to be annoyed that my Mum refuses to choose a Grandma name?

[Mirabelle77]

My ds has grandma and grandad on dh side and then my mums name and grandad seems wrong! She thinks being a grandma means she is old etc etc she is only 58 , I'm 33 not 16 so it's not like being a grandmother is a shock .

What does your ds call her or is e too young? Let your ds pick what he wants to call her e.g. grandma, nanna etc and your mum will just have to lump it

Perhaps you could choose a name for her maybe she would accept eg Granny Pam[or whatever her name is]

Or how about Mumsmum?

well, then you will just have to refer to her as Granny. If she doesn't like it, she has to give an alternative you can tell your DC to call her.

Do you call her Mum or by her first name?

Just choose one for her.

Nana? Granny? Grandmama?

She's a grandmother, short of putting your ds back in there's not much she can do about it.

I know a few women who refuse to be called granny/grandma as they think its for older women they are known as nana.

My mum didn't fancy Grandma/Granny at all, she's only 54. She is nanny which is great as my 10mo DD can say it to her already, which she loves.

She refuses all versions! Ds is only 3 months so be a while before he chooses a name. I call her mum. I don't want to say to ds go to Mum for a cuddle as I am mum so I have to say her name seems weird.

YA SO NOT BU!

It's not about her and if beig a grandmother makes her feel old. It's about your ds being able to call his Grandma something special and not just her name! It's quite pathetic of her to try and hold onto her youth (at 58?!) in this way.

I would just use a name you like ie Granny, Nanny, Nana, Grandy(?!) and if she get's irked tell her she has 24 hours to decided on an appropriate name for her grandson to call her or you willcotinue with the name chosen

Very silly lady to do this. Does this mean she won't want 'Hapy Birthday Grandma' cards and all the other 'Grandma' stuff in years to come whcih most grandma's love receiving?!

I've got one! Ninny! Call her Ninny as she is being a Ninny about it butit kind of couds like an endearment

I was 42 when I became a granny and very proud to be called Granny.

OFGS what a silly woman

My Grandma was 50 when she became a Grandma. My mum was 43. I think a 58 year old needs to let it go

I call my grandma by her first name - not sure why, but all her grandchildren do (and I'm the youngest so was established before I was born). Some people might find it strange but to your DC "Pam" or whatever she's called will just become synonymous with "gran" anyway.

Like the "Granny Pam" idea.

Nothing wrong with wanting to be called by your name. Child will probably mangle name and she will end up being nicknamed after this mangling anyway!

i too was 42 when became nanny i adore it.I am pg now and think its really funny when he runs behind me shouting "nana* as i waddle down the aisle in sainsburys,we cause quite a stir.

My lovely, youthful mother is known as Nana Mac (short for McConnell) to my DD.

My children call me by my first name. They have done since being home educated it's quite common in the home ed crowd it seems to me.

I don't ind whether they call me mom/mother/Julie

I have two step grandchildren already and for complicated reasons, they don't call me and DH Granny and Grandad, we are called by our names.
Which is just as well because I DO mind about the names Grandma/Granny/Nan/Nanny/Nanna

I won't answer to any of them. My name is Julie. That won't change when my birth children have children.

HATE those names! I'm 52 now and can't imagine that will change when I am 62/72/82 but my children know that (and tease me about it!)

But Grandma Julie? Nope No way I am afraid. Each to their own but it ain't gonna happen here.

My mum was 49y when she became a grandparent. She relished the role and immediately became nana, proud of the fact she had a grandchild and wanting others to know it too. Her age was totally irrelevant.

My DD has two sets of grandparents - both nana and grandad.

Julie - I think you're weird. And the way I've had it explained to me by ds2 is that "everyone in the world can call you 2blessed, but only me and ds1 can call you mum". That makes me feel special. And I can only imagine that it will continue if I ever become a grandmother - only that little person will be able to call me that.

My Mum is the same age at she's Grandma, she loves it... DHs Mum is Nain (Pronounced Nine... Welsh for Grandma). I have a friend with this problem and they settled on MeeMoo which I have to say I find rather bizarre.

Oh and the grandad is Pops... MeeMoo and Pops, I wonder if he'll call them that when he's 16? :)

On DP's side we have Nana Dot & Grandad Joe, on my side we have Granny Marion & Grampa Eddie. Then for my gran & pop, we have Granny Great & Grampa Great

Works well for us! I wouldn't allow my child to call her grandparents by first names - too casual i think.

What about Oma for gran and Opa for grandad - it's Dutch and what my ds calls pil.

That's okay 2blessed, I learned from my stepson, when he was little that it doesn't matter what other people think about what I am called, it's whether the chldren think they are important to me and that I love them..........and they do.

My children, step children and step grandchildren have a wonderful relationship and they call me Julie, but introduce me as "This is my Mother/Step Mother/Grandmother Julie"
Heck it works for us.

FWIW my mother used to say that to me too, so I call her Mom because that's what makes her happy. I know just how blessed I am to have her though, whatever she is called.

as I said each to their own.

Elephants...my DDs calls their Granny by her name too! DD1 started it...she was meant to be Grandma bt it didn;t stick. MIL rather likes it as it makes her feel less old.