to be annoyed at the 'starbucks' mummies?

[ariane5]

I don't mean the people who pop in once in a while for a coffee.

I am talking about the same mums i see EVERY day after ive taken dd to school on my way to ds nursery, they are there first thing, i drop him off walk back past to go to the shops and they are still there. Then when i walk past again to go home-STILL THERE! every weekday, they sit in the window seats, their toddlers run about whilst people dodge them with hot drinks and once one of them even changed her baby's nappy on the chair.

Maybe this is just jealousy as iam quite partial to a coffee and muffin!I couldnt afford it once a month let alone every day, but really they must spend a fortune and they seem to have completely taken over in there every day.Still, it really annoys me do they really have nothing better to do every single day???

It used to be the pub, I am so glad that times have changed and now alcohol is not involved and the children are inside inthe warm rather than being stuck outside the pavement with a bottle of pop and a bag of crisps in the pushchair - I kid you not it wasn't a pretty sight and the bookies was another favourite for leaving the dc in the pushchair outside in the 70's

Of course they spent far more and walked them home drunk

maybe iam just jealous, my life isnt much fun at present and the thought of being somebody else just appeals in general.

Ariane - next time you are passing why not step in out of the rain say 'can I join you' order a latte and kick back. Go for it.

Usual suspect LOL!!
YABU OP! So what....

Actually I don my hairshirt sackcloth and ashes after school and nursery drop off and then Go Home And Cleanse Myself by scrubbing the floor before hoisting myself onto my cross until it's time to get DD2. DD3 watches Cbeebies.

twinterror- i wish i could but i cant have a lot of problems, my 3 dc all have a genetic condition so have a lot of hosp appts and 2 youngest are severely allergic to amongst many things milk and when ive ever been to a cafe before and they have touched the table/sat in the highchair their throats have swollen up.

i spend my life trudging from school to pre school to hosp appts/physio etc and i think that yes iam jealous, jealous that they all look happy, their children can run about ,that they have the money to buy nice things and that they (probably) have husbands/partners whilst iam obviously a bitter jealous person.

there ive said it, it wasnt really just about the cakes and coffee its everything

Then next time tell us what the problem really is and wallow in the full blanket of Mnet support. Sorry you're having a tough time. Please try to dealt with the real problems and seek advice and help for them - that way everyone will give of their best.

I hope things get better for you.

im sorry, i think i really just wanted to have a moan in a 'normal' way if you know what i mean rather than go into everything, seeing the mums all there the last few days when ive been so cold, lonely and fed up has just been the final straw.

I wanted to get it all of my chest without having to go into the real issues too much as i feel as though iam a boring person because the only topic of conversation i have is my dc being unwell/hospital appts/how knackered iam and i wanted to try and not mention it just for once and see if i could get people to understand without all that added to it,to have people agree or disagree on the face value of it and not know really what a mess my life is.

Iam sorry for diverting things from what was really the issue

I haven't read all the posts but ...

Tbh I'm a bit grateful for them wasting their time in there every day. They keep my local Starbucks in business, and because they bring their kids, Starbucks has to become child friendly. That means I have a child friendly Starbucks to visit every now and then as it pleases me

ariane5 - you may have found an alternative coffee shop here and you will always be welcome. The coffee is a bit - well variable - but the people here will make you laugh. Muffins are always huge and never ever calorific.

So don't be lonely. So sorry you have a poorly little one - you must be exhausted and demoralised.

Pull up a chair. There is always someone here...

The Hazlenut Hot chocolate is sooo good... (I'm not in there every day but I do go in there sometimes)

the only thing is, I've just found out the drink I drink (Hazlenut Hot Chooclate with Cream) is over 500 calories!! Time to stop me thinks!!

ariane5, I am sorry to hear about your children's health. As Punkatheart said, you will find that chat with other parents here, and the coffee won't cost you as much as at a cafe. It is a heavy burden when your kids are chronically unwell,and money is tight, you certainly can't be blamed for wishing for a less restricted life. You are only human.
Hope sunnier days are ahead for you.

maybe they're avoiding the landlord. Or their houses are so scabby they can't bear to spend the day there.. There's plenty of reasons that you can make up which could negate any jealousy on your part.
Sorry to hear about your dc, as others have said, MN is way better than starbucks and there's plenty of support. Just ask

Its important for babies and toddlers to have routine but not going to Starbucks every day,but may be the mothers cant read and are unable to entertain their children at home.What part of Essex do you live in?

when i was on full time mat leave i recall that meeting a friend for a coffee was the absolute highlight of a day and made life worth living so in short YABU.

now i'm running late go to get my coffee/babycino fix at a local caf before hitting soft play.

Ariane so sorry to hear about your childrens medical problems, it must be a real challenge and to not even be able to go into a cafe iwth them in case they get ill off touching the table is a real inhibitor in daily life. How about - choose a day when after drop off you don't have to go to the hospital, and invite another mum (from school? nursery? toddler group?) around to your house for a coffee and chat. that way you get some adult interaction and a chance to have a coffee without the risks involved for your dcs in going in a cafe. Is there someone you could ask?

thankyou for the support, i have a few people i chat too but its been hard to make friends as my life is so busy with all the appts, day to day stuff etc.doesnt help that im usually late for pre school etc as ds has physio every morning so when i get there the other mums have gone.

I think its just a bit of 'normality' im after, maybe i will try to meet up with somebody for a chat, i just worry that im boring though as all i seem to have to focus on is all my problems and id just like to be able to chat about normal things but ive forgotten what that is!

Good god! Why be mad at mums in coffee shops there are far worse things going on - mums are allowed to be social in the world outside the home too! It seems SAHMs can never get it right! Even other mums have it in for them . Bumping this thread as this attitude sucks!!!!

OP sorry for your situ by the way!

WTF has it got to you? Get a grip.

Sorry- just read your other posts. Sorry you're having a hard time, but bitterness towards others ain't gonna help you feel better. For all you know, they may also be having a rough time and perhaps meeting up is their way of staying sane.

Leave her be, this is a month old.