To avoid asking for advice of mumsnet because all you get in response is a flaming??

[angelicapickles]

A poster asked for weaning advice, and rather than answering her question she mostly got replies telling her not to wean.

Someone asks a question about formula feeding, they get jumped on about why they're no breastfeeding.

A c-section - why not vbac or a natural birth!

These days when I have a question, I keep it to myself!

why can't we have a "like" button on here because I would have "liked" your post OFFS

"MN is never going to be the place to get advice on weaning at 4 months."

Well it should be. This is after all a parenting forum."

so you think MNHQ should try and recruit some supporters of early weaning then just because someone wants validation for their decision?

MN is a public forum. MNHQ are not obliged to ensure a percentage of posters support early weaning. we are all here of our own free will and our opinions are our own. no-one here has told us what the party line is and that we have to trot it out or lose our membership. it isn't anything to do with MNHQ that the general consensus is that 4 months is too early. people aren't going to change their opinions in the name of balance.

@ TLES

i would love a like button here.

i'll give advice on weaning at 6 weeks if ya like....

ohhh edgar you'll get in trouble

me norty today.

you'll be sent to the naughty step!

Have we got to the "nest of vipers" bit yet?

I do sooo love a flounce

does snake imitation behind bac

ha your not a true mn till youve had a flaming

ILS but you have to be able to take it on the chin bounce back and admit you have been an ass

basically you have to wear out your 'giving a fuck' chip a bit, then it gets to be more fun...

im never an ass mee [grin[

It was my thread... Should I hide?

I do have to say that yes, you get a lot of helpful advice, when I was TTC, then pregnant, then about to pop and now (4 month DD - being weaned remember ;)) it was absolutely invaluable to me...

But!

Quite often you get rather a lot of unwanted advice rather than an answer to your question, and although it wasn't the case this time, I know that sometimes people may be frantic with worry and just want an answer and not quite get it...

Not really a 'flaming' though.

AMBH better feeling it slither up your leg rather than something slithering down ewwwwwwwwwwww

ILS Bet you have been

As someone said earlier - for every unnecessary flaming you get multiple posters backing the OP up. However, that is IF the OP was correct in the first place.

I remember ages ago when ds was about 5 months old, a well respected poster on here asked me why I would do it. Her words were "Do you not care about him??" (), and saying it was cruel. Despite the fact that he was a large baby, it was very gradual and simple weaning, and ok'd by paediatrician. All I wanted to know is how and what, not whether it was acceptable.

And, despite the fact that she was otherwise lovely, that she had lots of friends on here, people still told her that she was out of line for saying that, and helped me with info. Oh, and pm'd me asking whether I was ok when I got upset about it (I didn't have the energy for an argument, so just stayed away.)

So, the point I want to make, is that unfair flaming is not that common, and when it is done, people normally speak up and say so.

The thing is though, we can only do the best with the information we have available. If you were advised that weaning at 12 weeks was best, then at the time that was the most sensible course of action, following the most up to date medical advice of the time. But now, the advice is as close to 6 months as possible, no earlier than 17 weeks.

I don't think guidelines should always be followed blindly, but I do think if you want to go against them then you should look at the studies and the reasons behind them. So if you want to wean before 6 months then I'd do it no earlier than 17 weeks, and start slowly, do BLW if possible, etc. All things which are likely to reduce the risk. Same as if you wanted to break any other guidelines e.g. sleeping baby on their front or putting them in their own room before 6 months or a parent choosing not to stop smoking.

yy, Bertie, and yes, of course, in most cases most babies will be fine anyway - improved knowledge and research just seeks to reduce the number of cases where there are problems, and the severity of those problems. I don't see how that's so controversial.

YANBU.

I have often found that I ask a question and some little point gets picked up upon and questioned, nothing to do with what I am actually asking advice on, and what I actually want advice on gets ignored then. I find it really irritating.

me nah never [GRIN] pmsl

ILS fibber