to be a bit disappointed that I never got to choose an engagement ring?

[AmDramMam]

I was with my now DH for 5 years before he proposed. During that time I dropped heavy hints about the type of ring I wanted. (Nothing flash but something a bit unique, possibly antique.)

He ended up getting a ring himself and proposing with it. He consulted a jeweller friend of his who talked him into getting a 'classic' brilliant cut solitaire diamond on a plain white gold band. (The jeweller said the brilliant cut style kept it's sparkle and holds its value.)

Of course I was over the moon about getting engaged and said I loved it.

However, although I love DH, I don't love the ring, and can't seem to get over the fact that DH blatantly ignored what I had said I wanted in favour of something (sorry for anyone who's got one) quite boring that 'holds its value'. I also feel like I've missed out on actually choosing something together that's unique.

The other day, someone was discussing engagement rings and DH said 'aren't you glad I ignored what you wanted and got you that one'. I really had to bite my tongue.

AIBU and should just be grateful and get over it (after all he's a great DH and father) or would you feel the same?

Should you just be content with whatever engagement ring your DH chose to get you?

Yes... but only if (a) you actually like it, or if (b) he had no clue about what to get you and chose something he thought you would love... (whether you actually like it or not is pretty irrelevant if his intentions were pure.)

But if he (c) chose you something totally different from what he knew you wanted (for reason other than simply not being able to afford it) then he is a stupid, stupid git.

Gloating afterwards that he was right that you are happier with something you didn't actually want is just total dickishness.

If I was in your shoes, and he smugly brought it up again I am not sure I would be able to restrain myself from saying something like: "Actually, although I love this ring because it is beautiful and you gave it to me, it is not what I actually wanted, and I think I would still have been more aesthetically pleased by the unique antique I originally wanted."

But that might cause more problems than a duff engagement ring is worth.