bulling on mumsnet.

[threefeethighandrising]

Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me.

I'm shocked saddened by the level of bullying that goes on, particularly in AIBU.

I'm not complaining about people speaking their minds. One of the things I love about mumsnet is frank exchanges, that people can say what they want.

What worries me is a nasty group mentality - people ganging up on a poster - usually a new one - and picking apart their story and being absolutely, unforgivably nasty to them.

We teach our DCs to stand up to bullies. Well, how do we stand up to these ones?

I've recommended mumsnet to many people over the years, as a place you can find fantastic support, frank and honest opinions. Those kinds of threads make me question whether this is a place I should be inviting any one other than those with a very think skin. Which is a real shame IMO.

I'm not really asking AIBU. I am asking how we can stand up to bullies on mumsnet. I've posted it here because it happens here a lot.

Does no one care about the vicious sheep? Why is animal welfare such a low priority on mumsnet. Or am I being unreasonable?

In response to your original post threefeet, well the way to stand up to bullies is to remember that they are often deeply insecure people who need to bully to feel worthwhile. I think if you have brought your own children up with unconditional love and respect, they will develop an inner confidence which will mean hopefully the bullies they meet in life won't damage them.

People that want to arse lick bullies are also insecure and co-dependent. Such is life

I'm sorry Maryz but I have found some of the latest comments towards threefeet more than just straight talking or harmless banter.

There have been a few threads lately that have troubled me. If people want to keep debating this issue ad nauseum as you put it and it bores you, well why then do you keep posting here? Let it be debated for as long as people want to. If you don't like it, well in AIBU style just post elsewhere in the manner which you like.

I am not over sensitive or emotionally unintelligent. In fact I am quite sure about what I constitute as nasty or bullying and am quite happy standing up to it.

Sorry x posted with Ormirian, trying to type into iPhone while feigning interest in playdough with DS.

I think that everybody on this forum is correct. Every one of your opinions, even if contraditory, is right. Please don't complain about this.

mmmm

Dogs now LeQ ??

Yes, she does frankly have a cavalier attitude to naming poor animals who ought to be done the courtesy of having a proper name before being slaughtered. I hope she is ashamed of herself

Sounds like a right cow
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Lysithia - nail on head. But what you forgot - is besides being bullies - these women have extraordinary amounts of time to sit on this forum and crap on about nothing - or keep goading until their victim is shut down. Depressing and pathetic. Get lives women. Find real friends in the real world... and have real discussions - not these moronic self indulgent rantings

"moronic self indulgent rantings"?

Bully.

"Depressing and pathetic"?

Bully.

"Get lives women"?

Bully.

Well, that's just great! .

Not only do we have to stop hulling, we also have to refrain from boring self-indulgent ramblings. And get a life? what will the Internet be for then?

bickie, I had no intent to bully and I don't think anyone else had, although I can't speak for them. I was just being playful and hoping that 3 feet high might join in now it's got silly and everyone could be friends
sorry if offence caused, none intended.

No - not a bully - never have been, never will and never was bullied myself. Just embarrassed at what women will reduce themselves to. So it is a plea - raise your standards - get off your computer - and interact with someone in some sort of real way. Come on. This can't be as good as women get - it just can't.

Bully

Any new posters/journalists looking ast this thread will be getting a very negative impression of MN.

'keep goading until their victim is shut down'

That much is true. It seems to me that threads such as this are taken over by the usual group who banter and snipe in the usual way until the people that have a serious point to make are harrased off.

allsquare it is a logical fallacy to accuse someone of standing up to nastiness a bully

So if someone who had been tormented, goaded and humiliated by some wanker husband or step father then turned round and called them a nasty prick, would they then become the bully?

bollocks. It is called either rising to harassment which most of us do at some point, or standing up to it.

It is all about who has the power and uses it inappropiately or we could accuse everyone who gets angry and responds a bully

I'm disgusted

DH just licked his finger, rubbed it on my bare foot and then put it to his nose and said "mmmmm cheese"

I've just got out the bath!!!

Also, I've just looked out to the garden to see that my windchime has broken.

Look at what you could've won.