AIBU to wonder if there are any supportive and kind MNers?

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I had high hopes when I joined MN that I would find a community of helpful, supportive, kind and caring people ... Mums in other words!

So far I have found a few witty and brilliant characters but mostly every thread I've lurked/posted on has been populated by violently opinionated and judgemental people.

Am I on the wrong threads or is the anonimity of MN the root of the problem. Where are all the nice mumsy types hiding? Are they just lurking so they don't get flamed?

i'm all about the sisterhood/motherhood. i'm nice, i promise!

I have seen lots of supportive posts, and a lot of them here on AIBU. It depends on the topic.

All posters have hearts and are capable of being supportive, depends on the subject matter.

You've been hanging around AIBU and some of chat then I take it?

There are plenty of helpful.caring.suportive mums (and dads) out there, you just have to find the right threads to hang around on.

Not another of these "what's wrong with MN" threads.

They are getting a tad boring now.

You are right Fabbychic - lots of people are supportive - but lots of times on here someone very aggressively rips right against the other posters in a really violent way ...
It always leaves a bad taste in my mouth. In RL I wouldn't have to put up with that..

YABU.

'Tis a Nest of Vipers.

And that's the way I like it

There is lots of support here- what are you talking about, you complete idiot?

I am often sending bits and bobs to other MNers and many posters are fabulous at offering practical help and a listening ear when it is needed. What we don't do on here is a lot of hugging and meaningless "there there" stuff.

What is it that you actually want?

So sorry to bore you tulpe - I haven't been here long enough to know (good example of what I mean right there!)

gillybean where are they all?

I'm lovely.

Oh there are lots of mumsy types on here.

By definition.

You might have to redefine 'mumsy' though

Hi Meglet

Some are supportive, some are supportive sometimes, some are prejudiced, some are rude then whinge when they get a response, some are vile, a couple are evil. Oh and some would report their own granny

There are lots of supportive and helpful mums on here (see the thread in classics where the poster had a sick friend's baby left whith her and asked for help for a really big example)

Even some of the argumentative threads are good because they give such a range of opinions and can teach us all a lot (I have really changed my opinions on some things since having my viewpoints challenged by posters on here)

Yes, sometimes it gets heated and the anonymity probably aggravates that but it's a small price to pay for the good stuff

pinkfluffyprincess

I think those are the ones I've mostly been 'chatting' with

I think it depends on the board you post on.

Nobody should dive right in and post a thread without looking at the tone of other threads really, and on AIBU its obvious from the start that you might not get the answer you want to hear.

Not all women who have given birth are automatically 'helpful, supportive, kind and caring people ' to perfect strangers.

For that reason, YABU.

But I, however, am nice.

Squeakytoy

Is AIBU reserved for ASBO opinionated fighty controversial MNers only then? Maybe that is where I am going wrong?

I've had phantastic advice on here.
Many laughs
Seen lots or written and real, practical support been given to posters in need

But - there are no fluffy kittens, no sparkly tickers, no glitter and people tend to call a spade a spade.

So get off AIBU and Chat and look at some of the other topics.

Be prepared for harsh truths, swear words , lots of hours wasted spent on tinterweb. And you will be sucked in

I am sure you are YankNcock! But surely one ought to be extra 'helpful, supportive, kind and caring' to strangers ... or perhaps I am too old-fashioned English soft!?

i am lovely. i don't come over that well on here but i flutter in with some of these x x now and again.

oh and i do hugs.

I'm violently opinionated. If you're given to spouting uninformed rubbish about the canine world I'm a judgemental bitch as well

But, when I feel support is needed, I support. :)

YABU as there are lots of supportive and kind mumsnetters on here, just as there are in the real world. There are also some posters who are not so kind for a multitude of reasons and some who like to be argumentative, etc for the hell of it. Just like the real world.

I think you have to remember we post what we THINK, not what we feel someone wants to hear.

Its the internet for you and the lack of face to face contact, people are more open, more prone to go with what they think or feel.

On some threads Im the only furker that might disagree with an OP. But thats just my perspective, Im not trying to be nasty just put a different spin on it.

I too am violently opinionated but I save my spleen for people who ask for it in RL rather than randomly dishing out hatred to poor Mums who are simply asking for advice! I've seen that happen so often on here - it is like a pack of dogs sensing a weak member of the pack! Very motherly NOT!