bulling on mumsnet.

[threefeethighandrising]

Yes, this is a thread about a thread. Or lots of threads in fact. So shoot me.

I'm shocked saddened by the level of bullying that goes on, particularly in AIBU.

I'm not complaining about people speaking their minds. One of the things I love about mumsnet is frank exchanges, that people can say what they want.

What worries me is a nasty group mentality - people ganging up on a poster - usually a new one - and picking apart their story and being absolutely, unforgivably nasty to them.

We teach our DCs to stand up to bullies. Well, how do we stand up to these ones?

I've recommended mumsnet to many people over the years, as a place you can find fantastic support, frank and honest opinions. Those kinds of threads make me question whether this is a place I should be inviting any one other than those with a very think skin. Which is a real shame IMO.

I'm not really asking AIBU. I am asking how we can stand up to bullies on mumsnet. I've posted it here because it happens here a lot.

allsquare, I am watching you

< applies Chinese burn >

[goes to update FB...]

allsquare is being bullied and stalked :( Please come help me at mumsnet.com

This short yet brutal experience of cyber bulling has taught me the error of my ways.
I shall henceforth only post bumlicking agreement posts from this moment in time.

Yes, no doubt about it.... there are undoubtedly a lot of moronic, juvenile bullies on MN..... who take great pleasure in hectoring, goading and nit-picking.

threefeethighandrising

couldn't give a flying fuck if people like you think I'm po-faced / boring / whatever

Hmm and there it goes , POT KETTLE AND BLACK!!!!

Threefeet you just lost your case right there!!!

Right just there.^^on your 15:56 post

Fecking hypocrites make me wanna chuck up!... Go share your hyper-inflated sense of self-importance with people who eat that crap

bulling and bumlicking.whit next rimming.dirty cows

Well, I think clearly we will have to agree to disagree on this one.

But - in future, if you think there is bullying going on, call the poster(s) on it and/or report it to MNHQ Don't just complain about it.

anyone ?

scottishmummy -

o'clock, methinks...

think I might have an Amaretto though

with a , of course

You cannot report BULLYING as you well know, because bullying is not set in stone - what constitutes bullying to one may not to another.

MNHQ have got enough to do deleting vile, personal attacks, so to the people who bleat REPORT IT, REPORT IT..... don't be so silly

is it cyanide that smells of almonds ?

it would be easy to slip some into a cheeky little Amaretto wouldn't it ?

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I think then, rose, that your post is a summary lesson that it is all too easy to misread the intention in a post. And maybe in future we should all try and read posts in a positive way and not assume that they are meant negatively.

And hopefully then there will be fewer accusations of bulling flung about and the cyberworld will be a happier place full of sparkly fairies and twinkles and fluffy kittens

'hyper-inflated sense of self importance'

God if I had that I could have saved a fortune on therapy needed because I spent my life living with people with a hyper-inflated sense.......otherwise known as narcissists

jesus wept can none of you see the irony of posturing,bruised egos and she said this and that tittle tattle

all trying to out do each other in what constitutes bullying and who has it hardest

it is words on a screen.online rattle tattle and its supposed to be fun.a laugh and all that

real life is hard
work and parenting is hard
what some other burd may or may not have "said" on mn isnt hard

none of you emerge from this debacle with any glory

get a grip.grow up

none of you emerge from this debacle with any glory

Except you Scottishmummy ? LOL!

no since i havent spent days arguing toss.thats you et al

where can you get royal wedding sick bags?

here! Much more interesting than a teatowel

haha now what about bog paper?id enjoy that more

I can't find any :(

In real life, you have a choice, stand up to bulling, or walk away from it.

Just like here really.

Wow!!

scottishmummy - you must be able to find that somewhere! If I do, I'll get some for DH to, the Royal Family is one of the many subjects that he gets up on his soapbox for...

Ah, but Hully, they can't stand up to bulling because there are so many different definitions of it.