to think that mothers who go out clubbing with their teenage daughters are sad bints?

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I get this a lot now my daughter is in her mid teens 'oh soon you will both be out clubbing together'

I can't imagine anything worse. She can go out with her mates. I think seeing 30/40 something women dancing around with their teenager daughters looks utterly sad.

By the time DS is old enough to go out clubbing I will be in my 50s

I feel too old to do it now and have no inclination to be surrounded by thin, drunk, teenager girls

My heyday is over

Oh god, this has just brought back a memory of teenage me, circa 1997, eyes closed dancing like a pissed up idiot goddess on a handkerchief sized dancefloor, turn around mid pirouette or what ever I was doing to see MY MOTHER and her mate Little Pat who had popped in on their way back from the Grab a Granny night.

Mortified wasn't the word! It didn't do much good for my pulling power!

Disclaimer: my mum was/is v young and funky, but still...

Getorf, I get this too as my DD is 16 and I'm 32. Massive NO is my answer! Not gonna happen. Her nights out will be her time and nothing at all to do with me. Ugh

I have never really been bothered about clubbing or going out a lot so meh, can't see me starting to anytime soon. But if I did, I wouldn't be taking DD with me.

Another one I get is 'awwwwwww you must be BEST friends!' Cringe, cringe, cringe.

Er no, I'm her mother, not her bezzie mate.

Yes we are close,

Yes she can talk to me about anything...

...but any advice I give always has the 'mum' aspect to it, I have pointedly told her that although we are so close and get on well that doesn't mean she can get away with murder or never be strongly advised/told off/etc. I very rarely have cause to, but she knows I will if I have to and why.

She also knows nothing of my private life and that's the way it's staying.

I think its sad to but in general parents trying to be mates with there children

Parents who dress like there daughters

Parents who sleep with guys their children age (i mean children in 20s ect)

Parents who wont set boundries because they want to be the hip parent

Parents who smoke and drink with there kids

All very sad things to

I would love my mum to come clubbing with me. Not in the dress like a slapper & grope young guys way. Just in a going out dancing & having fun kind of way.

Bloody hell. MUST CHECK DATE BEFORE POSTING ON ZOMBIE THREADS.

DD and I do lunch (a lot, we like food)
DD and I do shopping (a lot, we like clothes)
DD and I do 4 hr long blethers about life, the universe and everything (we like to talk crap endlessly)
DD and her crowd of mates come to all of our parties (every time, they like free food and drink)
DD and I do gigs (we have similar taste in music and she likes the free mumtaxi transport service home)

Throwing shapes on a dancefloor with sweaty adolescents dressed in lycra will never, ever be part of our ongoing bonding process.

I was 17 when I had dd. I used to joke about going clubbing with her. Now I'm 25 (and already feeling old) I know it won't happen. I will happily go out for a meal/cocktails etc. but clubbing? No.

My parents went away (in the UK) last year and I stayed at home. She rang me the next day to tell me that jägerbombs were very nice, her and Dad had chips at 4am, and the "young girls" in Yates liked her jewellery and she showed them her bus pass
She's 62, and I was in bed at 10pm... Something going wrong there

I don't know. If I was 33 with an 18 year old it might not be too awful??
Seeing as I'm 33 with a 4 year old it's not likely to ever be an issue for me.

One of mine will occasionally ring from the pub (local, not a club) and say someone's parents have dropped them off and stayed, do I want to go for a bit. I will go then, it's quite nice, catch up with parents and their friends I don't see often now. But no no no no no, I'd never go clubbing with my kids. It's just wrong apart from, as said earlier, maybe birthdays.

I agree Getorf, though I don't like your use of the word bint.

If it makes them happy then that's fine. But yes...it's a bit odd. My cousin does it...she's about 45 now and her DD is 18. THey go out every week and on FB, my cousin has loads of pics of her getting all done up at weekends like the kids have.

She looks happy though!

When we were in our early 20s one mate's mum uses to tag along when we went out. That was bad enough but to see her snog her daughter's boyfriend's friend across the table was and [eeewwww]. She was a right old hag too. Must've been a grab a granny dare. Or beer goggles.
So, to answer your question, yes it's sad sad sad.

I do wonder if dc and I will go to gigs when they're older. I think the average age at gigs is getting higher and higher and I love live music. They'll probably like different stuff though.They might also be too embarrassed.

A friend from school had kids in her very early teens. At a school reunion she was telling everyone who'd listen that she was out every night with her dds off her face on E-she always was a show off. Everyone's reaction was amused bemusement-we were all like 'but isn't that what we did 20 years ago-how can you have the energy to do it now?'
I could understand she felt she'd missed out on something, but how she does it and goes to work I don't know (I am knackered on sofa most nights at age 38 and only go out on Saturdays), but then her kids have left home so any free time is her own...

Any cross generation activity that involves dancing is wrong.

Dear god, DD's clubbing pictures are too much for me , YANBU.

I really can't be arsed to go clubbing with or without ds1 and I'm 34.

Saying that our mum came out with us for my sisters birthday and I can't see anything wrong with that

My sisters 30th that is, ds1 is 17 and I'm sure he wouldn't want me tagging along

I agree

I'd rather poke sharp sticks in my eyes no doubt DS would give me a hand if I suggested going clubbing with him

i am 31 my mum is 53 we started to go to the pub together when i was in my mid 20's and occasionally she would come to a club after as she loves dancing, there was no tagging along it was a mutual decision between us both and none of her friends like to go out because i suppose they are tied down by what they think is expectable in society. we have had some awesome nights, I love going out with my mum, we have been to a couple of festivals together and there was one night we went out for cocktails with my friends a few months ago I didn't want to go out dancing so she went out with them they had a great time as she gets on with them. she is very aware of what she wears and often says she doesn't want to look like "mutton dressed up as lamb" I am often the one to say to her wear what you want and fuck what other people think and as a general rule that is my motto. no I wont be going clubbing with my daughter when she is 18 but if we got on in the right way hell yeah I would go out with her for drinks and things when she was a bit older. there is nothing wrong with having a brilliant friendship with your daughter or your mother, it's what I want.