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To avoid asking for advice of mumsnet because all you get in response is a flaming??

125 replies

angelicapickles · 15/02/2011 22:23

A poster asked for weaning advice, and rather than answering her question she mostly got replies telling her not to wean.

Someone asks a question about formula feeding, they get jumped on about why they're no breastfeeding.

A c-section - why not vbac or a natural birth!

These days when I have a question, I keep it to myself!

OP posts:
A1980 · 15/02/2011 22:25

I've noticed that too. If people want advice they should get it, not 100 people trying to change their minds about what they've asked about.

LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 15/02/2011 22:25

Great thread. Hmm

GypsyMoth · 15/02/2011 22:26

people have opinions....get over it!!!!!!!

DuelingFanjo · 15/02/2011 22:27

which thread?

I have always appreciated the advice I have been given. YABU to yhink all advice given is hostile.

Spero · 15/02/2011 22:27

I am unreasonable to think that if all people want is validation of their choices, they should avoid asking strangers on the internet?

FreddyTeddy · 15/02/2011 22:29

Angel I think the answer is to still post your question and just filter out the replies and pay attention to the useful ones, its like a MN equivalent of selective hearing!

FabbyChic · 15/02/2011 22:30

I think she got shit advice on that thread, why the fuck do people always listen to health visitors? they told me my son was bloody deaf 23 years ago, no he wasnt nothing wrong with his hearing.

Who needs someone to tell them how to care for their child, if they are ready to go on solids they are ready, how old they are is irrelevant.

Im sick of seeing HV this on here HV that.

In my day you told the HV where to go cos they talked shit.

Have raised two boys who are now 23 and 17, weaned at 16 weeks, in those days it was the done thing to wean as early as 12 weeks.

When a baby is ready they are ready.

All that woman got was its to fucking early.

Assholes.

DuelingFanjo · 15/02/2011 22:30

this one?

I suppose it's because the advice is not to wean before 6 months?

BuzzLiteBeer · 15/02/2011 22:31

I think you is talking bollocks.

Pancakeflipper · 15/02/2011 22:31

In the flames there are often nuggets of gold. So if you are feeling brave or have selective reading then you can get some brill advice.

DuelingFanjo · 15/02/2011 22:32

maybe she got flamed because she started it in AIBU rather than another topic?

magicmummy1 · 15/02/2011 22:32

Haven't seen the thread in question, but I posted on here for advice the other day (about whether I should quit my job and train as a teacher) and I got loads of brilliant advice.

So yabu!

BuzzLiteBeer · 15/02/2011 22:33

nobody got flamed, just advice, even though it was in AIBU. Hence why OP is talking bollocks.

EricNorthmansMistress · 15/02/2011 22:40

There was no flaming whatsoever on that thread Confused Hmm

YABU

LaWeaselMys · 15/02/2011 22:42

Well, whenever I've got crap advice it's been balanced out be an equal number of people saying no that's wrong it's okay to do x.

So I think YABU in that sense.

Also pancake talks like someone who uses the internet a lot and knows sense. If you come back when you are feeling less sensitive you can step back and say well yes they are right that X, and I have to bear that in mind however I chose to deal with this - even if I'm not going to deal with it the way they suggest.

magicmummy1 · 15/02/2011 22:47

Confused Have just read the thread in question. Where was the flaming???

LaWeaselMys · 15/02/2011 22:48

Yes me too! WTF are you talking about OP?! It was all good reasonable advice.

dearprudence · 15/02/2011 22:49

Is it the thread DuelingFanjo linked to? I read quite a bit of it and didn't see any flaming.

shimmerysilverglitter · 15/02/2011 22:52

Well its always best not to post in AIBU for stuff like that. If its a question about weaning, well post on the weaning board, if its a question about feeding, well post on the feeding board and so on.......

If you do that you get wonderfully supportive responses I have found. If you want a big row, and lets face it who doesn't every now and then? Grin then you know where to go don't you?

tethersend · 15/02/2011 22:52

We should have an agreement topic.

Whatever people post, you have to agree. By Law.

jasminetom · 16/02/2011 10:48

I agree that the puritanical natural birth breastfeeding people are unreasonable and often rude. Everyone is entitled to their opinion however, even elective c section with general anaesthetic, formula supporting (body fluids are yuk), working, full time maid employing, fucking great 4x4 driving me.
If the people with extreme views (as well as the boring ones) didn't get to have their say this website would just be one big Boden advert with a few receipes thrown in. Vive la difference I say, there is room for everyone.

jasminetom · 16/02/2011 10:50

Actually I want to scrap saying the above are unreasonable. They are not, I just don't agree with them.

ShirleyKnot · 16/02/2011 10:55

Oh yes tethers. We should campaign for an IARAWM (I AM RIGHT, AGREE WITH ME) topic.

Man, I would totally love that

Mummy2Bookie · 16/02/2011 10:55

Imthe same. I don't ask mn advice anymore. It's mostly a bunch of do gooder mums who pretend to be perfect parents in their own minds and flame the rest of us to make themselves feel better.

manicbmc · 16/02/2011 10:55

Just a matter of filtering out what is actual advice and ignoring the idiots on just about any thread really.

Incidentally, I have been sent a Boden catalogue and am terribly worried that I'm on a 'list' somewhere singling me out as someone who would wear that stuff. Confused

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