to think that mothers who go out clubbing with their teenage daughters are sad bints?

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I get this a lot now my daughter is in her mid teens 'oh soon you will both be out clubbing together'

I can't imagine anything worse. She can go out with her mates. I think seeing 30/40 something women dancing around with their teenager daughters looks utterly sad.

Where: I am 36 and party harder than my eldest believe me!! But proper clubbing rather than general drinks/party is just too much (my opinion only)

wheredidyoulastseeit - whare has anybody said that you don't have the right to a social life after motherhood?

I think the consensus though is that tagging along after your teenage children is generally considered a bit pathetic- you should have the confidence to be doing your own thing, not crashing their parties.

wheredidyou,

Nightclubs are the venues in question and and they are not the definitive in "having a good time".
Of course people go out and have a good time -just not always in vomit smelling, dark boxes.
I prefer restaurants, pubs and homes to socialise in.

I think "clubbing" in this context means the kind of place that 17yo spotty youths attend

Where there is watered-down bottled beers and shots imbibed by the dozen

a sticky dance floor and coupling going on in the corners

then at 2am the pavements outside are littered with semi-conscious adolescents smeared with kebab sauce

that kinda "clubbing"

I do go out with my daughters but I just wouldn;t dream of going clubbing with them.Well actually only Dd2 who is 21 goes clubbing and she doesn't do it as much as she did at 18, DD1 decided she was to old for clubbing at 21! DD3 is 19 and hasn't started going clubbing but is going next time her friend goes,

My mum was only 19 when she had me, so she was only 36 by the time I was 17. Also my Dad is ten years older than her, so by the time he was ready for his slippers, she was still wanting to party.

I find that dniece and nephew who are teens want to do things with us when the families get together. My ds is too small at 5 to be embarrassed or judgey (told me today he would never leave home after watching toy story 3).

We want them to go to bed so we can sit round the campfire, sing on the xbox etc and generally get a bit wazzo'd, but they refuse to these days and spoil the fun

Clubbing though.....ick. It's not the mums who are out with their daughters per se, it's the ones who are determined to be mistaken for their sisters when they are out that make me want to throw up in their handbags for them.

BOF has obviously had less wine than me and puts it better

wheredidyoulastseeit - Its not going out it's going out with your daughter clubbing. Im not 30 yet (4 mths to go) but there are pubs / clubs I wouldnt go to in town as there for the youngsters. If I ever get to leave my house again (BF) I like to see a mix of people out and would have no problem if my mum wanted to go clubbing but I wouldnt want to go with her.
BTW I know some 30 year olds that act a lot older than some 50 somethings I know.

LMOA at 'Coupling'

I totally agree with wheredidyoulastseeit.

There does seem to be a bit of an attitude towards this. Personally I really can't see the issue.

Clubbing is for adults after all whether they be 19 or 90 it is legal and not at all pathetic!

I think it's great being so close to my mum and all of my friends love her too so what's the issue?

When we go out we also have a few friends from college with us who are the same age or older than my mum with us is that pathetic or is it fine because they are friends and not relatives?

AF all the clubs in our town are as you describe It's grim tbh. I don't really go clubbing much anymore because of it.

The only decent club in town had upstairs (youngies - dance music, shot bar etc) and downstairs (oldies - 70's/ 80's rock music)

My friends were more into the rock scene than dance so we'd flit bewteen floors. My mum was usually with her sister downstairs.

It got closed down a few years ago for breeching it's liscence conditions.

See in my day clubbing meant wearing illuminous gloves and blowing into a whistle whilst dancing in denim cut offs and a bikini top. My Mum would have just looked wrong

I think if they are frIends its different, the relationship is different. I have friends older than my mum that I would Go clubbing with but the point is they are not my mum.
I would saw my mum is a friend but a mum 1st whihc is the way I'd want to be with my DC.

in my town, the clubs got closed down for gun crime

I used to be in them Tues/Thurs/Fri/Sat/Sun when I was 15-20

I never owned a gun though

Mine will be old enough to get into clubs in a year and a bit. I outgrew nightclubs not that long ago but just in time. I won't be going to them with her. Different if we all go for a meal and a drink afterwards, maybe even the late bar with a dancefloor, we will all mix together.

I think it looks sad too, and when mothers try to emulate their daughters in what they wear, and how they have their hair! Pathetic.

You are their mother love, not their elder sister!

My mum never did that thing with the hair and clothes. She was hopelessly out of touch.

She did look very young for her age. She still does. And she has a knock out figure, but back then she wouldn't listen to us and still wore 80's style gold sequins with blue eyeshadow upto her eyebrows. She said she was too old to wear what we suggested.

She is more stylish these days. We have wore her down