AIBU to think that people should dress appropriately to the office??

[tinkgirl]

I really don't want to come into work and catch a glimpse of everything and I mean EVERYTHING when someone bends over to put paper in the photocopier. Lovely outfit for a night out but not the office.

am I being a prude?

oh i always used to get told off for what i wore to work :o (pre kids when i worked in an office)

short skirts, tight trousers, low cut tops, midriff baring etc and it was always by female bosses that were usually a) older and b) fatter than me. i would then go and bitch to the men i had been told off and they would tell me not to worry as they were probably just jealous of my sexiness!

DISCLAIMER - i am now 31 and had 2 kids, i really dont think anyone would be jealous of me now, sadly! :o

Well, you probably are being a bit unreasonable, and a small part of me thinks "if you've got it, flaunt it". But I agree that sometimes it is too much. I don't think you're a prude and I do think girls who dress in that way will find it more difficult to have their other contributions taken seriously!

it's just that it has happened now a couple of times by different people in the office. I'm starting to think that I have to keep my head down.

It's bad enough when it's low cut tops but IMO it's abit much when it's the other end IFKWIM

Sexiness generally has no place in the office. Brains, talent, effort do.

also - remember that these girls who dress inappropriately for work probably won't progress in the work place as they will be seen as unprofessional. i never progressed at work and i am sure that was why. it shows a bit of a contempt for authority, not dressing professionally. and that was part of the reason i used to dress a bit sluttily, because i hated work and it was fun to rebel a bit.

If you have brains, you know not to dress like this. Which is why they are bent over the photocopier, and not something more taxing....

I'm at the other end of the spectrum. I wear jeans to work. I work for a charity and most of us look casual. A new woman has started and she's forever moaning that some of us (me) don't look smart enough. She wears twin set and pearls which is fine for her but def not for me

I've always thought sexiness should leave a lot to the imagination. Anything else is plain brassiness. My DH would enjoy it though, but he has very little imagination.

we don't have a dress code as such but are expected to dress appropriately for what we have in our diaries for that day - sometimes I wear jeans if I'm in the office or on duty but if working outside the office then it's much more professional.

I really don't want to see their arses.

I'm glad you've matured a bit in your attitude, supervixen (I hope). It sounds like you were super-irritating and unprofessional.

YANBU.

Yanbu

I think it's inappropriate.

Never worked in an office though so I haven't got a strong opinion on this.

I think overtly sexy dressing in the average office shows a) someone who doesn't have the skill to dress any other way b) someone who gets some sense of self-worth by being seen as the "sexy" one at work (usually by the "dodgy" guys).

I do recognise that those young and pretty ones have the body/looks to carry it off (hopefully!) but at the same time I think they think it gives them a power when in fact it gives too much of their power away - the sexier it is, the more patronised/ridiculed behind back by both men and women IMO. It's not just women bitching about it. The men also bitch!

I do find sexy office dressing quite funny...in office next door (providers for my office) they are currently in the middle of what i call a 'tights war'(who can wear the most outrageously scary/inappropriate tights ona given day with killer heels) hilarious!

i really was BOF

it embarasses me now tbh. and i hope my DD never behaves like i did. i was always the office flirt and loved all the male attention, little did i know then it was probably just because they all assumed i was easy.

i also used to wonder why i never made any female friends at work....

squaredance yes, (b) was me.

YANBU

Give it a few more years and wearing pyjamas will probably be acceptable :(

Most people with decorum and common sense know what is suitable dress code for an office and what is meant for a party..

The HR team at dp's office dress very revealingly.. they also make inappropriate and suggestive comments to the male staff, people are uncomfortable but if HR are causing the issue who do you go to?

I've seen them and they do look very cheap

SV, you sound like you used to be an absolute mare

were you popular with your female colleagues ?

I have to admit.. when I was younger the hotter the weather the shorter the skirt... @ self..

I am washing out my brain at the thought of "everything and I mean EVERYTHING" .

I did have lots of friends though..male and female..

oh thank god it isn't just me. was begining to think that I am getting old.

It's mainly women in the office so TBH I don't think that they do it intentionally or to flirt. I think it's just the way that they dress. I just think that people should have more common sense in relation to what's appropriate.

Viola - when it happened, I did think 'shit now I'm going to have to go home and bleach my brain'