day is barf enducing?!?! DH goes straight to his profile page so does not bother with the newsfeed unless he has time. You can always hide these people, that you find so distasteful. I like to know that if my husband gets shot or hit by a mortar attack and killed at least he last read that I loved him.

Blue Collie - I think it's highly likely that your FB friends knowing your situation will find your messages lovely and touching. My DHs friend is currently serving in Afghanistan and this is how we look at their messages. It's lovely and appropriate.

If it should still bother people regardless then as you say it's very easy to hide someone.

BlueCollie - you are taking this too personally, i have never read your Fb postings so don't know if they are barf inducing or touching and really don't mean to offend you. What people have been describing on this thread from their friends who do this, is attention seeking and barf inducing - the majority of people posting feel the same. None of my friends does this (one maybe just a little but she is otherwise lovely and sane) or I would be tempted to say something or defriend /hide them). my SIl postings were indeed barf inducing, whether her husband was in Afghanistan (not a soldier) or not.

Of course the most irritating thing is when someone posts on their status "XXX is feeling very sad :( " or "XXX is very cross" or whatever and everyone goes "Awww, what's wrong hun?" and XXX says "Don't really want to talk about it hun"

Well don't post about it, hoping people will ask what's wrong then, you attention-seeking moron

No one criticised army wives (or any other service) posting to their husband while he's away. That was definitely taking something way too personally!

BlueCollie - get a grip. Nobody is suggesting that your situation is the same as two idiots spending all day posting "I wub my ickly hunnybunny woads and woads, mwah mwah xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx" when they live together anyway.

But you can get to your inbox on fb as quickly as your profile page cant you? Or is it a really slow connection or something? Just asking to educate myself, not to poke the fire!

Altho, I have to say that I find the banal staus updates more irritating than the lovey ones... 'just cleaned my teeth' , 'just having a coffee with my friend' etc .Argh.

Readinginsteadnow - what would you like them to write? What is it really for in your eyes?