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Wanting to get this teacher fired

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lividbeyondbelief · 19/02/2011 23:08

My dd attends a language class on saturday mornings in central london. This week due to horrible traffic we were 30 minutes late to collect her. We tried texting her teacher to say we were stuck in traffic but never got a reply. Anyway to make a long story short - she left my dd outside the school, alone with another boy, whilst she went out to go buy lunch. To make matters worse she told her to lie to us and say she was in the room next door if we asked where the teacher was when we collected our dd.

Our daughter was really upset and cried whilst being outside alone with this boy. My dh noticed she had been crying but the teacher just dismissed it, saying to dh she cried because he was late.

Obviously the bond of trust is broken and she wont be going back ever again. My question is what else should we do?

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SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 21/02/2011 20:03

Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Ormirian · 21/02/2011 20:04

Has she gone yet? The teacher I mean.

CameronCook · 21/02/2011 20:53

Livid - how did your DH get on when he contacted the school to complain?

TidyBush · 21/02/2011 22:18

OK I've read this thread all the way through and forgive me if I've missed it but one thing that I can't get my head around is this:

The caretaker opens up at the start of the day and then closes when the lessons end.

There is no one else in the building other than the tutor.

The tutor has an hour's lunch break.

The tutor leaves the premises to buy lunch some distance away.

So leaving aside the fact that two children were left alone, are we to assume then that this tutor would quite happily leave a school unlocked and accesssible for any passing burglar (in this very rough area) to help themselves to the contents of the building?

JoBettany · 21/02/2011 22:30

Exactly Tidy. If a school is being used for an extra curricular activity, caretaking staff have to be available to lock up and set alarms.

Any child would be able to sit in the school's reception area to wait for parents.

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 21/02/2011 22:37

Utter Bollocks then.

CameronCook · 21/02/2011 22:39

Sarah - where did the nice bears bit of your name come from

Clytaemnestra · 21/02/2011 22:47

Well...technically Seven Sisters/Tollington Road between Finsbury Park and Holloway Rd are three/four lanes and there are a load of estates round there and I can utterly imagine getting yourself stuck for half an hour with nowhere to pull over there but it's still zone two...

Still think the story is mainly made up though :)

LadyBiscuit · 21/02/2011 22:49

Clyt - but they aren't near the river. So it's got to be south of it I reckon. Or Hammersmith

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 21/02/2011 23:22

Ohh heck, it was the original nobdies thread I think. Someone had pointed out earlier that I hadn't bothered to change my Christmas name. We were talking about umm 'talents' and I posted about being able to lick my nipples Blush

It had already degenerated, but it sort of slid from there, someone posted BiscuitBiscuit then someone else posted @@ and I posted BearBear

And SarahStrattonHasNiceBears was born.

bonnybanksoflochlomand · 21/02/2011 23:57

OP - I have just rwad teh first 3 pages of this thread...please ignore the stupid bitches who lurk around AIBU for nothing better to do than pick one's story to shreds.

I teach and would never (and know no other teacher) who would dream of leaving a child unsupervised, not even a minute out of the classroom) We have a professional duty to care for every child (have all of the flamers heard of 'evrey child matters'?) so if a parent is late, well, not ideal but we wait for them. YANBU at all.

ladysybil · 22/02/2011 00:02

my ds aged 9 was left on the street by his tutor despite the fact thta i had phoned her and explained exactly why i couldnt get to her on time, and was desperately trying to get there. dbil was supposed to pick him up but his car broke down. i didnt have my car, only dh's brand new automatic which i literally couldnt turn on. (it had a button ffs, nowhere to stick a key in , and no key either) and even when i pushed the button , the engine wouldn t turn over. no taxi company could make it to me, dh was unavailabe on the phone. eventually i got hold of someone else who told me to push down onthe brake pedal whilst pushing the on button.
i got their half an hour late. she had rushed off to pay her mortgage to the bank, leaving ds alone on the road . her dd lived accross the road. she could have left him with her and told me that was where he was. but no. she chose to leave him on the road.
please dont speak about all teachers that they wouldnt do this. ds's tutor obviously did.

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 22/02/2011 00:05

Bonnybank. I, for one, hardly ever post on AIBU. And I really object to being called a 'stupid bitch' just because I happen to have been able to read the whole thread and can see that the story doesn't actually ADD UP. As others have.

Why don't you try reading the whole thread. Properly. It's not a school. It's not a teacher. It's a free language lesson apparently arranged by their Consulate. And the story has more holes in it than a leaky sieve.

bonnybanksoflochlomand · 22/02/2011 00:08

I'm talking teachers in a normal high school Mon-Fri , not 'tutors' like on both of your cases it seems? Please don't start slagging me off - I am supporting the OP for NBUR!!If I did what you two are describing I would be struck off if any harm came to the child

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 22/02/2011 00:14

Slag you off? You just called anyone who disagreed with the OP a stupid bitch. And if you know it's a thread about a tutor (although the OP hasn't actually bothered to clarify that bit, oddly) why post about teachers. It's totally irrelevant.

Have a Biscuit and a Brew whilst you read the thread properly.

bonnybanksoflochlomand · 22/02/2011 00:22

ooooh - in true MNet style - a biscuit! Yum, thanks. I shall lose sleep over that one and no I'll pass on reading 640+ posts, thanks. FACT - child left alone in London - what other facts do you need - what's all this 'doesn't add up' business. We're not trying to solve a bloody murder !??! Like I say picking holes for the sake of it, like so many other, it never fails to amaze me.

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sayithowitis · 22/02/2011 00:39

Actually, as far as we know, based upon information subsequently posted by the OP, there is some doubt as to whether the child was left alone. So, as far as I am concerned, that part of the story is not a fact. Neither is the part about the teacher going to 'buy' her lunch. We only have the word of an angry parent , based upon what her 7 year old DD told her several hours after the event. Of course, if you haven't read the whole tread, you could almost be forgiven for not knowing that there has been other, pertinent information given by the OP. It is , however, unforgivable for you to call anyone who thinks the OP IBU, a stupid bitch.

bonnybanksoflochlomand · 22/02/2011 00:42

yawn.

not1not2 · 22/02/2011 00:46

alicatte those children should have been asked to leave surely?

agree there is something not quite right about the thread

SarahStrattonHasNiceBears · 22/02/2011 00:46

It is also VU to comment on a thread and call people stupid bitches when you haven't had the courtesy to actually READ the thread.

My name comes up lots because I've been up the last 2 nights with a sick child who is sleeping fitfully. If you hang around here you'll see I hardly ever post in AIBU. I did, however, bother to actually read the thread properly and in it's entirety.

If you are new here, you need to understand that AIBU is called that because it is where people post to get an opinion. Other posters are entitled to disagree. If the OP wanted everyone to group hug her and believe every word uttered then she should either have posted in Chat or on Netmums. They do a fine line in hugs and huns. AIBU doesn't.

not1not2 · 22/02/2011 00:53

thanks bathsheba
love the fact that we'rea ll trying to work out where in London it is

My moneys on Battersea

Although my thought was which kind of nut drops someone off for 2 hours and heads off in the car in London on Sat morning? not worth it IMHO that's why these classes are such a PITA

bonnybanksoflochlomand · 22/02/2011 00:57

oh thanks for the heads up on the mnet 'rules'... (member for 3 years btw). If only there were a 'rule' for others not picking holes in an OP statement and turning it into a fighting ring - and believe me I've been on the receiving end where people haven't read my thread and it is vile. It sickens me. Anyway, I'm finished here.

Bucharest · 22/02/2011 06:26

Thing is, Lochlomond, if you had read all the thread, you'd have seen that the OP's story takes so many twists and turns and contradicts itself so many times, that coming in to support her at this stage makes you look a bit naive. Kind, but naive.

That's why so many people are "being bitches" on this thread. Because the plot is just so thin.