bulling on mumsnet.

[threefeethighandrising]

Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me.

I'm shocked saddened by the level of bullying that goes on, particularly in AIBU.

I'm not complaining about people speaking their minds. One of the things I love about mumsnet is frank exchanges, that people can say what they want.

What worries me is a nasty group mentality - people ganging up on a poster - usually a new one - and picking apart their story and being absolutely, unforgivably nasty to them.

We teach our DCs to stand up to bullies. Well, how do we stand up to these ones?

I've recommended mumsnet to many people over the years, as a place you can find fantastic support, frank and honest opinions. Those kinds of threads make me question whether this is a place I should be inviting any one other than those with a very think skin. Which is a real shame IMO.

I'm not really asking AIBU. I am asking how we can stand up to bullies on mumsnet. I've posted it here because it happens here a lot.

LeQueen...was that Alice in Wonderland??

I recognise that from somewhere???

48 green bottles hanging on a wall....

48 green bottles hanging on the wall

If one green bottle should accidentally fall....

LeQ - if you weren't quite so fragrant and so determinedly anti-dull you would know that hulling is what you do to strawberries and broad beans

Invalidating someone's feelings is gaslighting fellatio.

Ormirian - is that so? Can you elaborate please?

[genuine interest emoticon]

there'd be 42 green bottles hanging on the wall

Just leave people alone? Stop hoarding in on a poster you know will be vulnerable (or at least when you realise they are vulnerable) and take your particular type of banter elsewhere. Not hard is it?

There are umpteen threads you can play on. Oh but that's right, its no fun is it? A playground without the vulnerable to use to prove how intelligent and witty you are

lysithia - what makes your feelings more valid than mine?

I'd ask that question of everyone here...especially the people who have told me I'm wrong...

Can I accuse them of gaslighting or is my argument invalid

There were 41 in the bed, and the little one said, "roll over, roll over"
So they all rolled over and one fell out

Dammit, inconsiderate posters ruining my posting :(

kaz - I suspect that you take the piss But in the spirit of thinking the best I shall tell you. It is the process of removing the green calyx from the fruit, or taking the beans out of the pod. There, don't you feel better for knowing that ?

What is so bad about lightening a thread that had got a bit aggressive and unpleasant. It seems to me that everyone had said their bit and weren't going to shift. So what is so dreadful about that?

Well said, lysithia.

Perhaps someone would be kind enough to explain what LeQueen meant when she said "bullying ... and why it happened to you... Although I think the answer to that final question is blindingly obvious."

"Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me."

The OP's opening line btw says it all IMO.

She does not care what anyone says against her, she is right and that's it!! No room for manouvre whatsoever.

The reference to "shoot me" is clearly a defiant act, I wonder why we've wasted all this time on a person who clearly is not open to discussion and only wants to give opinions rather than hear them.

I think I'm going to cook Asparagus and Pistachio Risotto for tea

:)

DH is insisting he doesnt like asparagus, but thats tough shit :)

AG I think LeQ was implying that victims of bullying somehow deserve it by virtue of being weak.

Assume she'll be saying that to her DC if they are bullied

Ormirian - I was not taking the piss, I feared you would think I was tbh and I wouldn't blame you.

I crave knowledge, so thanks - I could've googled it but was being lazy - I just told DH what it meant and he raised his eyebrows and said...'oooh you learn something new every day' :)

I'll file that away incase it comes up in the next quiz

Yep, GM7 ... and when people wittily mispronounce/misspell their names in disappointingly childish fashion.

LeQueen - DH and I go to a lovely restaurant and it's known by the fact locally that Lewis Carrol used that location to write Alice in Wonderland....

:) Have some virtual risotto then. Though its the first time I'm making it, it may be highly unsuccessful...

There's no room left to have a serious debate, surely? I agree with Orm (who I have never met before btw), what's wrong with trying to lighten the mood?
Baaaaarmy thread.

before you all go

I'd like you to read my post of 16.43 and let me know your thoughts

Please