to be annoyed at the 'starbucks' mummies?

[ariane5]

I don't mean the people who pop in once in a while for a coffee.

I am talking about the same mums i see EVERY day after ive taken dd to school on my way to ds nursery, they are there first thing, i drop him off walk back past to go to the shops and they are still there. Then when i walk past again to go home-STILL THERE! every weekday, they sit in the window seats, their toddlers run about whilst people dodge them with hot drinks and once one of them even changed her baby's nappy on the chair.

Maybe this is just jealousy as iam quite partial to a coffee and muffin!I couldnt afford it once a month let alone every day, but really they must spend a fortune and they seem to have completely taken over in there every day.Still, it really annoys me do they really have nothing better to do every single day???

Do you think we women have always been so judgemental about one another?

Scene: Cavewomen passing cave

'Um those ones spend too long at well. All they do talk. Me have to go strip bark and check man for fleas. Me mad.'

or

'That one not feed mammoth to child. She say it harm. Berries she give. What she thinking?'

(With apologies to Armstrong and Miller, with whom these scenes are indebted)

I doff my cap to the deluded posters on here who think anyone would be jealous of some mothers who choose to sit paying for shite coffee, in shite surroundings, on pleather sofas AND feel smug about it.

They could at least go and clog the sofas up in a Wetherspoons. Their smugness would be justified by the knowledge that they'd be drinking cheap wine and their little ones could happily munch on the reconstituted turgers or whatever crud they serve up.

YABU. And it's not worth wasting your time thinking about. I do admit to the same thought about my neighbour who has four school aged children, doesn't work and pops into the local coffee shop every day. But it's her business, she is lovely and i am just REALLY JEALOUS!!!! :) Even if that makes me deluded :)

Punk - v gd.

'That one not feed mammoth to child. She say it harm. Berries she give. What she thinking?'

hee hee

OP I know what you mean - I have always wanted to be one of those ladies who has nothing better to do than sit in coffee shops all day!!! How lovely! But sadly I have to work every morning (and evening) so only get afternoons for the occasional Costa trip (Starbucks is grim)....sigh.....console yourself with the fact that the coffee's shit and they will get fat. That's what I do!!!

I bet as soon as one of them gets up to go to the loo, the others all start bitching about her. .

I'd be very bored. Plus all that bad tasteless coffee wouldn't be doing me any good either.

DD & I occasionally hang out at Pret where I like the coffee, they have great window seats if it's too cold to sit outside on the square. But never for more than an hour or so.

So things look really really appealing when you are skint (or working FT and therefore are time poor) & you feel as though you are missing out, but really they aren't appealing at all and if you actually had the choice to do what they are doing you'd find oodles of other more enjoyable ways to spend your time.

if were me going there daily, i'd feel guilty about the money spent, it would never be a treat as would take it for granted, and i'm sure i'd end up the size of a house. but that's just me and i'm sure many would disagree. I would totally die of boredoom too. It's just another cafe.

Libra, they are still parenting, they probably still spend plenty of time at home with their children and, depending on age, their children are probably much happier out and about with them than stuck in a single room at a childcare centre. Why does parenting have to be miserable and lonely? Why shouldn't people try to enjoy any job they do?

If it were really three hours everyday then that would be too much but I'm sure that's an exaggeration. I can't imagine anyone managing to keep a toddler in a cafe for that long.

You are not missing much, except maybe the social aspect. Starbucks sells coffee flavored drinks, their coffee is like dishwater. I tried a cup of their coffee once (only because we were on vacation and it was the only coffee place we found open) and threw it away, ugh. I would never give money to them anyways, places like that ruin the small independent coffee shops.

Buy yourself some nice coffee to make at home, bake a fresh tray of muffins and invite someone over to share them with you instead!
Soon it will be spring and you can take a thermos to the park.

Ommyfeet has a good idea. I'm sorry if I was mean to op - it must be fairly unpleasant to have to walk past the same group everyday if you fancy a coffee but can't get one. It is quite an inexpensive outing for us here.

I've been to starbucks twice this week!! I guess there's no hope for me bonsoir? I must already be brain dead. But what about my child?!? Will he be brain dead too now? Damn that grande skinny latte for breaking my son.

If I could go to Starbucks every day for my morning coffee and muffin I would, I'm jealous!

Bonsoir 'I suppose that the DCs of mothers who enjoy Starbucks will probably grow up to be as brain-dead as their mothers, so no real harm is being done'

WTF?!?! I do have a bad coffee habit and pop in quite a lot (but only for 20 mins if I have a toddler or older child with me). But am very very confused at how drinking coffee makes my children and I brain dead

Do they think they're in Friends?

Why the fuck shouldn't they sit in Starbucks all year if they want?

What an utterly weird thing to notice and/or care about.

I have to say, OP, that you don't know their private stories. For the best part of a year, I sat in Starbucks every morning for four hours. Latte after fricking latte. Reading some crappy novel. Eating cupcakes to feel good yet feeling awful. Smiles and laughs with the staff that actually made me want to cry. Wasting hundreds of pounds, I imagine. I bet everyone thought 'lucky girl, relaxing!'. I had no job and I'd had a miscarriage. I looked out at the people walking by: people rushing to work, people pushing their babies. And I just sat there, wishing my life away, no purpose to my existence at all, latte after fricking latte.

I'm happy now and I hope you find something that makes you feel content and carefree, OP. It makes such a difference.

poor smoked pussies

Are the babies and toddlers happy?

Can they afford the Starbucks prices every day?

If so then what's the problem?

This does sound kinda like jealousy.

Why don't you go in and say hello? You could probably sit with them and chat even without buying anything.

YANBU

How can they have TIME to go to Starbucks every day? Genuine question. And keeping an eye on bored toddlers in a crowded coffee shop sounds very stressful to me.