AIBU to think that people should dress appropriately to the office??

[tinkgirl]

I really don't want to come into work and catch a glimpse of everything and I mean EVERYTHING when someone bends over to put paper in the photocopier. Lovely outfit for a night out but not the office.

am I being a prude?

Pan - you're judging me when there's no equivalent in your opinion, to see if I would be just as judgemental of men (I would). I don't think I'm being anti-feminist, I am being anti-sexy-ie-revealing-dressing-in-the-office-by-males-OR-females.

My position is more from a perspective of appropriateness. I would not judge a short skirt and a low-cut top or the male equivalent (tight t? tight string vest? tight lunchbox revealing pants?) in a nightclub, or make judgements about the wearer. I would and do judge the appropriateness of it in an office environment.

I wouldn't judge it on holiday, I would judge it on a doctor in a doctor's surgery. I would judge it on a funeral director at a funeral. I would judge it on a headmistress at a school. I wouldn't judge it at a shopping centre, or a funfair, or a festival, or a gig. It is NOTHING to do with feminism and EVERYTHING to do with appropriateness (IMO).

Put that in your bowl and eat it

PS I take back not judging tight lunchbox revealing pants in a nightclub environment. I would judge. Eww.

Maybe UBS was on the right lines after all:

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The judgement level are uneven in whatever setting. I have said I wouldn't dein to tell a woman how to dress, not through cowardice or being 'right-on' or for my own leering purposes being satisfied.

Appropriateness and feminism ARE intimately inter-twined and one cannot be divorced from the other. I am just finding women are judging other women v. harshly and that is an obstacle to emancipation(good olde 1970's word for you!).

So put that in your chimanea and burn it.

I don't see the issue. Used to work for a very male dominated company and the air conditioning never worked, in summer we roasted so wore vest tops. Not revealing just perhaps a bit of shoulder. In my experience it was always the men of the office who complained, one stating he couldn't concentrate with skin on show. I find it funny people are so bothered. All I worry about is can they do their job.

I'm loving the different types of cooking methods

Any woman who dresses like a slag to come to work displays a serious lack of judgment. She is begging not to be taken seriously.

Can I just say that cleavage has no place in a professional setting.

Understated elegance (flattering fit, good quality and cut of the clothes) is far sexier, or shall I say stylish , and works for all ages.

waiting for..put that in your Foreman and Grill it...

at string vest

I wouldn't mine some attractive bodies in nice clothes.Heavens, I have had enough of great big oafs huffing and opuffing in, wearing appalling outfits and just looking slovenly. Ill fitting, smeary fake tan, roots showing, cracked heels on display.,

Yuck.
And they wonder why they have no authority.
I'm with Nicky Haslam. It's vain not to make an effort and just assume it is ok to impose your slovenly ways on tohers.

We have a duty to look our very best in work.

The judgement styles are perhaps wholely from a patriarchal perspective i.e. we need to control these womnen's sexuality and to "show" that we are. I don't have my head turned by cleavage, and most/a lot of men I know don't. This isn't the issue.

So put that on your BBQ and grill it. (for mumcentreplis!).

LOL Mumcentreplus, I like to see how many times I can use the word Judge in a post (whatever floats my boat hey )

Pan, don't you think men are just as good as J- (won't use the word again) as women are, except less of them come on MN to express it? Is it appropriate for a funeral director (male or female) to wear a revealing outfit to work, or a doctor (male or female) to wear a revealing outfit to conduct their appointments, and is it harsh to not like it? Colleagues are in a sense customers of each other. Why would it be OK to see revealing dress in the office (if that's not the general dress code of said office) but not in a funeral director who you had appointed for your family member's burial, or your doctor when you visited the surgery?

Judging (in your terms) I would think to be "Ohh, look at her, what a slapper, she looks a right tart, she's got her boobs hanging out, who does she think she is". I don't think that (nor do a lot on here by the sounds of it). It's more a case of "I don't want to see your boobs or bum of a working day in the office" when someone is dressed revealingly.

I don't have a chimnea BTW, so I will put it in my oven and burn it instead

Dresses like a slag?...oh dear..

I take what everyone says with a pinch of salt and kid gloves...you will always have the sexy types, the frumpy types, the inbetweeners...it's the level of distraction caused and tbh to whom...some will whinge about everything...and nothing

hi moonie! are you fine?

Yes thank you Pan.Long time no speak.#Am sniggering at your witty ripostes.

Got any good music on the go these days?

[grin]@Pan...then man with a pan

or is that 'plan'?...

um..not really moonie. I have been redicovering old opera stuff since my car cd was fixed, so drive to work with Mme Butterly and go home with Carmen, so commuting is great!

dd is still street dancing and just turned 11!

Mumcentreplus? It's both!

he forgot to add interjected by Snoop Dog, Britney Spears and Al Green

blueshoes,

What do you mean by 'slag', assuming you're not just being offensive and misogynistic?

Al Green, yes. Nooo idea about the other artistes!

come on square, I've loads of culinary figuaratives left!

put that in your slow cooker and simmer it..

looks @ Pan and realises he probably wears socks and sandals...poor dear...but you are forgiven for Al Green appreciation..

put that on your spit and roast it!

Socks AND sandals!!

So put that in your steamer and...well..you know.

ha!..That's me and my jeans....