To think that fussy eaters are ill mannered

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Ie. The sort of child who will eat carrots one day and then in two weeks time tell you that they don't like carrots.

The sort of child who will not even try something new. Or their parent tells you that their pfb only likes beans cut in a particular way.

Don't you think that faddy children or adults are spoilt brats in seriously need of decent parenting?

my son just wont eat, he can last days without eating, however my daughter eat really well.

he is under a dietician and a child doctor and has to be weighed once a month.

he is being tested for aspergers and adhd atm, which may be the reason.

YABU, yes. Lucky you if your DC are perfect, the rest of us are not so lucky.

YANBU about the type of fussy eater you describe.
My ex bf was like that.

OP - load of crap.

I misread this thread title to start with.

I really need to remember my reading glasses.

walk a mile in someone else's shoes, OP

YABU about people not liking something but YANBU about people being fickle and changing their mind.

DS doesn't like cooked carrots for example, never has. He tries other food though. If he likes it great if he doesn't then at least he has tried.

Yes I'm fussy. I won't eat cheese. If you make me eat cheese I puke. So if I come around I'll eat it if you like but you can clean up the mess

I had dd and congratulated myself for doing it all right as she eats absolutely anything...roll on a few years to DS1 who eats nothing virtually and is not indulged or a spoilt brat in need of decent parenting
It must be wonderful to sit there smugly and doing such a fantastic job...well done you for raising such perfect children i'll know where to come for tips.

Always hard to judge.

I'm not fussy, although I am one of those controversial vegetarians (ok, so not a real vegetarian - shoot me!) who eats fish.

I can make myself eat most things (meat excluded) that I don't like, in order to be polite.

I can not eat bananas however. Don't know why, but I can't stand them, and can't actually get them past my lips without gagging. I have tried over the years, as I'm fully aware it occasionally makes me a pain in the backside.

There's no way I could politely eat anything with bananas in it, however much trouble and effort the host had gone to on my behalf. And I would be inwardly mortified too. I can therefore be thoroughly sympathetic to the odd bit of fussiness from others.

YABVVVU.

How old are your children?

2 year olds all go through a fussy phase. Most do anyway - it's normal.

10 year olds - maybe - but even they have a right to like/dislike certain foods?

I personally would rather feed my 2 year old what they want (within reason) than have them starve to death. But that's my prerogative, I guess!?!

worraloadofoldshit from the OP.

So, do tell, who refused to eat your loveingly prepared food?

another, I'm a better parent than you thread

YABU - I am a fussy eater because i was force fed as a child and have had EDs for 20 years. I eat what i know is "safe" but that can be different on a week by week basis.

My children are occasionally fussy but that's part of childhood isn't it?!

Yes, YABU.

Well I am a better parent than all of you.

My 3 yr old ate a kernel of sweetcorn earlier! AND a teeny bite of beef stew!

SO there. All this pandering to fussy eaters bullshit, I mean, it only took 3 years ffs, how hard can it be.

YANBU in relation to adults. FIL is fussy and its bloody annoying. Different with children some just are and there doesnt seem to be much you can do about it. Mine and lots of friends kids seem to go through a sort of non eating stage when they are about 3.

My 18 year old ds was, and still is the fussiest eater in the world ...his sisters will eat anything ...so I must have been a crap mum to him and a good parent to them

Yes, YABVU. You obviously have not worried when your child will eat nothing and is underweight? You've obviously not had to worry about food allergies (which often compound fussiness)?

How dare you say that because my child is fussy I am a lesser parent than you. Really. How dare you?

YABU in relation to children. All kids have some food dislikes, especially when they're really small. But I think YANBU in relation to adults who are fussy eaters. Drives me mad when I invite someone over for dinner and they present me with a list of all the foods they don't like, including really basic stuff like most vegetables.

I was a very fussy eater as a child. I really don't think this was because my DM was a bad parent. She was quite strict (in a good way) and generally took no nonsense. However, you can't force your kid to eat, and nothing she tried made me any more likely to stop being so fussy!

Btw I am not fussy as an adult, and as a child, apart from the fussy eating, was very well behaved and polite.

So OP YABU.

However, I do think that adults who feel the need to loudly comment about how such and such a food is disgusting, whilst everyone else is eating said food, are very ill-mannered.

I think adults who are impossible to feed and make a hullabaloo out of what they can't (or won't eat) often thoroughly enjoy the attention this sort of ill mannered behaviour gets them. But it is a rare person who likes every single food so I'm not talking about people who quietly leave the bananas/cheese/kidneys on the side of their plates.

However, I think it is hugely dangerous to generalise about fussy children. Sure, there are those who have been positively encouraged to be picky but my experience is that those children are few and far between. Most parents long to have children who'll eat everything and it can be a terrible shock to discover you've given birth to a child who won't! Also, even non-fussy children go through love/hate phases with food.

So actually YABU. And ill-mannered with it.