to think that mothers who go out clubbing with their teenage daughters are sad bints?

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I get this a lot now my daughter is in her mid teens 'oh soon you will both be out clubbing together'

I can't imagine anything worse. She can go out with her mates. I think seeing 30/40 something women dancing around with their teenager daughters looks utterly sad.

I can't get that Harry Enfield sketch out of my head now- "People think we're sisters!"

The one time my mother ever came out clubbing with me, she got off with somebody. I can honestly say I have never gotten over the sight of her snogging some random in the Dome nightclub.
I will not be going out with my DD's needless to say.

My friends mum used to go clubbing round town.

She looked a right state.

Af, do we live in the same town? Near Manchester, begins with b?

I would hate it if my mum came out clubbing with me! Not because she'd embarrass me, oh no, because I'd probably embarrass HER!

No way

I am deluded think DD1's friends would probably be up for it as they consider me to be a cool mum and half of them practically live round my house.

But that is their choice. They choose to come here and they choose to sit in the kitchen or put my ipod on and dance with me. I am used to being bundled down the stairs to play on the Wii with them but there is no bloody chance of me ever going out clubbing with them. Or even down the pub.

I will not be in the house when DD has her 18th birthday houseparty. It's her party, with her friends and I will take her out for dinner another day as our 'family' celebration.

norma...will pm you

I used to go clubbing with my Mum when I was younger, I thought it was cool and loved having such a young trendy Mum.
She was only 19 when I was born so still only in her thirties when I was 18. I am an older Mum and didn't have my first DD when I was 32 so will be well past it by the time she goes out!

Oh no cringe factor,

I don't think my mum would want to though.

People of any age can go clubbing it's going with your DD and her mates rather than going with your own crowd which is dodgy.

I never would have taken my mum clubbing! And she's probably really glad about it too!

"I had dd when I was 17, so I am presumably going to have some sad tequila fuelled second youth in my late 30s"

I DID NOT KNOW you was a pramface, GetOrf.

I would rather cut my ears off and steep them in a salt bath than go clubbing with DD and her mates.

Sad. Sad. Sad.

Even sadder are the teenage girls who bring their mothers with them. I can only imagine the reaction if one of my friends at that age had said they were bringing mommy along. It's creepy that they're still attached like a 3 year old.

I've got a younger brother (he is 22, I am 32) and HE would die if I went out clubbing with him, so it must be mortifying to have your MOTHER going with you to dance to the popular beat combos in her gladrags :(

Urgh. Something I won't be doing! By the time my daughter is 18 I will be 40 and probably thoroughly settling in to middle age. Heck I'm looking forward to it!

YANBU.
My friend's mother invited herself out with us all the time and it was hideous. She was a lovely lady but she used to wear the tiniest outfits, seemed desperate for attention, always the loudest at the bar. Constantly snogging all these boys who were doing it for a dare or a laugh. One of the boys told me they were playing grab-a-granny, terrible game of course. My poor friend was always mortified.

I took my Mum with my friends to a club with a live band. I'm 36 now, but at the time i was 32 & she was 59 - she looks a lot younger but dresses in an age appropriate manner (& so do i hopefully).

Mum enjoyed the band (they covered the Beatles & Stones; & played covers of current bands too).
But she doesn't drink alcohol, only been to the local pubs on quiet nights before & never encountered illegal drugs.

I got wrecked quite quickly; so i found out a bit too late that the couple in front of her were literally having sex on the dancefloor; & the men on the next table were accompanied by escort girls.

Mum was NOT happy obviously.
So i took her to the toilets with me only to find we were surrounded by women snorting Columbia's main export off the sinks.

She's refused to come out with us again; a shame really because she did like the live music. :(

I don't know anyone who has done that. And I know a lot of mothers with teenagers.

I go to the pub for a drink with ds sometimes. On his request I might add.

Ok now I want to know what the deleted poster said whilst bumping this Zombie thread

I can't imagine going out clubbing with my daughters when they're older, but I don't think there is anything wrong with going out for a drink and a dance. I was never good at staying up late in my teens/20s but I did like to dance, and still do at 37. I wouldn't feel old, say going out in central London as loads of people go out after work on a Friday and there are all ages there. If I were single I wouldn't be ruling out men because they are a lot younger than me, as long as they are adults!

I do think a lot of people of my age and older though are "older" in their mindset than I am though. Their musical knowledge seems to stop 15 years ago, in particular, whereas I have kept up to date (well, as I ever was anyway). But then I am also in my local WI, which people much older than me think they are too young for...I don't feel old though, I feel grown up and when I was younger I thought it was cool to see 'older' people out. I don't generally see why people should be so split generationally. My interests haven't changed as I've matured, I just feel more able to indulge a wider range of them now.

Sorry your highness I do think it depends. I was only in my early thirties when my boys were clubbing and I did occasionally join them when out with my friends too,they all asked me out on their 18th birthdays too. Won't be out with the dds though for theirs as I'll be well elderly

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