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Original poster

to think that mothers who go out clubbing with their teenage daughters are sad bints?

123 replies

GetOrfMoiLand · 12/02/2011 23:22

I get this a lot now my daughter is in her mid teens 'oh soon you will both be out clubbing together'

I can't imagine anything worse. She can go out with her mates. I think seeing 30/40 something women dancing around with their teenager daughters looks utterly sad.

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vicbar · 12/02/2011 23:36

wheredidyoulastseeit I think thats different, its for an occasion not a normal Saturday night out.
Does this mean Im out of date on the 50th's - Im planing my mums as a suprise and have hired a cricket pavilion for an afternoon get together

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GetOrfMoiLand · 12/02/2011 23:38

Yes, a mixed birthday party is one thing, but clubbing in town with all the whippersnappers - that is completely different.

Grin dansmummy

Totally agree that I am NOT my daughter's best friend. I am her mother.

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SkipToTheEnd · 12/02/2011 23:39

Last month I went cubbing with my sister and BIL when my niece turned 18. It wasn't that tragic actually. It was a fun party really. I admit us 'oldies' stayed in a group a bit more but my sister and I were the last ones standing (largely due to being more sober I think :o)

I have been out once with my mum and that was enough!

My sister is young at heart though and goes out quite a bit anyway.

scurryfunge · 12/02/2011 23:39

A cricket pavilion sounds perfect.

Bliss, in fact.

wheredidyoulastseeit · 12/02/2011 23:41

Well it seems there is last gasp of having a good time when you get to 50, all the ones I've been to have had disco's or been in a club, one involved a visit to a vodka icebar(no teenagers there though) And we are not picking up men as all happily married with children.

wheredidyoulastseeit · 12/02/2011 23:42

A cricket pavilion sounds lovely and you know what your mother likes.

AnyFucker · 12/02/2011 23:42

I am not my dd's mate

She hates me Grin

Nah to clubbing with your daughter, very desperate saddo

Clubbing with your own-age mates for a laugh though, I don't see a problem with that

Obviously there is no "pulling" involved, just bopping

reelingintheyears · 12/02/2011 23:43

DP is 50 this year and so are two of our friends.
We're all going camping (as per usual) and will be sitting up late round a camp fire,in a field getting pissed and looking at the stars.Grin
They are currently about twenty of us going.

DCs all want to come with us.

Not quite clubbing but still socialising with old gits.Grin

GettinTrimmer · 12/02/2011 23:43

Agree Getorf. Cringeworthy.

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DrNortherner · 12/02/2011 23:44

Snigger at 'bopping' Such a mum thing to say Grin

When i were a teen my mates Mum would come with us and we hated it. She as a younger Mum and thought she was cool. It wasn't cool. She was still a Mum.

I would never go clubbing with my offspring. Tis wrong.

AnyFucker · 12/02/2011 23:45

I know, DrN, it was intentional Smile

MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay · 12/02/2011 23:45

Ugh and UGH! My DDs are 19 and 17 and I can just imagine their answer if I suggested going out on the town with them!!

Mind you they prefer to be in their pjs watching Glee anyway... inherited my 'can't be bothered'gene... Grin

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GetOrfMoiLand · 12/02/2011 23:47

Bopping! Grin

I had dd when I was 17, so I am presumably going to have some sad tequila fuelled second youth in my late 30s.

I will just make sure I go clubbing in a different city to dd Grin

And to be honest I am a lightweight so will end up sobbing that my shoes hurt before getting a taxi home (via chip shop) at half 11.

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DooinMeCleanin · 12/02/2011 23:49

My mum is my best mate. I've been clubbing with her a few times. She has been to parties with other friends of mine and if I have people back to mine for drinks she is always invited. Equally if she goes to friends of hers for drinks and tarot cards I am invited.

I can talk to her about anything.

She is just like one of the girls. I hope I am able to share the same bond with my daughters when they grew up.

I'll let her know you think she is a sad bint though Wink

YABU btw.

AnyFucker · 12/02/2011 23:54

Doo...was she your best mate when you were 15 ?

BarbieLovesKen · 12/02/2011 23:55

Agree 100% with OP.

Ugh. Ill be just 38 when my dd is 18 and the thought of it make me shiver..

magnolia74 · 12/02/2011 23:58

My mum is my best mate too, but she is in her 50's and me in my 30's.

When I was a teen I would have been mortufied to have her clubbing with me.

Would love it now though Grin

DooinMeCleanin · 12/02/2011 23:58

Yes. We didn't start having nights out together until I was about 17 though.

mumeeee · 12/02/2011 23:58

My daughters would be horrified if I suggested I went clubbing with them.

wheredidyoulastseeit · 13/02/2011 00:01

I feel very sad Sadthat there seems to be a strong feeling on this website that older people don't have a right to go out and have a good time or have a life.
I've read threads where there has been surprise at the age of people on the site. It is possible to be over 50 have young children go out socialising with friends, go camping, have a drink and have a dance. (what do you think golf clubs are forGrin)
You don't get locked up and forced to wear slippers once you get to 35 you know,

mamadiva · 13/02/2011 00:02

YABU!

From the age of 13-16 I despised my mum and would'nt be in the same room as her never mind the same club. I am now 24 and my mum has just turned 41 and she genuinely is my best friend and we go out clubbing together atleast once a month.

My brother has also announced that he will be joining us for his first loegal pint (he is 16) and actually invited us to his 16th birthday party with all his mates :o

I like that we are so close, I have other friends, my mum has other friends but we have been through a lot together so of course we have an unbreakable bond.

Although admittedly I think it might be ddifferent if she was a lot older.

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