I've namechanged for this but am a regular
My brother has a brain tumour and is having it removed next Monday. I'm 7mo pregnant and have got spd and he is in Yorkshire whilst I'm in London and I don't feel up to travelling the distance (I feel horrendous most days). I spoke to my sister yesterday and told her that I didn't feel up to it and she went ballistic. She says I'm being selfish and a shitty sister because I'm not making to effort to go and see him. I explained about how hard the pregnancy is affecting me and she just told me to get a sense of proportion and that being pregnant doesn't compare to a brain tumour.
I'm on my own, don't drive and I just don't feel that I can make the journey into London and then up to Leeds as I struggle to go to the shops around the corner. I do love him and I'll be a worrying wreck next week when he's having it, AIBU to not go and visit him