to think men seem to have taken to MN in their droves recently......and I don't like it

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Every thread I go on, there are men putting forward their opinion

I have enough of men in RL. AIBU thinking they should bog off to DN or go play the X Box or something?

HB - I think I could tell you of one female who does this 'mansplaining' thing on MN, but it would be a personal attack to identify her.

Right then, time for some Snooker with Marco Fu vs Ding Junhui at Wembley. Let's hope Jamie Cope gets into the final match next year.

But mansplaining loses its meaning if you take away the 'man' component. It then just becomes a synonym for 'patronising'. The very point of the word is to describe the behaviour of a member of the privileged gender to a member/members of the unprivileged gender. So women are simply not capable of mansplaining (but we're perfectly capable of being patronising ).

So does this person who does the mansplaining thing feel she has a god-given right to be listened to because she has been raised to believe that her opinion is automatically worth something, irrespective of it not being based on any knowledge of the subject matter, while the opinion of the members of the opposite sex, can be discounted because they're not as grown up as you, even if they know more about the subject than you, NetworkGuy?

skirt - about your 'Gingerbread - Hugh Grant' comment way back up thread about the motives of men being on MN.

I'm here because I am a parent and I also like talking to people on internet forums. I go on quite a few different forums/blogs and all very dominated by men. This is the only one dominated by women. I dont play video games like Xbox or do World of Warcraft or go to football matches or watch much TV or use Facebook.

Its very hard for a man to be accepted as part of the schoolgate social scene by other Mums. DW gets invited to coffee/lunch/dinner with other Mums but I dont.

Erm... thats it really.

Trillian - I do like condesplain. Men do it to men.

I have to admit to very rarely knowing if a poster is a man. I tend to assume most are female. I only spot the obvious 'my partner has posted on relationships and is misrepresenting me and it's really like this' type. Who by definition are fuckwits.

yeah, condesplaining - reasonable. Some posters will disagree as it takes the sexual politics out of the equation. But the 'men do it to men' and 'some women do it too' overides that particular pre-occupation, IMO.

ps, why am I here? Parent of a young dd.

Flirting? isn't it all just camp, OTT humour never to be taken seriously? OR am I just too pure of heart and innocent?

in answer to op - have you seen how many men love to moan about mn on twitter - it's quite funny that this site really riles them

Oh right, so you get to decide what overrides sexual politics do you, Pan?

Oh...kay.

yes I do HB. It's my opinion, not yours.(wow!) Is that okay with you?

Mansplaining mansplaining mansplaining

You can't stop me, bwhahahahaha

Well obviously your opinion is worth more than mine Pan. Automatically, as you know.

Nope. You need a specific word for it. We have specific words for loads of other things, why not mansplaining?

I probably would never use it. I would just say patronising twat, but no-one can just decide it shouldn't be acknowledged as a real thing.

Btw, how can you have flirting on an internet forum?
I mean every single person on here could be a 98 year oldhairy hermaphrodite for all we know.

I know I am.

Now you're just being childish, BoF.

and I wouldn't even want to BoF, if it makes you happy.

This is the internet form of table tennis isn't it. No hearts or even minds being changed here.

Anyone wish to return to the OP at all?

no it isn't HB - as you very well know.

NR - I have been flirting with you forthe past 2 days. You just haven't noticed! I am waaaaay too subtle.

LOL

But in RL, you know perfectly well that that is many men's assumption, without even being aware that that is their assumption. And of course, many women's as well.

yes but not assumptions I make, so I'd thank you for not practicing that particular generalisation on me?

oh sure Lenin, and I have read that a gazillion times. But one prob. is that if the dark day ever came when it is part of our vocab. it will be interpreted as 'it's what men do', or worse 'its wot all men do' - you see that sort of stuff one here - "why do men..." That sort of thing.