to wonder why a person cannot have a moan on MN

[MmeLindt]

without dozens of posters saying, "Oh, what are you complaining about. At least you have a dog/husband/house/MIL to look after the kids..."

Yes, this is a thread about a thread, but it is also something that I have noticed often on MN.

Is it basic human nature or something that is common on fora such as MN?

Sometimes a poster wants to complain, or has a small problem. Of course they are thankful that they don't have worse problems but there is no need to jump on them and berate them to get a life/grip.

Ok. Rant over. Everyone have some

CrosswordAddict
Getorf thinks it looks more like a mooncup than a glass of wine. Perhaps you could think of it as such. Or a red tulip.

Which thread is this? (nosey)

General speaking, if op wants to have a moan i agree with you. But if she asks for opinions and perspective then i think it is more useful to give honest opinions.

The worst ones are (I am not thinking of anything remotely recent btw) where someone has a minor moan about their mum or dad and gets replies saying 'At least your mum is STILL ALIVE, mine died in a horrible threshing accident and I cry every day and would give ANYTHING if she was still here to '

I'd be a gibbering wreck without Mn!

I like that idea GrimmaTheNome

Mme I saw the thread you mean and you are so right. It wasn't posted in AIBU the op wanted to let of steam. YANBU have another

WHat is a small problem to some ppl is huge to others. Likewise - you may know a MNetter well enough to say "get a grip love".

DM
yes, those are the worst. Sometimes a person pisses you off. Not that you don't still love them, but they can be annoying and you feel you cannot whinge about them on MN.

im guessing its this one
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1143979-well-Ive-just-had-one-godawful-day-that-I-never-want-to-repeat-self-pity-involved?pg=2

No idea why you decided to have a go at me Chipping, I wouldnt dream of having a go at someone posting on chat for whatever reason. I may tell people on here WHY I think they are being unreasonable though.

Yes, it was that one that got me thinking, but as I said, I have noticed it a fair bit recently.

Gemsy
I wonder if Chipping misunderstood something?

Yanbu

and also

well said, Dirty Martini. I can't stand those "I'd give anything for my dm to still be here" threads.

yanbu

Hey who's up for moansnet? Maybe someone could set up a website and we could redirect.

But competitive misery is a mn tradition no?

It can be quite amusing counting the posts before it starts on any thread. Usually four, five tops.

I started a thread once for moaning about 'stuff'. There had been a spate of mean threads and I thought it would be nice for people to vent.

The rules were no judging, no apologising for not having problems as bad as someone else and you could stress about anything.

We all need a flippin moan dont we? I have some horrible things gone on in my life but I still get stressed about my washing machine breaking down and the OH putting the tin opener in a different play every bloody day!

When I had one baby I thought it was the hardest thing in the whole world. I couldnt get out of the house before 11am and my flat was a tip. So when I am tempted to be a bit rolley eyed at an OP I try and remember those days..

I have a few friends who are like this in RL. They are lovely in so many ways but if anyone dares moan about their lot its all 'well they chose to have kids blah blah'

So I point out they chose to marry their OH's but they still feel the need to have a bloody good whinge on occasion.

YANBU I get the feeling there is a bit of competative misery on MN at times.

"You think you have it tough? Well such and such happened to me which was loads worse so get over it you ungrateful sod!" etc etc.

Don't get me wrong, sometimes I read the OP and think, "dear god this is your biggest ishoo? Get a grip!" That's mostly the "AIBU to be furious that another mum gave my pfb a fruitshoot?" though.

balloonballs
I think that the first couple of posts decide how the thread is going to go. If the first couple have a FFS Get a grip then it is all downhill from here.

MrsDeVere
A Moaning Amnesty sounds like a great idea. We should have a topic called The Moan Amnesty.

I know.

It's mean.

I don't understand what seems to be a desire to take away from others something that you don't have yourself. Fair enough to want the same for yourself, but to think that others shouldn't have something, because you don't. Well, it's petty.

Hard life Top Trumps
Disability Top Trumps

All drives me potty.

I need a moan amnesty thread
I need chocolate and have none
Beat that tragedy eh!

it's got so much bigger yet so much smaller

I think people forget that that other people's experiences are relative to them. It is completely human to have a moan and rant, it's a natural way of relieving stress.

It's something I try and consciously remember before doing the eyeroll or FFS.

I'd like to reply to just the title if I may.

A person can have a moan on MN, and I suspect that you are just about to! :o

YANBU. Its got much worse lately, everyones at it. There used to always be someone with some sympathy and a few positive suggestions but not anymore. Every AIBU is just an excuse to jump on someone and out moan them.

I think it might be to do with the constant miserable media reports about doom/gloom/ double dip recessions job cuts etc etc 'you're lucky to be alive you moaning bitch' is the general message on here at the moment.