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AIBU?

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Wanting to get this teacher fired

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lividbeyondbelief · 19/02/2011 23:08

My dd attends a language class on saturday mornings in central london. This week due to horrible traffic we were 30 minutes late to collect her. We tried texting her teacher to say we were stuck in traffic but never got a reply. Anyway to make a long story short - she left my dd outside the school, alone with another boy, whilst she went out to go buy lunch. To make matters worse she told her to lie to us and say she was in the room next door if we asked where the teacher was when we collected our dd.

Our daughter was really upset and cried whilst being outside alone with this boy. My dh noticed she had been crying but the teacher just dismissed it, saying to dh she cried because he was late.

Obviously the bond of trust is broken and she wont be going back ever again. My question is what else should we do?

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StayFrosty · 19/02/2011 23:25

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LoisSanger · 19/02/2011 23:26

Why didn't your dh walk? And texting not a good idea.

LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 19/02/2011 23:26

Hmm Could you just post all the info we need please?

backwardpossom · 19/02/2011 23:26

Am shocked people think its ok to leave to small kids unsupervised in this day and age in such a big city.

I don't think anyone said that was ok. We're saying you should have been there.

doubleease · 19/02/2011 23:26

YABU - your dh could have walked.

Awaits the post that there was nowhere to park. Hmm

JaneS · 19/02/2011 23:27

Where were they exactly, though? 'Unsupervised' might be fine if it's inside, or in a place with other known adults around.

LoisSanger · 19/02/2011 23:27

Have seen why he couldn't walk. But still you should have called rather than texted.

PaisleyLeaf · 19/02/2011 23:27

Texting? Surely if you're going to ask someone a favour about minding your child with no notice you'd actually speak to them.

magicmummy1 · 19/02/2011 23:27

And I'm shocked that parents wouldn't make the effort to pick their kids up on time.

Surely traffic jams in central London aren't so unusual. Hmm

LoisSanger · 19/02/2011 23:27

Doubleease that post has happened already Grin

Violethill · 19/02/2011 23:28

So on what grounds would you like this tutor to be fired?

For fulfilling the requirements of her job?

You're utterly ridiculous

JaneS · 19/02/2011 23:28

(Fine from the teacher's point of view, that is, not yours! It is annoying, but it's your job to be there.)

GetOrfMoiLand · 19/02/2011 23:28

Well, look, your daughter was fine, there is no harm done.

You don't want her to go to the lessons again, fair enough.

But what else do you want to do? I think you should just leave it to be honest. I don't really think you would be taken seriously in a complaint as you were so late in collecting your daughter.

LoisSanger · 19/02/2011 23:28

Is it just one teacher or is there a main number you could have called?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 19/02/2011 23:28

This is bizarre. If you're five minutes way by car you're, what, 15 minutes away by foot. So why sit in the car for half an hour?

If this is some sort of Saturday school, you presumably have a contract which involves the school providing tuition in return for you providing money. You are not entitled to free babysitting as a bonus if you're late. I'm mildly surprised by the teacher's actions but, as others have said, maybe that was her only chance to get lunch. Failing to do unpaid overtime is not a sackable offence.

curlymama · 19/02/2011 23:29

Your fault, not hers. YABVU.

How do you know that her health didn't meant that she had to go and get some lunch?

She couldn't have been gone for long if she was there when you got there.

BecauseImWorthIt · 19/02/2011 23:30

Of course there's somewhere to park! It's called 'the side of the road'.

So presumably you dropped your DD off and then drove off somewhere. As she's only 8, presumably it wasn't that long a class? And if you're that worried about her being on her own, why did you leave her there and go off somewhere else? I can get that you might not want to sit there for the duration, but why go off somewhere in the car - it just doesn't make sense, especially in central London where the traffic is so unpredictable.

Original poster
lividbeyondbelief · 19/02/2011 23:31

We never had traffic like this tbh.

Left outside a primary school, no other adults arounds. Except passerby's on the street.

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doubleease · 19/02/2011 23:32

I see I didn't type fast enough Grin

curlymama · 19/02/2011 23:32

Still your fault.

Violethill · 19/02/2011 23:33

The state of the traffic is not the tutors fault. For all you know, she might have left her own child with a childminder. What do you expect her to do? Leave her own child uncollected because she's busy providing an unexpected babysitting service for your kid?

Get real.

BecauseImWorthIt · 19/02/2011 23:33

But this is central London. Of course the traffic might be bad. You are being ridiculous if you think it might not be - especially on a Saturday morning.

JaneS · 19/02/2011 23:34

In all honesty, I would think badly of the teacher in that case. Not as a teacher, and not because it's part of her job to wait, but because I'd hope a decent adult could forgo lunch and wait with two small children if the alternative were leaving them alone on the pavement in a busy bit of London.

I still don't think you have the slightest grounds to want her fired though. The worst she's done is be slightly thoughtless/hard-hearted. You should have been there, the mistake was yours not hers.

LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 19/02/2011 23:34

POST ALL THE INFO FFS!

What kind of teacher?
What kind of classes?
What kind of school?

We might be able to help you, but I think you're just wasting our time.

BecauseImWorthIt · 19/02/2011 23:34

And I ask again - why did you drive off somewhere? What did you think you were doing, taking that risk?