Wanting to get this teacher fired

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My dd attends a language class on saturday mornings in central london. This week due to horrible traffic we were 30 minutes late to collect her. We tried texting her teacher to say we were stuck in traffic but never got a reply. Anyway to make a long story short - she left my dd outside the school, alone with another boy, whilst she went out to go buy lunch. To make matters worse she told her to lie to us and say she was in the room next door if we asked where the teacher was when we collected our dd.

Our daughter was really upset and cried whilst being outside alone with this boy. My dh noticed she had been crying but the teacher just dismissed it, saying to dh she cried because he was late.

Obviously the bond of trust is broken and she wont be going back ever again. My question is what else should we do?

Some people are on medication too (diabetes etc.) and HAVE to eat: but whatever the reason in these situations you have to make do. Likewise, some parents really are caught in unexpected traffic - although this case does sound odd, it might just be incoherence on the part of an extremely frightened parent. I read through the thread and feel unsure about what actually has happened to be honest.

If the children were left in a playground area or in a closed school frontage area with a caretaker or other teacher keeping an eye on them I don't think it can be truthfully portrayed as dereliction of duty. However parents can be very frightened when they are late and perceive the situation as more threatening than it is. Children do often cry when their parents aren't at the door with the others - it is natural I think - and then don't want to hurt their parents so make up an excuse like 'my foot hurts'. I have seen it so many times.

Amazing really that we got to page 27 before paedophiles were mentioned....

I was hovering over my OP-tall-story-bingo chart with my black marker waiting for them from very early on in proceedings.

Over here Eloise, pick your prize!

Has the OP spoken to the teacher yet?

but what does NT mean???

Neuro-typical. It means having no special needs/ learning difficulties.

Did it take 2 and a half days for the McCanns to be mentioned? Bloody hell.

Neuro Typical

AuntieMaggie - I think the OP must be having a very long conversation with the tutor. She was going to do it yesterday morning and its now Tuesday afternoon.

Or perhaps she's stuck in gridlocked traffic somewhere in horrifically dangerous Zone 2 after stopping off for a coffee in a nice cafe?

oh right. Well my dd is NT and I certainly wouldn't want her left on the street alone in London - or anywhere in fact.

I think until the op comes back, if ever, and it is confirmed that the kids were left alone and tutor left the premises, it's all moot.

If she left the children alone, I think it's wrong and she needs to be told. I don't think she should be sacked. I also think the op needs to brush up on her parenting practices, especially reliance on text.

lol Violet

vintage it appears (to me anyway) that her daughter was not alone and not in the street
but she was in London!

alicatte I think you got the wrong end of my stick I took it from your post that these parents were intentionally late because of the timings of your classes and thought that under those circs /whoever was in charge should have asked the parents to stop bringing their children to your facility and find another Saturday babysitter

Eloise I would have thought that the Brits are generally more uptight about leaving their children than lots of other Nationalities.

I'm also guessing that this is quite some way from a paid school set up with teachers I don't think a lot of posters are taking that into account

My head hurts and there's a huge dent in my wall now

Frankly, unless the OP turns up and further explains what really happened, I am going to assume that she has in fact made a huge mistake - that her child was not left alone by the tutor whilst the tutor nipped off to the shops, but that something else entirely more reasonable happened. And that she was seriously over-reacting without knowing any of the facts.

Because she really hasn't bothered to clarify her story very well, and her silence is really dragging on now. As to be honest, is this debate. There are lots of grey areas - the child was not an infant, and I have no problem with a child of 8 being left for a short period of time unsupervised. However, I do think that this is for a parent to judge for their individual child, and not really for me or a tutor - so I can understand that others may not feel comfortable with it.

But unless we hear otherwise - I reckon the OP was getting her knickers in a twist over nothing.

Are you people for real? You would turn on and hound someone for being upset that her child has been left alone. God forbid that something unforeseen ever happens to you and your child is left alone like the OPs.

schmee - I think the main contention now is that most people (well, certainly me) think that the child probably wasn't left at all, and there has been a big misunderstanding.

Because the OP hasn't come back to report? Would you have? And I see people are trying to identify where the language school might be... I know it must be frustrating not to get information back but I'm not really surprised.

I think she was a bit naive to post here and has probably learnt her lesson.

But really, I think a lot of people should be ashamed of themselves.