bulling on mumsnet.

[threefeethighandrising]

Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me.

I'm shocked saddened by the level of bullying that goes on, particularly in AIBU.

I'm not complaining about people speaking their minds. One of the things I love about mumsnet is frank exchanges, that people can say what they want.

What worries me is a nasty group mentality - people ganging up on a poster - usually a new one - and picking apart their story and being absolutely, unforgivably nasty to them.

We teach our DCs to stand up to bullies. Well, how do we stand up to these ones?

I've recommended mumsnet to many people over the years, as a place you can find fantastic support, frank and honest opinions. Those kinds of threads make me question whether this is a place I should be inviting any one other than those with a very think skin. Which is a real shame IMO.

I'm not really asking AIBU. I am asking how we can stand up to bullies on mumsnet. I've posted it here because it happens here a lot.

Swab!

Fascinator!

Ah, there was a joke on Mock the Week about an arse looking big or far away. Or was it close?

Green & Blacks. I found it in the freezer and did the Dance of the Forgotten Icecream.

There is virtual shopping to be had here? Why has nobody told me this before?

Bugger this for a game of soldiers. I am going to bed and will attack the ice cream with an axe tomorrow.

Do you find it hard though, being only three feet tall? Fell has a selection of boxes you can stand on if necessary

I call heightism bulling on that. three may only be little but she must be good at something. A Hem Length Guru possibly

Ugh imagine udders in one's hair

She'd best not get tangled up in them. Someone will mistake her for Squidward.

And that shitty tail will be face height...

Word on the street is that hair udders will be massive in the A/W 2012 collections.

Sexism BTP. Cows can be bullers if they so wish.

Bulls won't have any udders in A/W 2012, I can guarantee it.

"Cue 675 posts from MN-etters having endless fun and japes with the word bulling interspersed with 200 indignant posts from people who felt bulled because they lacked the vital banter gene without which your life expectancy on MN is severely limited."

I think that's particularly callous actually. Mumsnet is about more than banter for the majority I would think.

It's about what's appropriate. I'm not short of banter when I feel like it. But it's not appropriate IMO in a discussion about bullying, when several posters have come out and said they've been bullied - not to the point of taking over the thread anyway.

You really are like a bunch of bullying girls at school. Someone says they've been bullied, you really couldn't care less what they feel, start mucking about, making snide comments and talking over them. I wonder if perhaps you have difficulty empathising with others and so everything's fair game?

Is mumsnet purely about entertainment for you?

This thread has been an eye-opener. I've learnt just how little some people do care about the feelings of others - even when pulled on it.

And the term aggressive sheep, I like it. I think I'll use it next time I come across some.

Lighten up, the thread is way off course now. It's playtime. You can't force people to agree with you.

Maryz , methinks Threefeethighandrising must have slept through the wake up call , cos she still ain't listening,I'm trying to see things from threes pov but I really cannot put my head that far up my arse . And I am not a bully I just refuse to feel guilty because I haven't measured up to someone else's standard of who I should be."